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Anonymous wrote:You would be a wealthy family in public school. However you want financial aid to put a total of 3 kids in private school instead. How does any of this make sense?

This, what do you consider a modest home. You made life choices, as in house cost and number of children and want a lifestyle above what you can afford. At 300K you should not get aid.

I disagree. We qualify for aid and we get aid. We got aid at every school we applied to and were very forthright with our documents. We selected a modest house to help free up cash for private school. The thing we value the most for our children is their education.

I think there are a lot of sour people on here who are mad that either they didn’t have another child or that they did apply for aid themselves. I don’t know how else to explain all of the bitterness.

Some of us consider you to be a swindler, living beyond your means and asking the school community to pay your bills. You man not realize it, but if you are accepting financial aid you have a responsibility to improve your financial situation and try to get off aid as soon as possible. You shouldn’t expect to be on aid year after year. You should try hard to pay your own bills.

Thank goodness financial aid is kept private. However, you should know that there are people like me at all schools. We walk among you.

We were not planning on applying for our younger two children until the admissions office encouraged us to apply and to apply for aid. Our jobs are in DC and both of us are far enough along in our careers that we’re not going to get massive bumps in pay. We put earnings into college and we do expect to use aid until our children graduate. I spoke very directly about this with the aid office and they said that we would expect to receive the same aid every year. Of course if something did change, we would certainly be direct in our aid forms and at some point not apply.

Don't you feel guilty?

[Anonymous]

We chose not to have a third kid because we couldn’t do that and send our current two to private school. We are full pay. I don’t donate because of families like you- why should you get the third kid that we chose responsibly not to have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We chose not to have a third kid because we couldn’t do that and send our current two to private school. We are full pay. I don’t donate because of families like you- why should you get the third kid that we chose responsibly not to have?

I agree with you. OP seems irresponsible and rather unethical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You would be a wealthy family in public school. However you want financial aid to put a total of 3 kids in private school instead. How does any of this make sense?

This, what do you consider a modest home. You made life choices, as in house cost and number of children and want a lifestyle above what you can afford. At 300K you should not get aid.

I disagree. We qualify for aid and we get aid. We got aid at every school we applied to and were very forthright with our documents. We selected a modest house to help free up cash for private school. The thing we value the most for our children is their education.

I think there are a lot of sour people on here who are mad that either they didn’t have another child or that they did apply for aid themselves. I don’t know how else to explain all of the bitterness.

Some of us consider you to be a swindler, living beyond your means and asking the school community to pay your bills. You man not realize it, but if you are accepting financial aid you have a responsibility to improve your financial situation and try to get off aid as soon as possible. You shouldn’t expect to be on aid year after year. You should try hard to pay your own bills.

Thank goodness financial aid is kept private. However, you should know that there are people like me at all schools. We walk among you.

We were not planning on applying for our younger two children until the admissions office encouraged us to apply and to apply for aid. Our jobs are in DC and both of us are far enough along in our careers that we’re not going to get massive bumps in pay. We put earnings into college and we do expect to use aid until our children graduate. I spoke very directly about this with the aid office and they said that we would expect to receive the same aid every year. Of course if something did change, we would certainly be direct in our aid forms and at some point not apply.

The FA office needs to ensure they can continue to fund you at current levels. However, you definitely should be trying to get off financial aid by increasing your income or altering your finances. You seem to be taking advantage of their generosity by sitting on your butt and doing nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You would be a wealthy family in public school. However you want financial aid to put a total of 3 kids in private school instead. How does any of this make sense?

This, what do you consider a modest home. You made life choices, as in house cost and number of children and want a lifestyle above what you can afford. At 300K you should not get aid.

I disagree. We qualify for aid and we get aid. We got aid at every school we applied to and were very forthright with our documents. We selected a modest house to help free up cash for private school. The thing we value the most for our children is their education.

I think there are a lot of sour people on here who are mad that either they didn’t have another child or that they did apply for aid themselves. I don’t know how else to explain all of the bitterness.

Some of us consider you to be a swindler, living beyond your means and asking the school community to pay your bills. You man not realize it, but if you are accepting financial aid you have a responsibility to improve your financial situation and try to get off aid as soon as possible. You shouldn’t expect to be on aid year after year. You should try hard to pay your own bills.

Thank goodness financial aid is kept private. However, you should know that there are people like me at all schools. We walk among you.

We were not planning on applying for our younger two children until the admissions office encouraged us to apply and to apply for aid. Our jobs are in DC and both of us are far enough along in our careers that we’re not going to get massive bumps in pay. We put earnings into college and we do expect to use aid until our children graduate. I spoke very directly about this with the aid office and they said that we would expect to receive the same aid every year. Of course if something did change, we would certainly be direct in our aid forms and at some point not apply.

Don't you feel guilty?

No. I truly don’t. If I lied on my forms to get more, I would feel and be guilty. I feel that I am working well within how the system is supposed to operate. It seems like people don’t like how financial aid works at their school, which was partly the motivation for my post.

I got the same aid package at three major schools so I feel confident that what’s happening for me is what should be happening. We also spend close to a third of our pretax income on schooling. We are sacrificing a lot to make this happen. I don’t feel any shame in having three children and utilizing systems that are put in place to allow us to go to private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We chose not to have a third kid because we couldn’t do that and send our current two to private school. We are full pay. I don’t donate because of families like you- why should you get the third kid that we chose responsibly not to have?

You just admitted you couldn’t afford a third kid, so pretty sure those missing donations are not by choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose not to have a third kid because we couldn’t do that and send our current two to private school. We are full pay. I don’t donate because of families like you- why should you get the third kid that we chose responsibly not to have?

You just admitted you couldn’t afford a third kid, so pretty sure those missing donations are not by choice.

