Help, sleeping arrangements

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Anonymous wrote:MIL obviously gets the guest room with the en suite. Your two teens share a room. SIL and her boyfriend get the other teen room. Adult son of SIL sleeps on the couch.

I don't really see the issue, but maybe I'm used to visiting family who don't live in mansions, or having family visit me and sleep on the couch. It is what it is. It's nice to see family.

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

You're really fixated on the aunt's partner. Put him out in the living room with the adult son then. I stand by my assertion that telling your two teens to share a bedroom for a few nights so that their aunt doesn't have to sleep on the couch or go to a hotel is incredibly normal, and to do otherwise because your kids are too precious to share a bedroom, is ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

You're really fixated on the aunt's partner. Put him out in the living room with the adult son then. I stand by my assertion that telling your two teens to share a bedroom for a few nights so that their aunt doesn't have to sleep on the couch or go to a hotel is incredibly normal, and to do otherwise because your kids are too precious to share a bedroom, is ridiculous.

The aunt was told not to stay and she refused! I mean contemplate that for a minute. It’s rude enough to invite yourself . It’s a whole other level of horribleness to hear the other person say no to your rude request and refuse to accept no. These are trashy relatives.

There is no way in hell that I would displace my kids for a rude entitled jerk!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one guest room with an en-suite bathroom. MIL is visiting and her stay overlaps with sil, her boyfriend and adult son. We have three bedrooms and two bathrooms two kids rooms and one primary bedroom. My kids are teenagers, neither wants to give up their bedroom understandably. DH asked his family to get a hotel room near by, they all flat out said no. Where do these people sleep. I’m tempted to get a hotel room and stay there.

MIL stays with you. SIL and her fam finds a hotel or Airbnb. If there is no way around it, get air mattresses and put them in guest room so they can figure it out on their own.

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I might ask guests if any have an air mattress they could bring? Perhaps that will clue them in to their accommodations.

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Rent an AirBnB for them. This sounds awful.

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

I cant even imagine why this would bother you. You obviously change the sheets before and after. What is happening that would be so traumatizing? What is in your daughters room that a grown man cant be around?

Girls are entitled to their privacy. Having some random man (and thats what a boyfriend is…) their clothes, their personal care items, and in their bed is just gross. These kids have already said they don’t want it, and under no circumstances would I tell them they were wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

You're really fixated on the aunt's partner. Put him out in the living room with the adult son then. I stand by my assertion that telling your two teens to share a bedroom for a few nights so that their aunt doesn't have to sleep on the couch or go to a hotel is incredibly normal, and to do otherwise because your kids are too precious to share a bedroom, is ridiculous.

The aunt was told not to stay and she refused! I mean contemplate that for a minute. It’s rude enough to invite yourself . It’s a whole other level of horribleness to hear the other person say no to your rude request and refuse to accept no. These are trashy relatives.

There is no way in hell that I would displace my kids for a rude entitled jerk!

OK yes, I agree, that was rude if that is verbatim how the conversation went down. But if OP lives in a 4 bedroom house, with 2 teenage kids, it is in no way weird to assume that both a MIL and an aunt can stay in the home without undue drama or hardship on anyone. The aunt's boyfriend and the aunt's child (so..... your kids' cousin??? not exactly a stranger??) can sleep on the couch if the idea of either of these people entering your teen's room is too abhorrent to you. But if my family all planned to get together for Christmas and someone told my aunt "oh you should stay at a hotel because we only have 4 bedrooms and mom is staying in one of them" it isnt all that weird for her to kind of be like- wait isn't there anywhere for me to sleep at the house? We will be fine, won't we?

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

I cant even imagine why this would bother you. You obviously change the sheets before and after. What is happening that would be so traumatizing? What is in your daughters room that a grown man cant be around?

Girls are entitled to their privacy. Having some random man (and thats what a boyfriend is…) their clothes, their personal care items, and in their bed is just gross. These kids have already said they don’t want it, and under no circumstances would I tell them they were wrong.

PUT THE AUNT'S BOYFRIEND ON THE COUCH. Let the aunt and her grown child share the kids room. Surely your teenage daughter can handle the idea of her own aunt and cousin sharing her living space for a few days. If not, good luck when she gets to college.

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

I cant even imagine why this would bother you. You obviously change the sheets before and after. What is happening that would be so traumatizing? What is in your daughters room that a grown man cant be around?

