Would you be upset if your daycare provider bathed your child without permission?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been a Nanny, was for many years.
I am now a parent and have used a Grandma type sitter, a daycare center, and a sahm sitter with kid at the same school as mine.

I would not be ok with an in home daycare bathing my child. I don’t know why I just wouldn’t. It’s not their job to do that. Wash their hands and face and change clothes if need be. I’ll do a bath when I get her home.
I’m with you OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you worried the bath is unsafe or what is the concern exactly?

We went thru a phase with my infant where he was having diaper blowouts on the way to daycare. They would put him into the sink (this is in the infant room in the center) to clean him fully and more comfortably. I was often there for a few mins at the start. So, did not bother me in that setup.

It just feels inappropriate for a care provider to bathe a child. They aren’t a parent.

Then you shouldn’t have your child in daycare. Period.

A bath isn’t any more or less appropriate than a diaper change.

I disagree. Giving a bath is not part of the daily routine. It’s not what daycares do.

[Anonymous]

I have a nanny but she gives my kids baths all the time. I’m confused as to why this is a problem, though if you feel unsettled about it I’d pull her out and go elsewhere. No reason not to trust a mom’s intuition.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That doesn't sound appropriate. Did they also wash their clothes? How a child could get that dirty at daycare to warrant a bath?

She has extra clothes at the center. It was from mud outside. They have a little sprinkler and grassy area that I guess got wet and my daughter smeared it all over herself. She does this on occasion with food, paint, dirt, sand and I don’t mind her being and staying dirty.

Good for you. Perhaps *they* minded her staying dirty and getting mud all over the daycare center?

I think you're nuts. They change her diaper, but you don't want them to bathe her when she's filthy?

That said, you're entitled to ask that they not bathe her anymore. Just be prepared for one of three alternatives - she doesn't get to play in the sprinkler anymore, you are called to pick her up when she gets so dirty that they feel she needs a bath, or they ask you to leave the center. If there is a wait list, I know which one I'd choose.

+1

OP herself said her daughter rubs dirt all over herself. The daycare providers probably didn’t want the dirt to get on every other person and thing.

OP sounds nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That doesn't sound appropriate. Did they also wash their clothes? How a child could get that dirty at daycare to warrant a bath?

She has extra clothes at the center. It was from mud outside. They have a little sprinkler and grassy area that I guess got wet and my daughter smeared it all over herself. She does this on occasion with food, paint, dirt, sand and I don’t mind her being and staying dirty.

Yes I bet the daycare providers just love a toddler spreading mud all over. How fun for them to have to clean it all up later!

[Anonymous]

This thread is insane.

Tell them not to ever bathe your child again, OP. Be really angry and all Karen about it!

I hope they boot you and your precious snowflake, or call you every time she’s dirty and leave her all by herself away from her daycare friends every time she’s covered in mud.

You’re off your rocker.

[Anonymous]

I would be thrilled if my daycare bathed my kids in this scenario TBH.

I trust our daycare providers for diaper changes, potty-training and more - why would a bath be different?

[Anonymous]

I would be very bothered by it.

[Anonymous]

I honestly cannot understand the concern here, assuming this is a young child under age 4-5? (If age was stated, I missed it)

Is this a bodily privacy concern (for lack of better phrasing), safety, or what?

For small children, caregivers obviously need to change diapers, assist in the bathroom and changing clothes etc. So I don’t see how a bath is really any different. And sounds as if the staff is all female.

If the issue is bath safety, I could possibly see that, I guess?

[Anonymous]

If I was your daycare provider and read this here, I'd terminate your contract.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That doesn't sound appropriate. Did they also wash their clothes? How a child could get that dirty at daycare to warrant a bath?

She has extra clothes at the center. It was from mud outside. They have a little sprinkler and grassy area that I guess got wet and my daughter smeared it all over herself. She does this on occasion with food, paint, dirt, sand and I don’t mind her being and staying dirty.

Yes I bet the daycare providers just love a toddler spreading mud all over. How fun for them to have to clean it all up later!

+1

They obviously can’t have mud being dragged all through the house, getting in the rugs, furniture etc. Presumably if it was just her legs/feet they could’ve just hosed her off outside (easier!) but if it was in her hair/face etc a bath would be needed to remove it (unless you want them spraying your kid in the face/head with a cold hose which most would find upsetting).

Also I highly doubt this was a long leisurely bath…they are busy. It was probably quick in and out of a warm bathtub- with maybe a quick hair rinse or wash- just to get the mud off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That doesn't sound appropriate. Did they also wash their clothes? How a child could get that dirty at daycare to warrant a bath?

She has extra clothes at the center. It was from mud outside. They have a little sprinkler and grassy area that I guess got wet and my daughter smeared it all over herself. She does this on occasion with food, paint, dirt, sand and I don’t mind her being and staying dirty.

Yes I bet the daycare providers just love a toddler spreading mud all over. How fun for them to have to clean it all up later!

Then they shouldn’t leave a toddler in the mud….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That doesn't sound appropriate. Did they also wash their clothes? How a child could get that dirty at daycare to warrant a bath?

She has extra clothes at the center. It was from mud outside. They have a little sprinkler and grassy area that I guess got wet and my daughter smeared it all over herself. She does this on occasion with food, paint, dirt, sand and I don’t mind her being and staying dirty.

Yes I bet the daycare providers just love a toddler spreading mud all over. How fun for them to have to clean it all up later!

Then they shouldn’t leave a toddler in the mud….

Have you ever had your kids run through the sprinkler in the backyard?! It often results in mud, depending on the way it is setup and where. Toddlers aren’t exactly controllable to that degree- they can get covered in mud in one swoop before you have a chance to stop them (even if you wanted to stop them).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That doesn't sound appropriate. Did they also wash their clothes? How a child could get that dirty at daycare to warrant a bath?

She has extra clothes at the center. It was from mud outside. They have a little sprinkler and grassy area that I guess got wet and my daughter smeared it all over herself. She does this on occasion with food, paint, dirt, sand and I don’t mind her being and staying dirty.

Maybe they don’t want her getting mud on everything, including the eating and nap surfaces?

[Anonymous]

Whatever your feelings about this, they were extremely transparent about it. That’s a green flag imo, but if it bothers you, by all means say so.