Help, sleeping arrangements

[Anonymous]

MIL obviously gets the guest room with the en suite. Your two teens share a room. SIL and her boyfriend get the other teen room. Adult son of SIL sleeps on the couch.

I don't really see the issue, but maybe I'm used to visiting family who don't live in mansions, or having family visit me and sleep on the couch. It is what it is. It's nice to see family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one "refuse" when told to get a hotel room?

"SIL, I'm so sorry we don't have enough beds or space for you to stay at our house. I recommend the Holiday Inn located at xxx. It's nice and clean and is only xx minutes from us."

And then the person says "No, I'm staying at your house anyway even if there are no beds"?? How is this even a conversation?

This is a mystery to me too. I think OP should play it out like a game of chicken. It gets to be 10PM or so on the first night and.... what do they do?

Say Good night cheerfully and go to bed! The guests were told that a hotel works better but insisting on staying at the house can figure out their own bed situation.

You guys are so full of it. You know full well you would never do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH should reach out to them a let them know to bring air mattresses with so they can sleep on the floor in the living room.

This

[Anonymous]

You and your husband shouldn’t host moving forward.

Poor communication between you - spouse - guests
Horrible entitled guests
Home can accommodate

[Anonymous]

Can’t ^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

How did your parents feel about it?

[Anonymous]

The math doesn’t work. Unless you’re asking your teens to share a bed, not just a room, you physically do not have enough beds for all the people in this story and even then someone would be on the couch/floor.

Is SIL MIL’s daughter? Maybe she can share a room with her mom (mattress on the floor of her parent’s room like old times) and boyfriend and adult son can do air mattress on the living room floor? I would not make my kids give up their rooms for this lunacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely ask the kids to give up their rooms or to share so there is another room for visitors. But the visitors may still need an air mattress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MIL obviously gets the guest room with the en suite. Your two teens share a room. SIL and her boyfriend get the other teen room. Adult son of SIL sleeps on the couch.

I don't really see the issue, but maybe I'm used to visiting family who don't live in mansions, or having family visit me and sleep on the couch. It is what it is. It's nice to see family.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

I cant even imagine why this would bother you. You obviously change the sheets before and after. What is happening that would be so traumatizing? What is in your daughters room that a grown man cant be around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Seriously, I'm so glad I grew up in a culture where doing this wasn't even a question. If a relative needed my room I would sleep on a mattress on the floor in my parents' bedroom. I slept on the floor in my bedroom while my grandmother got my bed many times. And this was in a 5 bedroom house. The fondest memories of my childhood were holidays spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and all the cousins piled into one house with extra mattresses thrown everywhere possible.

That’s nice for you but her kids don’t want it so it wouldn’t be a fond memory. And if these are teen girls they should absolutely not be giving up bedrooms for unrelated men, that’s incredibly inappropriate.

They’re sharing a room so their aunt can sleep in a bed. A kid giving up a room for an aunt is completely normal in most families.

If their boys, and they want to, maybe. An unrelated man sleeping in a teenage girls bed? Not in my household.

The girl would be in a different bedroom! This is a weird fixation of yours. Do you think that unrelated men didn't sleep in your hotel room before you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How big are the kid beds? queens or twins?

I would kick out my kids no questions asked and I actually can't imagine my kids thinking grandma should sleep on the floor. I don't give up my master bedroom, but I guess I have a guest room and haven't had to. We got our kids queen beds just for guest overflow.

Exactly this