Help, sleeping arrangements

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing your DH wasn't clear enough, thought he was being polite and said something like, "we're afraid you won't be comfortable here." and, since they prefer your house, they answered back, "it'll be fine."

Instead, DH needed to be more direct."You will not be able to stay here." (no explanation needed, or back and forth discussion)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does one "refuse" when told to get a hotel room?

"SIL, I'm so sorry we don't have enough beds or space for you to stay at our house. I recommend the Holiday Inn located at xxx. It's nice and clean and is only xx minutes from us."

And then the person says "No, I'm staying at your house anyway even if there are no beds"?? How is this even a conversation?

This is a mystery to me too. I think OP should play it out like a game of chicken. It gets to be 10PM or so on the first night and.... what do they do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one "refuse" when told to get a hotel room?

"SIL, I'm so sorry we don't have enough beds or space for you to stay at our house. I recommend the Holiday Inn located at xxx. It's nice and clean and is only xx minutes from us."

And then the person says "No, I'm staying at your house anyway even if there are no beds"?? How is this even a conversation?

This is a mystery to me too. I think OP should play it out like a game of chicken. It gets to be 10PM or so on the first night and.... what do they do?

Say Good night cheerfully and go to bed! The guests were told that a hotel works better but insisting on staying at the house can figure out their own bed situation.

[Anonymous]

How long are the staying?

Do your kids know the adult son? If not, it would’ve weird for them to have a stranger sleep in their bed.

SIL and her boyfriend are adults. While MIL is visiting, the can stay in a hotel. Then when MIL leaves they can take over the guest room. Adult son can stay at the hotel with them or sleep uncomfortably on the couch. If you don’t have a den or anything and he’d be in the middle of the action, then he should also sleep at a hotel. Or if your kids are chill, they can share one of their bedrooms and adult son takes the other bedroom. Or does an air mattress on the floor in one of the rooms, if the kids know him well.

SIL is being weird and cheap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MIL gets the guest room. The other 3 are told they're welcome to sleep on the couch or living room floor but that you'd suggest a hotel.

This. Other people don’t get to tell me how I need to accommodate them in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one guest room with an en-suite bathroom. MIL is visiting and her stay overlaps with sil, her boyfriend and adult son. We have three bedrooms and two bathrooms two kids rooms and one primary bedroom. My kids are teenagers, neither wants to give up their bedroom understandably. DH asked his family to get a hotel room near by, they all flat out said no. Where do these people sleep. I’m tempted to get a hotel room and stay there.

Sorry, this is a bit confusing to me. If this (below stmt.) is an empty bedroom + bathroom give to MIL. Others are told to make arrangements. There is no "ask."

"I have one guest room with an en-suite bathroom"

[Anonymous]

You have to firmly say no. We have a few cheap, rude, no boundary relatives who will attempt to invite themselves to stay, offer your home to others so they can be the gal in charge, barge in, and bulldoze over any attempt the home owner makes to say no! We have one aunt that was relentless. We said no, MIL was in the guest room and we were not hosting everyone overnight. Her response was oh it’s fine, we’ll just have a big slumber party. Kids can camp in the living room. DH tried explaining that no the kids will not be kicked out of their rooms for days into the living room as we were hosting the family party with 50 people. Her response, oh that’s OK I’ll bring a tent and the kids can sleep in the garage. I had to get on the phone and say. We said no. You and others are not allowed to stay over at house. This isn’t a problem for you to solve.

[Anonymous]

Yikes!

Hotel or no visit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids sound like spoiled brats. Kick them out of their rooms. Be a good hostess and just stop this.

I would not do that.

I would accommodate MIL in the guest room and tell SIL and her "boyfriend" that they can shack up somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one guest room with an en-suite bathroom. MIL is visiting and her stay overlaps with sil, her boyfriend and adult son. We have three bedrooms and two bathrooms two kids rooms and one primary bedroom. My kids are teenagers, neither wants to give up their bedroom understandably. DH asked his family to get a hotel room near by, they all flat out said no. Where do these people sleep. I’m tempted to get a hotel room and stay there.

People don't get to say no to me in situations like this. How miserable. Your dh needs to learn how to stand up and be a grown up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids sound like spoiled brats. Kick them out of their rooms. Be a good hostess and just stop this.

Her dh said no. You are expecting them to be doormats. Not all of us want to celebrate the way you do. You are clearly one of "those" relatives.

[Anonymous]

Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH should reach out to them a let them know to bring air mattresses with so they can sleep on the floor in the living room.

+1
You simply don't have beds for all these people. They can sleep on an air mattress or get the hotel like they should.

This. And frankly I would have said so when the second person asked.

“Sorry, Janet, we can’t host you those days as Linda will already be in our guest room. There are x and y hotels nearby but we’d love to have you for dinner, or perhaps you can come another time?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

I see we have the cheap, moocher relative here! Have some dignity and get a hotel room!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, we always had to give up our room/s for family when they visited. This post shows an example of how we as a country are raising spoiled, entitled kids.

Growing up we had lots of visitors and a smallish house, my mother never asked me to give up my bedroom. I have never asked to stay in anyone else’s bedroom (it’s a guest room or hotel for me) I would never dream of sleeping in a teenagers room, it’s one thing of they’ve left for college and don’t live there anymore but if this is the room they sleep in every night no. They are entitled to their own space and privacy.