Putting the kibosh on the fake nail talk?

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Anonymous wrote:Have her do her own nails with polish or with press on nails / nail glue. All of this is less expense and effort than having acrylic nails done. And all can be undone much easily.

Acrylic nails require lots of time and money to maintain. And if you don't continue to maintain, they look awful. This is not for a 14 year old.

It’s not about the expense. It’s about what it says about a person. Those kind of nails on a young teen screams trash, lax parenting, and possibly fast crowd. No thanks.

I actually disagree with this. They are so mainstream now I think the scream "I am a teenage girl and want to be like everyone else."

Most girls who want the fake nails are trying to be popular or impress boys.

I read your comment to my teen and she said boys don’t care about nails and nails don’t make you popular with other girls. According to her, they’re just a personal preference.

Personally, I think having your nails done (not necessarily having fake nails or even very long nails, but manicured, polished nails) is considered by teenage girls to be like an accessory that is a finishing touch when they’re really dressed up. It completes the look.

Teens don’t often realize it but they are always subconsciously trying to fit in. They see other popular girls with nails and then they want them too. How come second graders don’t want nails? Why isn’t it a personal preference then? Because they don’t see their peers with them. They don’t even know long nails exist. The middle schoolers all see the put together cool girls with done up nails, crop tops, Lululemon clothing, Nike Air Max shoes, leggings with socks pulled up and booty shorts and they want to be part of it all.

This. I get why she wants them. It’s still fine to say no to some things, I would. They aren’t unhygienic, expensive and time consuming to maintain (and someone needs to get her to the nail salon and back and wait there) and ruin your nails. I honestly don’t why people let their kids get them at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Have her do her own nails with polish or with press on nails / nail glue. All of this is less expense and effort than having acrylic nails done. And all can be undone much easily.

Acrylic nails require lots of time and money to maintain. And if you don't continue to maintain, they look awful. This is not for a 14 year old.

It’s not about the expense. It’s about what it says about a person. Those kind of nails on a young teen screams trash, lax parenting, and possibly fast crowd. No thanks.

I actually disagree with this. They are so mainstream now I think the scream "I am a teenage girl and want to be like everyone else."

Most girls who want the fake nails are trying to be popular or impress boys.

I read your comment to my teen and she said boys don’t care about nails and nails don’t make you popular with other girls. According to her, they’re just a personal preference.

Personally, I think having your nails done (not necessarily having fake nails or even very long nails, but manicured, polished nails) is considered by teenage girls to be like an accessory that is a finishing touch when they’re really dressed up. It completes the look.

Teens don’t often realize it but they are always subconsciously trying to fit in. They see other popular girls with nails and then they want them too. How come second graders don’t want nails? Why isn’t it a personal preference then? Because they don’t see their peers with them. They don’t even know long nails exist. The middle schoolers all see the put together cool girls with done up nails, crop tops, Lululemon clothing, Nike Air Max shoes, leggings with socks pulled up and booty shorts and they want to be part of it all.

Many do. They had these in the kids section of Toys R Us when it was open. Press ons with little kid designs and characters. My daughter loved them and her two grandmas always bought them for her. They weren’t like the ones I our kids want now but yes, little kids like nails and play makeup or real makeup too. And I don’t wear makeup or ever get my nails done.

Only because the adults push it on them. My daughter never knew any of that existed - we didn’t do play makeup or anything. It’s just not necessary at that age.

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DD wanted nails. We didn’t stop her but we didn’t pay for them. The appeal seemed to wear off pretty fast. She moved on to the press on nails. They’re cheap and look surprisingly real. I don’t think this is the hill to die on.

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I can’t believe no one had said this yet but you need to look into semi cured gel nails. You get the look of having your nails done, you can do them at home, they are non damaging, and very affordable. I usually get two manicures per box and you can wait for a sale on Amazon and get them for 9-10 a box. The gel allergy concern is also alleviated because they come mostly cured. You are never coming into contact with liquid gel.

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Anonymous wrote:DD14 wants fake nails. All of her friends have them. Acrylic nails? I know nothing about them because my job requires me to wear nitrile gloves frequently and I cant keep long nails. When she asked for acrylics I said I’d consider it, but saw how they destroy your nail bed and ultimately told her no. Then a friend told me about gel nails and I (foolishly) told her that was a possibility, but then heard that they can cause allergic reactions and maybe now even cancer? So I told her no, just no, don’t ask again, that’ll be her choice when she’s 18. But now she won’t let me forget that, at one point, I told her she could, and that I’m ruining her life because she’s the only one without nice nails. Also, she has no interest in simply getting a manicure.

Help me shut this down, please. I’ve tried everything and she still argues.

So this girl doesn't have any hobbies that require manual dexterity or play sports or an instrument? That is sad. Sign her up for guitar lessons. That will force her to keep her nails short but give her something "cool" to do.

This is dumb I have a kid who plays and instrument, soccer and rides horses. She likes to get nails for Christmas and occasionally a dance.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe no one had said this yet but you need to look into semi cured gel nails. You get the look of having your nails done, you can do them at home, they are non damaging, and very affordable. I usually get two manicures per box and you can wait for a sale on Amazon and get them for 9-10 a box. The gel allergy concern is also alleviated because they come mostly cured. You are never coming into contact with liquid gel.

