BF and I can’t get aligned sexually.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you ask him what he thinks about dirty talk? My husband is into dirty talk. Honestly, it is a huge turn off for me. The moment is literally ruined when he does this and I can’t get myself to orgasm because of it. After years of dealing with this, I finally told him. It caused a huge argument because he is VERY into it and I am not. A hard compromise on it because even when I agreed to do it every now and then it turned him off because he knew I now wasn’t into it. Our sex is now awkward as hell and a lot easier if I just get drunk. Good luck OP

You married someone who you are turned off from?

Did I say I was turned off by him? No. I said I was turned off by dirty talking in bed. That is a small portion of our marriage.

“Our sex is now awkward as hell and a lot easier if I just get drunk.” Yea, seems like a small portion of your marriage.

Op, do you only do drunk sex or easier to do certain things when you are drunk?

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Anonymous wrote:Signing up for online classes?

What?!?

My thoughts, too.

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I wonder if porn has changed behaviors. Porn movies have a lot of talking along with the shrieks and moans.

[Anonymous]

This doesn't sound like a good match.

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I was more experienced than my now DH or I had at least tried more adventurous things. To move him along I just did things to him that I’m quite sure others hadn’t done or hadn’t done well. That just opened him up to pleasing me more and I was happy to tell him what I wanted. Over time we added some toys to the mix and that been fun. I think men can be trained by first letting them experience new kinds of pleasure.

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Second the who cares about older woman/younger man (unless younger knows wants kids.)

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OP. Well, I brought up some stuff I wanted to try and it was a hard no. He said it was too disrespectful to me. And I’m like, yea, that’s the point. Sigh.

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Yes sign him up for those mind reading classes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. Well, I brought up some stuff I wanted to try and it was a hard no. He said it was too disrespectful to me. And I’m like, yea, that’s the point. Sigh.

Did your previous partners have any issues with what you want him to do?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes sign him up for those mind reading classes

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Anonymous wrote:OP. Well, I brought up some stuff I wanted to try and it was a hard no. He said it was too disrespectful to me. And I’m like, yea, that’s the point. Sigh.

He's not into it . Move on

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. Well, I brought up some stuff I wanted to try and it was a hard no. He said it was too disrespectful to me. And I’m like, yea, that’s the point. Sigh.

He's not into it . Move on

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a great guy for 3 months. He’s exactly what I want in every way except we just can’t seem to get aligned sexually.

Part of the issue is I’m older and very experienced, while he’s younger and from what I gather quite inexperienced. I don’t know if he’s uncomfortable with what I want or just shy, but it all feels very vanilla for me. Not that he’s not trying, but even just a bit of dirty talk once in awhile seems like a challenge for him.

Anyone been through this? I adore the guy and want to make it work. I’ve been thinking of signing up for some online classes, although I don’t know if that will just freak him out more.

Date your own age you pedo creep

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Anonymous wrote:OP. Well, I brought up some stuff I wanted to try and it was a hard no. He said it was too disrespectful to me. And I’m like, yea, that’s the point. Sigh.

We’re dying to know what you want to try…

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn’t be having sex with him if you’re not married to him

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA