Playdate phone basket

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be thrilled too. Kids don’t need electronics while on a play date. Their house their rules.

Eh, if you're going to confiscate things, you should tell the parents beforehand. I would be fine a parent asking the kids to put phones away. Not fine with her taking them.

The phone is put away in the basket.

That’s very different than the kid putting their phone away in their backpack.

If the kid felt uncomfortable and wanted to ask their parent to come pick them up, they would need to go ask creepy mom to use their phone. For a kid who already feels uncomfortable and wants to avoid creepy mom, that could be really hard and extra stressful.

So kids can’t go on play dates until they have their own phones just in case the mom is creepy???

Why are you so insistent on blocking a kid from contacting their parents? THAT is creepy and once I knew that’s what your house is like I would never send my kid back. Just like I would if I heard that you had cameras in the bathrooms “for safety” or any other creepy behavior.

[Anonymous]

I would not be ok with it as there can be abuse or something bad in that home and you want your child to have a way to contact you. Removing an apple watch is silly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be thrilled too. Kids don’t need electronics while on a play date. Their house their rules.

Eh, if you're going to confiscate things, you should tell the parents beforehand. I would be fine a parent asking the kids to put phones away. Not fine with her taking them.

The phone is put away in the basket.

Right, I wouldn't say they are confiscated. It's like keys going in the fishbowl before heavy drinking. The parent is not taking all phones and watches and locking them in an upper cabinet so kids cannot possibly contact their parents in case they are being mistreated. Is this what feels creepy to you? I think the harm of kids being on electronics and social media all the time is way more prevalent than being harmed by going in a group to a trusted friend's mom's houses to play.

You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Even people you think you can trust. I worked for CPS for many years and we even had one social worker investigated for abuse. Sadly, you cannot trust anyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird, but mostly because none of my 10 year old son's friends bring devices to our house. A few that walk over have gizmo type watches. I have no reason to confiscate anything. It would just make me wonder what the mom thought would happen if she didnt.

My son has no devices so im just not able to picture this being a thing that needs action.

Yeah, I think it’s a red flag to confiscate a watch.

Any time an adult tells a child they can’t contact their parents, the adult is the problem. It’s creepy and inappropriate.

If the adult is creepy, why is your kid at their house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not be ok with it as there can be abuse or something bad in that home and you want your child to have a way to contact you. Removing an apple watch is silly.

Y'all are mental. There is nothing wrong or nefarious about this

[Anonymous]

Could be an abuser in the house and they take all lines of communication away . Sick!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird, but mostly because none of my 10 year old son's friends bring devices to our house. A few that walk over have gizmo type watches. I have no reason to confiscate anything. It would just make me wonder what the mom thought would happen if she didnt.

My son has no devices so im just not able to picture this being a thing that needs action.

Yeah, I think it’s a red flag to confiscate a watch.

Any time an adult tells a child they can’t contact their parents, the adult is the problem. It’s creepy and inappropriate.

If the adult is creepy, why is your kid at their house?

We have no idea if the husband is a sex pest

[Anonymous]

I never had a phone on a play date and managed to ask to borrow the home phone if I needed one just fine.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be thrilled. I hope I can be that courageous when my kids get old enough.

Me too. Elementary and middle school kids do not need unsupervised and unrestricted internet used, especially when in groups.

+1

This is a much bigger concern than mommy needing an immediate answer to whether the kid wants pizza or sushi for dinner.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird, but mostly because none of my 10 year old son's friends bring devices to our house. A few that walk over have gizmo type watches. I have no reason to confiscate anything. It would just make me wonder what the mom thought would happen if she didnt.

My son has no devices so im just not able to picture this being a thing that needs action.

Yeah, I think it’s a red flag to confiscate a watch.

Any time an adult tells a child they can’t contact their parents, the adult is the problem. It’s creepy and inappropriate.

If the adult is creepy, why is your kid at their house?

We have no idea if the husband is a sex pest

He could easily snatch the phone away if he wanted to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never had a phone on a play date and managed to ask to borrow the home phone if I needed one just fine.

+1

What do you think kids did 15 years ago on play dates? They could only contact their parents using the house phone. You all are very naive about what your children do and access on the internet. Even if you say your perfect angel never looks up weird videos or sexual content online, their friends certainly might.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird, but mostly because none of my 10 year old son's friends bring devices to our house. A few that walk over have gizmo type watches. I have no reason to confiscate anything. It would just make me wonder what the mom thought would happen if she didnt.

My son has no devices so im just not able to picture this being a thing that needs action.

Yeah, I think it’s a red flag to confiscate a watch.

Any time an adult tells a child they can’t contact their parents, the adult is the problem. It’s creepy and inappropriate.

If the adult is creepy, why is your kid at their house?

Obviously because I didn’t know. My kid would not go back.

And like most creepy adults, they are great at masking in public and wait until they’re behind closed doors to show their true colors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I never had a phone on a play date and managed to ask to borrow the home phone if I needed one just fine.

+1

What do you think kids did 15 years ago on play dates? They could only contact their parents using the house phone. You all are very naive about what your children do and access on the internet. Even if you say your perfect angel never looks up weird videos or sexual content online, their friends certainly might.

Now most houses don’t have a landline. No matter how much you want to convince yourself otherwise, it’s disturbing for an adult to confiscate a child’s only means of communicating with their parent. This is grooming behavior and it’s a red flag.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As long as they could go get it and use it if they need it. Especially if they need something private - like period stuff or are uncomfortable and would like to come home without making a big deal about it.

Also ringer on in case I need to get in touch or at minimum let me know the house rules so we can plan for kid to be temporarily inaccessible. Would need parents info jic.

Just text the parent if you need to get in touch in an emergency. It's ok for the kid to be momentarily inaccessible and allowed to socialize without mom butting in with inane questions.

Interesting. So you think it’s appropriate for the host mom to butt into private communications between a mother and her daughter.

That’s controlling and creepy.

No wonder you need to hold kids hostage and physically prevent them from asking their parents to pick them up early.

I mean what did people ever do before cell phones? I’d go to my friends mom and say “can I call my mom?” Or “could you please ask my mom to come get me?”
It took a little bit of courage if I didn’t know the mom well and that was a GOOD thing for me to have to practice in retrospect. It also meant if I kind of wanted to go home just because I was kind of bored, it didn’t meet the threshold of “I have to go ask her mom if I can leave early” so I’d buck up and try to be creative and have more fun. Also not a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird, but mostly because none of my 10 year old son's friends bring devices to our house. A few that walk over have gizmo type watches. I have no reason to confiscate anything. It would just make me wonder what the mom thought would happen if she didnt.

My son has no devices so im just not able to picture this being a thing that needs action.

Yeah, I think it’s a red flag to confiscate a watch.

Any time an adult tells a child they can’t contact their parents, the adult is the problem. It’s creepy and inappropriate.

If the adult is creepy, why is your kid at their house?

Obviously because I didn’t know. My kid would not go back.

And like most creepy adults, they are great at masking in public and wait until they’re behind closed doors to show their true colors.

How is the phone going to stop this? If someone wanted to do harm they would simply take the phone first. Why not send a knife or gun instead if you're so worried?