Would you be upset if your daycare provider bathed your child without permission?

[Anonymous]

These people presumably clean and wiped your daughter’s genital daily when they change her diaper. I don’t understand the concern over a bath. Unlike OP, I would not be okay with my kid sitting full of mud all day.

[Anonymous]

There are rules about caring for children, including keeping them at a certain level of clean for hygeine purposes. Many states require documentation, which it seems they did. Its is not safe or healthy for your child to be walking around with muddy hair in a room with other toddlers. If this makes you that uncomfortable, I"d suggest other care arrangements.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That doesn't sound appropriate. Did they also wash their clothes? How a child could get that dirty at daycare to warrant a bath?

She has extra clothes at the center. It was from mud outside. They have a little sprinkler and grassy area that I guess got wet and my daughter smeared it all over herself. She does this on occasion with food, paint, dirt, sand and I don’t mind her being and staying dirty.

Yes I bet the daycare providers just love a toddler spreading mud all over. How fun for them to have to clean it all up later!

Then they shouldn’t leave a toddler in the mud….

Have you ever had your kids run through the sprinkler in the backyard?! It often results in mud, depending on the way it is setup and where. Toddlers aren’t exactly controllable to that degree- they can get covered in mud in one swoop before you have a chance to stop them (even if you wanted to stop them).

Yes, my kids have played in the sprinkler in the backyard and we’re easily hosed off after. If the toddler is caked in mud from head to toe than she was probably not closely supervised. It doesn’t seem like a good setup for an at home daycare

[Anonymous]

Diaper changing is dirty work and should be done by caregivers.
Bathing, on the other hand, is intimate and should only be done by parents.

Am I right, OP?

[Anonymous]

Do you bathe your kid daily? Maybe they stuck or were gross and trying to be kind?

[Anonymous]

I think if you don’t want her bathed then you have to be prepared to go pick her up if she gets really dirty. Be it feces or mud, they aren’t going to want her on all the toys/ equipment and around other kids without being cleaned.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think you’re over-reacting. We did not do daycare. We had a nanny. But I hope our nanny would bathe our child if she were noticeably dirty.

If you think there’s actually a predator issue, why are you leaving your child there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Diaper changing is dirty work and should be done by caregivers.
Bathing, on the other hand, is intimate and should only be done by parents.

Am I right, OP?

Lol!

You’re ridiculous, OP.

[Anonymous]

I have 3 kids and when they were toddlers, they often required baths and showers because they were dirty.

My kids were never in a home daycare. I did have a nanny and she bathed my child. If you trust this person to change diapers, bath seems fine. You seem to be grossly overreacting.

My daughter is 8. I would be upset if someone gave my 8yo a bath.🛁

[Anonymous]

I think it means home daycares may not be a good fit for you. My daughter had a blow out at one and they bathed her. We didn’t blink an eye but it’s also okay if that take of intimate childcare is not for you.

[Anonymous]

^that type

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you worried the bath is unsafe or what is the concern exactly?

We went thru a phase with my infant where he was having diaper blowouts on the way to daycare. They would put him into the sink (this is in the infant room in the center) to clean him fully and more comfortably. I was often there for a few mins at the start. So, did not bother me in that setup.

This. If your kid is dirty enough that child care professionals thinks it warrants a bath, which is extra work for them, I would trust their judgment. If I didn’t trust their judgment on a bath, I would worry about leaving my kid in their care more generally.

This.

I also appreciated when they would tidy up DDs hair after nap so she didn’t look insane the rest of the day. Not expected but appreciated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you worried the bath is unsafe or what is the concern exactly?

We went thru a phase with my infant where he was having diaper blowouts on the way to daycare. They would put him into the sink (this is in the infant room in the center) to clean him fully and more comfortably. I was often there for a few mins at the start. So, did not bother me in that setup.

It just feels inappropriate for a care provider to bathe a child. They aren’t a parent.

A bath feels inappropriate but teaching, diapering, toileting, feeding and being with them 40 hours a week is all ok?

It’s an overreaction. Ask them not to bathe her again. And if you don’t trust them to give your child a bath, then it sounds like you need to stay home and care for your kids yourself.

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[Anonymous]

I think we've all been in a parenting situation where it's just best that the kid goes straight into a bath rather than any half measures. I'd be pleased that my daycare went out of their way to do this instead of leave her a mess!

[Anonymous]

For every OP that's upset their muddy kid got a bath, there's another parent that would raise hell to pick up their mud-caked child. Just pull your kid out and get a nanny, OP.

I didn't feel comfortable sending my kid to daycare until she could talk. But at least I knew I am neurotic.