Help, sleeping arrangements

[Anonymous]

Uninvite the boyfriend, then the family can share the one room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That's a fun memory for kids. Grownups sleeping on the floor and sharing a bathroom with six other people-- not so much. We don't have to do it, so we don't. SIL is being very strange. Why would they want this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids sound like spoiled brats. Kick them out of their rooms. Be a good hostess and just stop this.

LOL, nope.

If guests have been asked to stay in a hotel and REFUSED, then simply put a bunch of blankets and pillows and sheets and towels in a corner, and cheerfully tell them that since they insist on all staying here, they can work out the sleeping and bathroom arrangements themselves. Welcome in, the fridge and pantry are stocked, dinner is at 6. Make yourselves comfortable, wherever you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one guest room with an en-suite bathroom. MIL is visiting and her stay overlaps with sil, her boyfriend and adult son. We have three bedrooms and two bathrooms two kids rooms and one primary bedroom. My kids are teenagers, neither wants to give up their bedroom understandably. DH asked his family to get a hotel room near by, they all flat out said no. Where do these people sleep. I’m tempted to get a hotel room and stay there.

They said no? Are they broke, cheap or entitled?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never kick my teenagers (or small kids) out of their own rooms for guests!

Primarily because their rooms are teen rooms and really not suited for guests. I'm very picky about rooms and cleanliness and our guest suite is beautifully appointed and comfortable. I can't provide that with my teens rooms! They'd have to sleep near a weight set for one kid and lots of mannequins and wigs for the cosplay girl.

This is why hotels and air bnbs exist.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think its reasonable to ask people to get a hotel in those circumstances.

But I also think that you are teaching your kids to be spoiled brats by not making them double up in one room together.

[Anonymous]

MIL should get one of the teen bedrooms. Teens should share a room. SIL and her crowd should get hotel rooms.

[Anonymous]

My sister had three kids who each had their own rooms.

She insisted the kids had to each stay in his or her own bedroom.

She made my elderly parents sleep on a pull out couch in the play room that the kids would start playing in around 6am.

And then she complained that my parents did not visit enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

+1

Same, and it was fun and just a thing you do to accommodate guests. Hotels are too expensive for the vast majority of people. Now that we an afford it, we stay in hotels if there is no guest room (most people don't have guest rooms). If family is coming and we can't accommodate them, we pay for and get them a hotel room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MIL should get one of the teen bedrooms. Teens should share a room. SIL and her crowd should get hotel rooms.

Oh wait. I just saw you have a guest bedroom with bath. MIL should get guest room. While MIL is there, SIL et al should stay in hotel. Once MIL leaves, SIL et al gets the guest room.

[Anonymous]

Do not displace your kids! Your ILs are entitled!
Unfortunately mine are similar and we are now no contact because we had a somewhat similar situation that escalated.

Who ever is first gets the guest bedroom, and the other group gets a hotel until guest room is ready. But even without the overlapping, how are you supposed to host 3 adults?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

+1

There has to be just one person on here sockpuppeting all the support about entitled kids and sharing rooms. And how much fun it is to stay in a packed house. Nobody (ok one person) thinks it's fun to sleep on floors and have 8 people waiting to shower while uncle bob is taking a lengthy crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one guest room with an en-suite bathroom. MIL is visiting and her stay overlaps with sil, her boyfriend and adult son. We have three bedrooms and two bathrooms two kids rooms and one primary bedroom. My kids are teenagers, neither wants to give up their bedroom understandably. DH asked his family to get a hotel room near by, they all flat out said no. Where do these people sleep. I’m tempted to get a hotel room and stay there.

When did this conversation occur? If it is recent, I would have zero problems calling the SIL and saying no way. If it was weeks ago, I would kill DH and then take the kids to a hotel room. SIL and weird boyfriend can clean up the body.