What have you realized is not normal?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just love a top sheet! I tuck it in super tight and then my sheets are always smooth. I can pull it up right to my face. I wash it weekly. My quilt and then comforter go on top of the top sheet. I don't pull them up as high. Sometimes the comforter is just folded at my feet.

I can't stand duvets in Europe. I pull the duvet up and then my feet stick out. Or more usually, I'm hot and can't regulate. I'm either hot under the duvet or cold with no cover. In the US I just sleep with a top sheet if I'm hot. Duvet also gets all wonky and falls all over the place because they aren't long enough to tuck in.

I totally agree. First time sleeping in a place in Europe with no top sheet I called it in as a problem. Sorry to bother you, but the bed is missing a sheet.

lol I can only imagine the face of the hotel person lol lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just love a top sheet! I tuck it in super tight and then my sheets are always smooth. I can pull it up right to my face. I wash it weekly. My quilt and then comforter go on top of the top sheet. I don't pull them up as high. Sometimes the comforter is just folded at my feet.

I can't stand duvets in Europe. I pull the duvet up and then my feet stick out. Or more usually, I'm hot and can't regulate. I'm either hot under the duvet or cold with no cover. In the US I just sleep with a top sheet if I'm hot. Duvet also gets all wonky and falls all over the place because they aren't long enough to tuck in.

Thank you for solving the mystery for me. I am European, and I couldn’t understand why Americans like the top sheets and why the hell the sheets are tucked in the hotels - what am I supposed to do with them? For me it’s duvets with covers only.

Americans can’t keep a blanket on unless it’s somehow attached to the bed. It’s like little kids, they always squirm out from under the blanket until they learn how to stay under it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve realized most of my friends I’ve made in this area (the DMG) through political organizing all suffer from mental illness.

I used to think they were all just passionate women, dedicated to progressive causes. But now I see they are in reality, quite unbalanced and really kinda obsessed, in really unhealthy ways. It makes me miss the normal people back home in the red state where I grew up.

Same. I live in a super liberal area and while my friends are lovely, they are all anxious and depressed and struggling mightily with the state of the country and the world. When I go visit my family in a red state, everyone is business as usual and doesn’t really seem to get upset or passionate or upset about politics.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve realized most of my friends I’ve made in this area (the DMG) through political organizing all suffer from mental illness.

I used to think they were all just passionate women, dedicated to progressive causes. But now I see they are in reality, quite unbalanced and really kinda obsessed, in really unhealthy ways. It makes me miss the normal people back home in the red state where I grew up.

Same. I live in a super liberal area and while my friends are lovely, they are all anxious and depressed and struggling mightily with the state of the country and the world. When I go visit my family in a red state, everyone is business as usual and doesn’t really seem to get upset or passionate or upset about politics.

It makes sense that people inclined to empathy get anxious and sad when others are being harmed. Calling people who can look the other way "normal" is an odd take. Maybe just "disengaged"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve realized most of my friends I’ve made in this area (the DMG) through political organizing all suffer from mental illness.

I used to think they were all just passionate women, dedicated to progressive causes. But now I see they are in reality, quite unbalanced and really kinda obsessed, in really unhealthy ways. It makes me miss the normal people back home in the red state where I grew up.

Same. I live in a super liberal area and while my friends are lovely, they are all anxious and depressed and struggling mightily with the state of the country and the world. When I go visit my family in a red state, everyone is business as usual and doesn’t really seem to get upset or passionate or upset about politics.

It makes sense that people inclined to empathy get anxious and sad when others are being harmed. Calling people who can look the other way "normal" is an odd take. Maybe just "disengaged"?

Lots of us feel empathy, but we also feel that much of your “compassion” is either misdirected or actively hurting those who you believe you are helping. Please stop feeling that you are a superior human being because you are a Democrat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve realized most of my friends I’ve made in this area (the DMG) through political organizing all suffer from mental illness.

I used to think they were all just passionate women, dedicated to progressive causes. But now I see they are in reality, quite unbalanced and really kinda obsessed, in really unhealthy ways. It makes me miss the normal people back home in the red state where I grew up.

