BF and I can’t get aligned sexually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn’t be having sex with him if you’re not married to him

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

You won’t find this statement to be funny on the day of judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn’t be having sex with him if you’re not married to him

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

You won’t find this statement to be funny on the day of judgement.

Sure. I'm banking on pigs flying first, though.

[Anonymous]

There's a newish thread on a new BF who is quiet during sex.

[Anonymous]

OP back with an update.

I tried giving him more direct instructions during sex tonight, do this, say this, etc. thinking maybe he just didn’t know what to do.

It did not go over well. We had a long discussion, basically he said me asking for what I want during sex is a major turn off for him and makes him lose interest.

I made some other suggestions like we watch some p0rn together to show our likes/dislikes, maybe find a couple books, show him some Reels with things I want to try, etc, and he called those “perversions”.

The weird thing is he still wants to keep dating?! I think it’s pretty clear we’re just not sexually compatible, I don’t know why he’d want to keep seeing each other when we’re both unhappy sexually.

Anyway, I suggested we take a few days apart to think it over. I’m going to break up with him once things cool off (I was really angry at the perv comment, he implied that because I need more spice than silent kissing and missionary, something is wrong with me).

[Anonymous]

OP - I get you. And it’s not your fault he seems to have issues. Asexual men are the thing. I dated a gorgeous professional man 6’3 tall, a firmer athlete etc. He delayed sex cot several months and when it happened he seemed to just want it to be over. I suggested visiting a doctor together and he said he had no interest. He wanted to continue dating and said emotional connection was the most important part of it for him, and that sex was just “bumping uglies”.

I dumped him shortly after. My P…is not ugly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I get you. And it’s not your fault he seems to have issues. Asexual men are the thing. I dated a gorgeous professional man 6’3 tall, a firmer athlete etc. He delayed sex cot several months and when it happened he seemed to just want it to be over. I suggested visiting a doctor together and he said he had no interest. He wanted to continue dating and said emotional connection was the most important part of it for him, and that sex was just “bumping uglies”.

I dumped him shortly after. My P…is not ugly

OP. Thanks. I don’t think he’s asexual, I think he’s just inexperienced and very Christian. So a lot of shame.

Sorry you went through that. I don’t understand straight men who find P ugly. So weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you ask him what he thinks about dirty talk? My husband is into dirty talk. Honestly, it is a huge turn off for me. The moment is literally ruined when he does this and I can’t get myself to orgasm because of it. After years of dealing with this, I finally told him. It caused a huge argument because he is VERY into it and I am not. A hard compromise on it because even when I agreed to do it every now and then it turned him off because he knew I now wasn’t into it. Our sex is now awkward as hell and a lot easier if I just get drunk. Good luck OP

This is so sad. Omg

[Anonymous]

you can't get off without porn. and porn scripts. that;s pathetic. even sadder that you think there's something wrong with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: you can't get off without porn. and porn scripts. that;s pathetic. even sadder that you think there's something wrong with him.

Huh? I rarely watch oorn. I figured for a guy, that would feel less threatening than a book or class since they already watch it.

I don’t need scripts, I just need more than politely kissing in silence.

[Anonymous]

Well you aren't compatible.
I wouldn't want someone who tries to make me talk during sex, make noises just for the sake of turning them on, etc. Find someone more to your liking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP back with an update.

I tried giving him more direct instructions during sex tonight, do this, say this, etc. thinking maybe he just didn’t know what to do.

It did not go over well. We had a long discussion, basically he said me asking for what I want during sex is a major turn off for him and makes him lose interest.

I made some other suggestions like we watch some p0rn together to show our likes/dislikes, maybe find a couple books, show him some Reels with things I want to try, etc, and he called those “perversions”.

The weird thing is he still wants to keep dating?! I think it’s pretty clear we’re just not sexually compatible, I don’t know why he’d want to keep seeing each other when we’re both unhappy sexually.

Anyway, I suggested we take a few days apart to think it over. I’m going to break up with him once things cool off (I was really angry at the perv comment, he implied that because I need more spice than silent kissing and missionary, something is wrong with me).

This was exactly the case with my ex-gf who have low sex drive, only likes missionary style and would not do much in bed and calls herself pillow princess. This wasn't the case when we started dating. No oral giving or receiving from her either and I broke up with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I get you. And it’s not your fault he seems to have issues. Asexual men are the thing. I dated a gorgeous professional man 6’3 tall, a firmer athlete etc. He delayed sex cot several months and when it happened he seemed to just want it to be over. I suggested visiting a doctor together and he said he had no interest. He wanted to continue dating and said emotional connection was the most important part of it for him, and that sex was just “bumping uglies”.

I dumped him shortly after. My P…is not ugly

haha, that is funny. How old was this dude? Unless you are in 50s/60s and having ED issues, I would rarely see any men that would do it. for me, physical touch is one of the ways to feel connected.