Neither can OP. OP is funding the third through charity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You would be a wealthy family in public school. However you want financial aid to put a total of 3 kids in private school instead. How does any of this make sense?

This, what do you consider a modest home. You made life choices, as in house cost and number of children and want a lifestyle above what you can afford. At 300K you should not get aid.

I disagree. We qualify for aid and we get aid. We got aid at every school we applied to and were very forthright with our documents. We selected a modest house to help free up cash for private school. The thing we value the most for our children is their education.

I think there are a lot of sour people on here who are mad that either they didn’t have another child or that they did apply for aid themselves. I don’t know how else to explain all of the bitterness.

Some of us consider you to be a swindler, living beyond your means and asking the school community to pay your bills. You man not realize it, but if you are accepting financial aid you have a responsibility to improve your financial situation and try to get off aid as soon as possible. You shouldn’t expect to be on aid year after year. You should try hard to pay your own bills.

Thank goodness financial aid is kept private. However, you should know that there are people like me at all schools. We walk among you.

We were not planning on applying for our younger two children until the admissions office encouraged us to apply and to apply for aid. Our jobs are in DC and both of us are far enough along in our careers that we’re not going to get massive bumps in pay. We put earnings into college and we do expect to use aid until our children graduate. I spoke very directly about this with the aid office and they said that we would expect to receive the same aid every year. Of course if something did change, we would certainly be direct in our aid forms and at some point not apply.

The FA office needs to ensure they can continue to fund you at current levels. However, you definitely should be trying to get off financial aid by increasing your income or altering your finances. You seem to be taking advantage of their generosity by sitting on your butt and doing nothing.

This. You really should feel guilty about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You would be a wealthy family in public school. However you want financial aid to put a total of 3 kids in private school instead. How does any of this make sense?

This, what do you consider a modest home. You made life choices, as in house cost and number of children and want a lifestyle above what you can afford. At 300K you should not get aid.

I disagree. We qualify for aid and we get aid. We got aid at every school we applied to and were very forthright with our documents. We selected a modest house to help free up cash for private school. The thing we value the most for our children is their education.

I think there are a lot of sour people on here who are mad that either they didn’t have another child or that they did apply for aid themselves. I don’t know how else to explain all of the bitterness.

Some of us consider you to be a swindler, living beyond your means and asking the school community to pay your bills. You man not realize it, but if you are accepting financial aid you have a responsibility to improve your financial situation and try to get off aid as soon as possible. You shouldn’t expect to be on aid year after year. You should try hard to pay your own bills.

Thank goodness financial aid is kept private. However, you should know that there are people like me at all schools. We walk among you.

We were not planning on applying for our younger two children until the admissions office encouraged us to apply and to apply for aid. Our jobs are in DC and both of us are far enough along in our careers that we’re not going to get massive bumps in pay. We put earnings into college and we do expect to use aid until our children graduate. I spoke very directly about this with the aid office and they said that we would expect to receive the same aid every year. Of course if something did change, we would certainly be direct in our aid forms and at some point not apply.

Don't you feel guilty?

No. I truly don’t. If I lied on my forms to get more, I would feel and be guilty. I feel that I am working well within how the system is supposed to operate. It seems like people don’t like how financial aid works at their school, which was partly the motivation for my post.

I got the same aid package at three major schools so I feel confident that what’s happening for me is what should be happening. We also spend close to a third of our pretax income on schooling. We are sacrificing a lot to make this happen. I don’t feel any shame in having three children and utilizing systems that are put in place to allow us to go to private school.

Nor should you. This is common at DC independent schools. These people are weird. I’m sure many of them are also “full pay” at parochial schools, as if that counts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose not to have a third kid because we couldn’t do that and send our current two to private school. We are full pay. I don’t donate because of families like you- why should you get the third kid that we chose responsibly not to have?

You just admitted you couldn’t afford a third kid, so pretty sure those missing donations are not by choice.

Neither can OP. OP is funding the third through charity.

Yeah, but OP isn’t claiming they are doing something they aren’t, like withholding donations.

[Anonymous]

For all of you complaining about what OP has openly stated…you all are delusional if you don’t think this happens at every school in the DMV, including the Big 3 and Big 5. You may not like it fine, but take it up with your school. And people don’t feel guilty about it. Schools know what they are doing! They don’t need your approval!

[Anonymous]

Odd comment. We both go to work every single day. If the school doesn’t have a problem with it, why do you? Do you go to a private school and do voice these concerns? Nobody is over here doing their nails and eating bonbons during the day. I’m coming through car line in a beat up minivan from 2015 to take my kids home to what might be the smallest house in the grade. Probably if asked, most people would guess that we are receiving financial aid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all of you complaining about what OP has openly stated…you all are delusional if you don’t think this happens at every school in the DMV, including the Big 3 and Big 5. You may not like it fine, but take it up with your school. And people don’t feel guilty about it. Schools know what they are doing! They don’t need your approval!

OP here. We are at one of those schools. The reason I posted was because I could not believe what I was reading on the other thread. I had no idea that people didn’t know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all of you complaining about what OP has openly stated…you all are delusional if you don’t think this happens at every school in the DMV, including the Big 3 and Big 5. You may not like it fine, but take it up with your school. And people don’t feel guilty about it. Schools know what they are doing! They don’t need your approval!

Half of these people don’t even send their kids to DMV private schools. They are just weird journeymen on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We chose not to have a third kid because we couldn’t do that and send our current two to private school. We are full pay. I don’t donate because of families like you- why should you get the third kid that we chose responsibly not to have?

You just admitted you couldn’t afford a third kid, so pretty sure those missing donations are not by choice.

Neither can OP. OP is funding the third through charity.

Most people I know would be ashamed in this situation.