Same. I live in a super liberal area and while my friends are lovely, they are all anxious and depressed and struggling mightily with the state of the country and the world. When I go visit my family in a red state, everyone is business as usual and doesn’t really seem to get upset or passionate or upset about politics.

It makes sense that people inclined to empathy get anxious and sad when others are being harmed. Calling people who can look the other way "normal" is an odd take. Maybe just "disengaged"?

Lots of us feel empathy, but we also feel that much of your “compassion” is either misdirected or actively hurting those who you believe you are helping. Please stop feeling that you are a superior human being because you are a Democrat.

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve realized most of my friends I’ve made in this area (the DMG) through political organizing all suffer from mental illness.

I used to think they were all just passionate women, dedicated to progressive causes. But now I see they are in reality, quite unbalanced and really kinda obsessed, in really unhealthy ways. It makes me miss the normal people back home in the red state where I grew up.

Same. I live in a super liberal area and while my friends are lovely, they are all anxious and depressed and struggling mightily with the state of the country and the world. When I go visit my family in a red state, everyone is business as usual and doesn’t really seem to get upset or passionate or upset about politics.

It makes sense that people inclined to empathy get anxious and sad when others are being harmed. Calling people who can look the other way "normal" is an odd take. Maybe just "disengaged"?

Lots of us feel empathy, but we also feel that much of your “compassion” is either misdirected or actively hurting those who you believe you are helping. Please stop feeling that you are a superior human being because you are a Democrat.

All of this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve realized most of my friends I’ve made in this area (the DMG) through political organizing all suffer from mental illness.

I used to think they were all just passionate women, dedicated to progressive causes. But now I see they are in reality, quite unbalanced and really kinda obsessed, in really unhealthy ways. It makes me miss the normal people back home in the red state where I grew up.

Same. I live in a super liberal area and while my friends are lovely, they are all anxious and depressed and struggling mightily with the state of the country and the world. When I go visit my family in a red state, everyone is business as usual and doesn’t really seem to get upset or passionate or upset about politics.

It makes sense that people inclined to empathy get anxious and sad when others are being harmed. Calling people who can look the other way "normal" is an odd take. Maybe just "disengaged"?

PP here. I didn't mean to make this political. It was just an observation from someone who hangs out with people on very opposite sides of the political spectrum. TBH I don't think either is "normal." I didn't mean to derail the thread!

Let's get back to duvets or the people who don't wash their hands after using the bathroom!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve realized most of my friends I’ve made in this area (the DMG) through political organizing all suffer from mental illness.

I used to think they were all just passionate women, dedicated to progressive causes. But now I see they are in reality, quite unbalanced and really kinda obsessed, in really unhealthy ways. It makes me miss the normal people back home in the red state where I grew up.

Same. I live in a super liberal area and while my friends are lovely, they are all anxious and depressed and struggling mightily with the state of the country and the world. When I go visit my family in a red state, everyone is business as usual and doesn’t really seem to get upset or passionate or upset about politics.

It makes sense that people inclined to empathy get anxious and sad when others are being harmed. Calling people who can look the other way "normal" is an odd take. Maybe just "disengaged"?

Lots of us feel empathy, but we also feel that much of your “compassion” is either misdirected or actively hurting those who you believe you are helping. Please stop feeling that you are a superior human being because you are a Democrat.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a gross one.
My parents didn’t wash their hands after going to the bathroom. My grandma who lived with us did, but was considered weird for it.
Little did I know it was my parents who were weird.

Omg.

Admission: I rarely wash my hands after going to the bathroom.

But I do wash my hands after I've been out shopping, or before I prepare food for my family.

And I'm honestly never sick.

So you realize it's not normal to not wash your hands after using the bathroom?

