What have you realized is not normal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

? I am not sleeping with the bedroom door closed. I'd feel suffocated. We have small rooms. We have a smoke alarm. That'll have to do.

[Anonymous]

I've realized here that people feel fine about discrimination against overweight people. Also that people will swear anyone who doesn't shower 46 times a day is a filthy pig, but they think it's fine to only change bed sheets once a month (I guess because they shower so often?)

In life, I realized not everyone grew up afraid of their parents. And that there are households where parents do a LOT more for their kids than mine did for me and those kids CAN in fact grow up into productive self-sufficient adults.

[Anonymous]

Taking a baby out in a stroller to get fresh air. I thought it was something everyone does plus the baby sleeps better. Apparently some babies don’t even have a stroller beyond a car seat frame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will give an example. I eat three meals a day. Breakfast, a decent sized lunch, smaller dinner. I traveled with a friend recently who only eats two meals a day. Dinner only sometimes. Does the average American not eat three meals a day anymore?

I remember thinking it was weird and worrying that my dad only eats two meals a day (usually a hearty breakfast or lunch, but not both). Then I stopped eating breakfast as part of a diet, since it was probably my least nutritious meal, and I haven't added it back in at maintenance most days. What can I say? Getting old sucks. Having a desk job doesn't burn much energy.

I still feed my kids breakfast, of course, and they always ask for multiple servings - so the "average" person in my house does eat three meals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not enjoying violent films/ TV shows/ computer games.

We went to a movie recently that was very highly rated on Rotten Tomatoes and billed as a comedy. The many trailers leading up to it were nauseating to DH and me: The movie itself was so violent that we had to walk out.

Seems as though gratuitous violence is the norm.

Omg, yes, this.

[Anonymous]

I was a teenager before I realized it wasn’t normal to get car sick from reading in the car. No one in my family can read in the car so I thought that applied to everyone. I remember being shocked when a friend pulled out a book during carpool and started reading, I literally didn’t think you could do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

So you will stay in your room with the door closed if there’s a fire in your home and not run out to go get your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will give an example. I eat three meals a day. Breakfast, a decent sized lunch, smaller dinner. I traveled with a friend recently who only eats two meals a day. Dinner only sometimes. Does the average American not eat three meals a day anymore?

I always thought every family who can afford fruits, eats all sort of fruits. It turned out a big percentage doesn't and ones who do, usually only eat basic fruits like banana, apple, watermelon etc.

When I met my future H and we started living together I introduced buying fruits on the regular and I only learned maybe a year later that they never did it in his family.

I thought it was normal to say “fruit” as a plural not “fruits”! And also my family eats a lot of fruit and I didn’t know that was unusual. In our house right now we have at least strawberries, raspberries, blackberries, apples, mango, passionfruit, grapefruit, peaches, plums, pineapple and grapes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

So you will stay in your room with the door closed if there’s a fire in your home and not run out to go get your kids?

No dingbat, of course you leave if there IS a fire. God, how can you be this ignorant about fire safety?! Do some research!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

So you will stay in your room with the door closed if there’s a fire in your home and not run out to go get your kids?

No dingbat, of course you leave if there IS a fire. God, how can you be this ignorant about fire safety?! Do some research!

Calm down. You're a little too emotional about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

So you will stay in your room with the door closed if there’s a fire in your home and not run out to go get your kids?

No, the idea is that you don’t die in your sleep of smoke inhalation and have a chance of saving your kids and yourself.

(And separately, some gd privacy from in laws.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've realized here that people feel fine about discrimination against overweight people. Also that people will swear anyone who doesn't shower 46 times a day is a filthy pig, but they think it's fine to only change bed sheets once a month (I guess because they shower so often?)

In life, I realized not everyone grew up afraid of their parents. And that there are households where parents do a LOT more for their kids than mine did for me and those kids CAN in fact grow up into productive self-sufficient adults.

Oh my. Take good care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will give an example. I eat three meals a day. Breakfast, a decent sized lunch, smaller dinner. I traveled with a friend recently who only eats two meals a day. Dinner only sometimes. Does the average American not eat three meals a day anymore?

I always thought every family who can afford fruits, eats all sort of fruits. It turned out a big percentage doesn't and ones who do, usually only eat basic fruits like banana, apple, watermelon etc.

When I met my future H and we started living together I introduced buying fruits on the regular and I only learned maybe a year later that they never did it in his family.

I thought it was normal to say “fruit” as a plural not “fruits”! And also my family eats a lot of fruit and I didn’t know that was unusual. In our house right now we have at least strawberries, raspberries, blackberries, apples, mango, passionfruit, grapefruit, peaches, plums, pineapple and grapes.

Fruit is plural. I eat 3 meals a day, very rarely do I eat dessert. I have no idea what “basic” fruit is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

So you will stay in your room with the door closed if there’s a fire in your home and not run out to go get your kids?

No, the idea is that you don’t die in your sleep of smoke inhalation and have a chance of saving your kids and yourself.

(And separately, some gd privacy from in laws.)

See, we have these things called smoke detectors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned that a friend’s in-laws expect to keep/sleep with the bedroom doors wide open on visits to grandparents. Kids, adults-everyone. That’s not normal!

That's also a huge fire hazard. When asleep, bedroom doors should be closed.

So you will stay in your room with the door closed if there’s a fire in your home and not run out to go get your kids?

No dingbat, of course you leave if there IS a fire. God, how can you be this ignorant about fire safety?! Do some research!

Check your OCD.