Pre-nup or not?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:SO and I are late 20s. I'm in tech, earn and saved well. Net worth is approaching $1M (no house). SO is in medical residency, has close to no net worth and will likely be in that state (specialization, etc.) for a while. We currently live together, vibe well and talking about marriage. I foot all the bills (except for share of rent which SO's parents pay).

Assuming we get married, once SO starts working, I'll have to take a secondary role - move to where their job would be, be the primary caregiver for any kids, step down on my career track, etc. all of which I'm OK with. At the same time I'm concerned (having see it happen) that if we were to get divorced at some point, I'd end up splitting my net worth prior to marriage and get close to nothing from SO's savings. SO does come from a wealthy family (only child) and is set to inherit a lot more than what I would inherit or save.

Wondering if I should consider a pre-nup.. Would growth on my net worth also be covered by the pre-nup typically? Looking for thoughts from folks who may have gone through a similar situation before.

I don’t see anything special about the above, needing a prenup.

Doctors are in school until age 30, finance and tech people make increasingly good money, both will be high income in ages 30-45.

Sounds like a good team.

Asking for a prenup sounds pretentious and stupid. Keep your previous bank accounts and assets separate if you are so worried about your future options.

Spoken like a poor person.

Protect yourself op. Anyone who balks at this doesn’t understand the big picture.

Spoken like a shortsighted idiot.

This couple will be making $1m a year annual HHI soon. Thats the big picture.

So if OP, with their SAHP plans, don’t want to contributing fiscally to the household now or in the future they should make that announcement and see what happens.

[Anonymous]

definitely get a prenup, your 1M will grow, protect it, you alone earned it; I can't believe some of the responses against the prenuptial agreement, they seem rather ignorant and naive about possibilities that MAY happen, but not necessarily WILL happen, in a marriage.

[Anonymous]

I made DH sign one since I am wealthier.

[Anonymous]

You keep anything you come into the marriage with. That includes $1M today that could grow. Idk why people don’t get that. It’s like everyone wants to feel wealthier and have the cache of a prenup. Weird.