Would you be upset if your daycare provider bathed your child without permission?

[Anonymous]

I really don’t think this is any more invasive than changing a diaper. It’s probably less. My mother did home daycare when I was a baby through elementary school so she could stay home with me. Home daycares are more like family, we are still in contact with all of my mom’s daycare kids and they’re all in their 30s now. When they were muddy she would give them a bath to make them comfortable and keep our home clean.
Our neighbor has a home daycare now and I regularly see them outside in swimsuits playing in the sprinkler/wading pools or inflatable slides, getting grass and mud all over themselves, I am sure she has had to give some of them baths or at least hosed them down. I also see all their swimsuits on drying racks outside so she’s definitely changing their clothes and seeing them unclothed. I feel like this is normal when you are taking care of a toddler.

[Anonymous]

I’m not understanding your concern OP? If you’re entrusting them with the care of your child then you have to do that completely. Nobody is bathing your kid for fun, they’re doing their job above and beyond because your kid needed washed off. I’d say thanks for letting me know and skip bath time tonight. If you don’t like it take her somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

I’d be jazzed. Saved me a step before bedtime. If you want to micromanage then you should stay home with your child.

[Anonymous]

Predators aren’t stopped by clothing, OP. If they are going to molest her, they would either with or without a bath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you worried the bath is unsafe or what is the concern exactly?

We went thru a phase with my infant where he was having diaper blowouts on the way to daycare. They would put him into the sink (this is in the infant room in the center) to clean him fully and more comfortably. I was often there for a few mins at the start. So, did not bother me in that setup.

It just feels inappropriate for a care provider to bathe a child. They aren’t a parent.

That’s ridiculous. People go away and have care providers for extended periods of time. They help with everything including hygiene. Why would a bath be any different than changing clothes and diapers.

[Anonymous]

I understand your concern op.
I would just tell them not to bathe her without your permission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you worried the bath is unsafe or what is the concern exactly?

We went thru a phase with my infant where he was having diaper blowouts on the way to daycare. They would put him into the sink (this is in the infant room in the center) to clean him fully and more comfortably. I was often there for a few mins at the start. So, did not bother me in that setup.

It just feels inappropriate for a care provider to bathe a child. They aren’t a parent.

Then you shouldn’t have your child in daycare. Period.

A bath isn’t any more or less appropriate than a diaper change.

[Anonymous]

Its weird, but if she had the runs/upset stomach or played in mud, a decent person wouldn't send them home filthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you worried the bath is unsafe or what is the concern exactly?

We went thru a phase with my infant where he was having diaper blowouts on the way to daycare. They would put him into the sink (this is in the infant room in the center) to clean him fully and more comfortably. I was often there for a few mins at the start. So, did not bother me in that setup.

It just feels inappropriate for a care provider to bathe a child. They aren’t a parent.

Then you shouldn’t have your child in daycare. Period.

A bath isn’t any more or less appropriate than a diaper change.

Np here. In my opinion it's different. But consenting to one thing doesn't mean you're consenting to everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you worried the bath is unsafe or what is the concern exactly?

We went thru a phase with my infant where he was having diaper blowouts on the way to daycare. They would put him into the sink (this is in the infant room in the center) to clean him fully and more comfortably. I was often there for a few mins at the start. So, did not bother me in that setup.

It just feels inappropriate for a care provider to bathe a child. They aren’t a parent.

Well then parent the child and provide the care then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand your concern op.
I would just tell them not to bathe her without your permission.

Well, if the kid has mud all over their appendages, this means the kid is either going to muck up the room and other kids or will be isolated in a separate room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you worried the bath is unsafe or what is the concern exactly?

We went thru a phase with my infant where he was having diaper blowouts on the way to daycare. They would put him into the sink (this is in the infant room in the center) to clean him fully and more comfortably. I was often there for a few mins at the start. So, did not bother me in that setup.

Same.
We had a month of blowouts with each tooth that bud - it was so awful. I'd have to pack 3-4outfits a day. The daycare also had a large "bathing" sized sink that they cleaned her in.

OP - what exactly is the issue? You don't want your child cleaned? You are worried the same people who change her diapers will abuse her? I'm not understanding you.

[Anonymous]

I was a nanny and I bathed the child I was taking care of numerous occasions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand your concern op.
I would just tell them not to bathe her without your permission.

So, when your child has a blowout and is covered in poop, instead of cleaning them you want the daycare worker to call and ask if it’s okay to bathe the baby? You want your baby to wait around reeking of feeces while they rub the kid down with a million wipes if they can’t get ahold of you? All to appease your anxiety?

That’s a little sadistic towards your own kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you worried the bath is unsafe or what is the concern exactly?

We went thru a phase with my infant where he was having diaper blowouts on the way to daycare. They would put him into the sink (this is in the infant room in the center) to clean him fully and more comfortably. I was often there for a few mins at the start. So, did not bother me in that setup.

It just feels inappropriate for a care provider to bathe a child. They aren’t a parent.

Then you shouldn’t have your child in daycare. Period.

A bath isn’t any more or less appropriate than a diaper change.

Np here. In my opinion it's different. But consenting to one thing doesn't mean you're consenting to everything.

You either consent to daycare workers keeping your baby clean or you don’t. It is that simple.

It’s deranged to think that wiping a naked butt is okay but rinsing a naked butt with water crosses a line.