Girls are entitled to their privacy. Having some random man (and thats what a boyfriend is…) their clothes, their personal care items, and in their bed is just gross. These kids have already said they don’t want it, and under no circumstances would I tell them they were wrong.

The OP said they dont want to *share a room*, not that they don't want the SIL's partner sleeping in their bed. There is a big difference. Because the SIL's partner doesn't have to sleep in their bed. He can have the couch or an air mattress. But OP didn't say that was the problem she said her teens *sharing a room for a couple nights* was the problem. Which is what everyone is saying is stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

I cant even imagine why this would bother you. You obviously change the sheets before and after. What is happening that would be so traumatizing? What is in your daughters room that a grown man cant be around?

Girls are entitled to their privacy. Having some random man (and thats what a boyfriend is…) their clothes, their personal care items, and in their bed is just gross. These kids have already said they don’t want it, and under no circumstances would I tell them they were wrong.

PUT THE AUNT'S BOYFRIEND ON THE COUCH. Let the aunt and her grown child share the kids room. Surely your teenage daughter can handle the idea of her own aunt and cousin sharing her living space for a few days. If not, good luck when she gets to college.

No college I know of does involuntary opposite-sex roommates. Let girls have boundaries, or don’t wring your hands when it turns out they don’t have boundaries….

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

I cant even imagine why this would bother you. You obviously change the sheets before and after. What is happening that would be so traumatizing? What is in your daughters room that a grown man cant be around?

Girls are entitled to their privacy. Having some random man (and thats what a boyfriend is…) their clothes, their personal care items, and in their bed is just gross. These kids have already said they don’t want it, and under no circumstances would I tell them they were wrong.

PUT THE AUNT'S BOYFRIEND ON THE COUCH. Let the aunt and her grown child share the kids room. Surely your teenage daughter can handle the idea of her own aunt and cousin sharing her living space for a few days. If not, good luck when she gets to college.

No college I know of does involuntary opposite-sex roommates. Let girls have boundaries, or don’t wring your hands when it turns out they don’t have boundaries….

Fine. Put both the cousin, and the aunt's BF, in the living room on couches or air mattresses. The aunt can sleep in one teen's room, and the teens can share the second teen's room. Surely an adult middle aged to elderly female close relative is an acceptable candidate to set foot in your princess's bedroom for a few nights over the holidays. This surely wouldn't offend your sensibilities. Or is it truly no room at the inn for anyone, lest your teen daughters have to share a room for a few days?

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

I cant even imagine why this would bother you. You obviously change the sheets before and after. What is happening that would be so traumatizing? What is in your daughters room that a grown man cant be around?

Girls are entitled to their privacy. Having some random man (and thats what a boyfriend is…) their clothes, their personal care items, and in their bed is just gross. These kids have already said they don’t want it, and under no circumstances would I tell them they were wrong.

PUT THE AUNT'S BOYFRIEND ON THE COUCH. Let the aunt and her grown child share the kids room. Surely your teenage daughter can handle the idea of her own aunt and cousin sharing her living space for a few days. If not, good luck when she gets to college.

No college I know of does involuntary opposite-sex roommates. Let girls have boundaries, or don’t wring your hands when it turns out they don’t have boundaries….

You missed the part where the cousin is using her room while she sleeps in her sibling's room. She isn't even bunking with her cousin.

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

I cant even imagine why this would bother you. You obviously change the sheets before and after. What is happening that would be so traumatizing? What is in your daughters room that a grown man cant be around?

Girls are entitled to their privacy. Having some random man (and thats what a boyfriend is…) their clothes, their personal care items, and in their bed is just gross. These kids have already said they don’t want it, and under no circumstances would I tell them they were wrong.

The OP said they dont want to *share a room*, not that they don't want the SIL's partner sleeping in their bed. There is a big difference. Because the SIL's partner doesn't have to sleep in their bed. He can have the couch or an air mattress. But OP didn't say that was the problem she said her teens *sharing a room for a couple nights* was the problem. Which is what everyone is saying is stupid.

Plenty of people are saying we don’t make our kids uncomfortable for the holidays so entitled people can avoid getting a hotel.

[Anonymous]

MIL gets a bed with a mattress.

Kids can sleep in the living room on the floor or on an air mattress.