I think the word you’re looking for is non-sanitary, not “ not normal” because I bet you would be shocked to learn the amount of people that do not regularly wash their hands after going to the bathroom, especially after peeing. I read something once it said the amount of people that do not wash their hands after going to the bathroom at least once a day is over 50%.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a gross one.
My parents didn’t wash their hands after going to the bathroom. My grandma who lived with us did, but was considered weird for it.
Little did I know it was my parents who were weird.

Omg.

Admission: I rarely wash my hands after going to the bathroom.

But I do wash my hands after I've been out shopping, or before I prepare food for my family.

And I'm honestly never sick.

So you realize it's not normal to not wash your hands after using the bathroom?

I think the word you’re looking for is non-sanitary, not “ not normal” because I bet you would be shocked to learn the amount of people that do not regularly wash their hands after going to the bathroom, especially after peeing. I read something once it said the amount of people that do not wash their hands after going to the bathroom at least once a day is over 50%.

I remember reading during Covid about handwashing in general, that just getting people to wash their hands a few times a day (vs. zero) already exponentially gets us ahead as a world population.

Washing hands before food preparation is the next "must do" in terms of specific timing.

Does that ring a bell to anyone? Especially people experienced with public/world health?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a gross one.
My parents didn’t wash their hands after going to the bathroom. My grandma who lived with us did, but was considered weird for it.
Little did I know it was my parents who were weird.

Omg.

Admission: I rarely wash my hands after going to the bathroom.

But I do wash my hands after I've been out shopping, or before I prepare food for my family.

And I'm honestly never sick.

So you realize it's not normal to not wash your hands after using the bathroom?

I think the word you’re looking for is non-sanitary, not “ not normal” because I bet you would be shocked to learn the amount of people that do not regularly wash their hands after going to the bathroom, especially after peeing. I read something once it said the amount of people that do not wash their hands after going to the bathroom at least once a day is over 50%.

I remember reading during Covid about handwashing in general, that just getting people to wash their hands a few times a day (vs. zero) already exponentially gets us ahead as a world population.

Washing hands before food preparation is the next "must do" in terms of specific timing.

Does that ring a bell to anyone? Especially people experienced with public/world health?

It does ring a bell, and I also remember reading something about kids who are so used to using hand sanitizer that They don’t have good handwashing routines. There’s not enough time to let the kids all go to the bathroom an elementary school before lunch so they line them up and give them a hand sanitizer instead.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Apparently not everyone has stories and/or music running non-stop in the background of their brain. Sometimes in the foreground.

Yes, I know I have ADHD. Still, I expected non-ADHD people to have something, some sort of inner adventure happening. But no?

Non ADHD folks have things such as music too. They just aren't admitting it. Who doesn't sing in the shower? Please.

PP you replied to. I never sing in the shower, actually. I meant inside your brain, not spoken out loud, do you have original conversations or entire movie plots going on while you go about your day? Background story means you can still focus on your other stuff, and foreground story means it's taken center stage and you're not being productive.

If by plot you mean "Did I do XYZ", "Is that a stick or snake", "Why did the neighbor put her cans in front of our property line" "Who is moving in to the house they just built" then...yes?!

Ha ha. No, I meant stories you create, complete with characters and plot and episodes/chapters, and final denouement. The characters go on adventures and there's drama and excitement. I suppose other ADHD people may have different types of stories... I was very good at make-believe when I was a kid and playing make-believe with my kids when they were little

I do this. I have a long-running story of these twins who have grown up as I have. They've had a lot of adventures!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I thought everyone counted steps while they walk up or down them?

They don't? What?!

No, we do not. Sorry. What if you're walking up/down steps while in conversation with someone else about numbers? How do you keep all the numbers straight?

Your conversation is in the foreground. The counting is in the background.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up making my bed with a mattress pad, bottom sheet and top sheet. Raised my family the same. Found out that some people only Consider mattress pad when discussing thin college dorm mattresses. And that some people think top sheet is an option.

Top sheet is an abomination. It exists solely to get tangled around your feet in the middle of the night.

It actually serves to keep your comforter clean. If you make your bed every day it shouldn't get that tangled during the night? In any event, you can solve the problem by using a duvet, which is easy to wash, versus a comforter.