What have you realized is not normal?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a teenager before I realized it wasn’t normal to get car sick from reading in the car. No one in my family can read in the car so I thought that applied to everyone. I remember being shocked when a friend pulled out a book during carpool and started reading, I literally didn’t think you could do that.

I get very carsick by reading and so did my sister and parents. Imagine my surprise when it turns out my own child does not! I was setting them up in the backseat with all kinds of stuff that was not books FOR YEARS because I assumed they would also get carsick reading. At some point the kid packed their own book! No issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Relating at all to people on the spectrum. I thought it was normal.

I am not autistic, and if I’m on the spectrum, I am super hf. I just don’t claim it or want to self diagnose (a popular thing to do). I’ve met with therapists in my lifetime that would have suggested testing if they thought so.

But recently I admitted to a group about relating to specific aspects, and no one could say the same. I trust these friends to just say so if it were true. They’re not afraid to say what’s on their mind.

I relate..they don’t. So, maybe I am on the spectrum a tiny bit.

HELLO FRIEND

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Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

So you will stay in your room with the door closed if there’s a fire in your home and not run out to go get your kids?

DP. It's common knowledge re: doors when sleeping and the fire thing. Maybe previous poster didn't know if it until now.
No dingbat, of course you leave if there IS a fire. God, how can you be this ignorant about fire safety?! Do some research!

Check your OCD.

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Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

So you will stay in your room with the door closed if there’s a fire in your home and not run out to go get your kids?

No dingbat, of course you leave if there IS a fire. God, how can you be this ignorant about fire safety?! Do some research!

Check your OCD.

DP. It's common knowledge re: doors when sleeping and the fire thing. Maybe previous poster didn't know if it until now.

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+1. Doors closed when sleeping. I thought everyone knew this.

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Anonymous wrote:+1. Doors closed when sleeping. I thought everyone knew this.

You have answered the thread title question.
-not OP

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I thought everyone counted steps while they walk up or down them?

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Anonymous wrote:I've realized here that people feel fine about discrimination against overweight people. Also that people will swear anyone who doesn't shower 46 times a day is a filthy pig, but they think it's fine to only change bed sheets once a month (I guess because they shower so often?)

In life, I realized not everyone grew up afraid of their parents. And that there are households where parents do a LOT more for their kids than mine did for me and those kids CAN in fact grow up into productive self-sufficient adults.

Your 2nd paragraph: I realized this as an adult too. I also had a lot of belief systems from my childhood that I realized were super dysfunctional as an adult. Like I thought that to be considered a good person, you had to be willing to sacrifice your own happiness and comfort for others. Like any others, not even just people who were in need. I thought it was my job to be uncomfortable, tired, overworked, stressed, hungry, etc., to make my family, friends, bosses, colleagues, neighbors even just a little more comfortable. I was probably 35 before I understood how messed up that was.

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Anonymous wrote:I will give an example. I eat three meals a day. Breakfast, a decent sized lunch, smaller dinner. I traveled with a friend recently who only eats two meals a day. Dinner only sometimes. Does the average American not eat three meals a day anymore?

I always thought every family who can afford fruits, eats all sort of fruits. It turned out a big percentage doesn't and ones who do, usually only eat basic fruits like banana, apple, watermelon etc.

When I met my future H and we started living together I introduced buying fruits on the regular and I only learned maybe a year later that they never did it in his family.

I thought it was normal to say “fruit” as a plural not “fruits”! And also my family eats a lot of fruit and I didn’t know that was unusual. In our house right now we have at least strawberries, raspberries, blackberries, apples, mango, passionfruit, grapefruit, peaches, plums, pineapple and grapes.

Fruit is plural. I eat 3 meals a day, very rarely do I eat dessert. I have no idea what “basic” fruit is.

It's not plural. It's a collective noun. Look it up if you are not familiar with the parts of speech.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought everyone counted steps while they walk up or down them?

They don't? What?!

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Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

So you will stay in your room with the door closed if there’s a fire in your home and not run out to go get your kids?

No, the idea is that you don’t die in your sleep of smoke inhalation and have a chance of saving your kids and yourself.

(And separately, some gd privacy from in laws.)

See, we have these things called smoke detectors.

I’m as big of a fire safety nerd as they come but to me the weirder thing here is the in laws having an expectation that guests keep their doors open (while sleeping but also while unwinding at the end of the evening, etc.)

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Anonymous wrote:I thought everyone counted steps while they walk up or down them?

They don't? What?!

No, we do not. Sorry. What if you're walking up/down steps while in conversation with someone else about numbers? How do you keep all the numbers straight?

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I was shocked to learn people think it’s normal to have security cameras on all the time inside their house, while they (and any guests) are there.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought everyone counted steps while they walk up or down them?

They don't? What?!

No, we do not. Sorry. What if you're walking up/down steps while in conversation with someone else about numbers? How do you keep all the numbers straight?

Really, how often is that?

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Anonymous wrote:I thought everyone counted steps while they walk up or down them?

They don't? What?!

No, we do not. Sorry. What if you're walking up/down steps while in conversation with someone else about numbers? How do you keep all the numbers straight?

Really, how often is that?

If you work in accounting, medicine, law and you're discussing hours or bankruptcy or foreclosure, lots of times.