My daughter recently discovered these. They look great!

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Do you guys remember when hard candy nail polish and colors other than red and pink became popular when we were younger? I remember some adults being scandalized about it!!

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Anonymous wrote:Have her do her own nails with polish or with press on nails / nail glue. All of this is less expense and effort than having acrylic nails done. And all can be undone much easily.

Acrylic nails require lots of time and money to maintain. And if you don't continue to maintain, they look awful. This is not for a 14 year old.

It’s not about the expense. It’s about what it says about a person. Those kind of nails on a young teen screams trash, lax parenting, and possibly fast crowd. No thanks.

I actually disagree with this. They are so mainstream now I think the scream "I am a teenage girl and want to be like everyone else."

Most girls who want the fake nails are trying to be popular or impress boys.

I read your comment to my teen and she said boys don’t care about nails and nails don’t make you popular with other girls. According to her, they’re just a personal preference.

Personally, I think having your nails done (not necessarily having fake nails or even very long nails, but manicured, polished nails) is considered by teenage girls to be like an accessory that is a finishing touch when they’re really dressed up. It completes the look.

Teens don’t often realize it but they are always subconsciously trying to fit in. They see other popular girls with nails and then they want them too. How come second graders don’t want nails? Why isn’t it a personal preference then? Because they don’t see their peers with them. They don’t even know long nails exist. The middle schoolers all see the put together cool girls with done up nails, crop tops, Lululemon clothing, Nike Air Max shoes, leggings with socks pulled up and booty shorts and they want to be part of it all.

Lots of little girls, second graders and even younger, wear nail polish. Fake nails aren’t really made for fingernails that tiny and most moms wouldn’t be willing to spend the time or money to put fake nails on little kids, but that doesn’t mean second graders wouldn’t like having fake nails. Of course they know long nails exist!

Lol my kindergartener asks weekly if she can get long nails like mine

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Just say it's not appropriate for a 14-year-old. She can get them when she is 18, but hard no for now.

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Teach her how to manicure her own nails.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have her do her own nails with polish or with press on nails / nail glue. All of this is less expense and effort than having acrylic nails done. And all can be undone much easily.

Acrylic nails require lots of time and money to maintain. And if you don't continue to maintain, they look awful. This is not for a 14 year old.

It’s not about the expense. It’s about what it says about a person. Those kind of nails on a young teen screams trash, lax parenting, and possibly fast crowd. No thanks.

I actually disagree with this. They are so mainstream now I think the scream "I am a teenage girl and want to be like everyone else."

Most girls who want the fake nails are trying to be popular or impress boys.

I read your comment to my teen and she said boys don’t care about nails and nails don’t make you popular with other girls. According to her, they’re just a personal preference.

Personally, I think having your nails done (not necessarily having fake nails or even very long nails, but manicured, polished nails) is considered by teenage girls to be like an accessory that is a finishing touch when they’re really dressed up. It completes the look.

Teens don’t often realize it but they are always subconsciously trying to fit in. They see other popular girls with nails and then they want them too. How come second graders don’t want nails? Why isn’t it a personal preference then? Because they don’t see their peers with them. They don’t even know long nails exist. The middle schoolers all see the put together cool girls with done up nails, crop tops, Lululemon clothing, Nike Air Max shoes, leggings with socks pulled up and booty shorts and they want to be part of it all.

Lots of little girls, second graders and even younger, wear nail polish. Fake nails aren’t really made for fingernails that tiny and most moms wouldn’t be willing to spend the time or money to put fake nails on little kids, but that doesn’t mean second graders wouldn’t like having fake nails. Of course they know long nails exist!

Lol my kindergartener asks weekly if she can get long nails like mine

Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:Just say it's not appropriate for a 14-year-old. She can get them when she is 18, but hard no for now.

Except she sees so many other 14 year old with fake nails. So how come it’s appropriate for them but not her?

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Anonymous wrote:All this over nails? Say thanks that you don’t have an actual issue with your kid.

Yes it’s a big deal- those nails are cancer causing. They also make you look like a pea brain.

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Anonymous wrote:Just say it's not appropriate for a 14-year-old. She can get them when she is 18, but hard no for now.

Except she sees so many other 14 year old with fake nails. So how come it’s appropriate for them but not her?

Because they have weak and/or clueless parents

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe no one had said this yet but you need to look into semi cured gel nails. You get the look of having your nails done, you can do them at home, they are non damaging, and very affordable. I usually get two manicures per box and you can wait for a sale on Amazon and get them for 9-10 a box. The gel allergy concern is also alleviated because they come mostly cured. You are never coming into contact with liquid gel.

My daughter recently discovered these. They look great!

+1 I use the semi cured gel strips myself. You need a UV lamp but they are dirt cheap these days. I get mine from Dashing Diva. I think the strips hold up way better than press ons.

I wouldn’t die on this hill though. I’d let her get whatever as long as she paid for it with her own money. It’s just nails - yes the acrylics are rough on your nails and nail beds, but they’ll grow back! I don’t get the moral panic about this honestly. It’s a trend for young people. What looks fun and cute on them would look silly for 40-50 year old women and that’s ok.