why my husband made this a shitty Father’s Day

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he wanted a day to himself. And he didn’t get a day to himself.

Frankly I think OP should leave him. Then he’ll have a whole life to himself. And wonder when he’s sick and old why no one is there to care for him.

This is a great idea because OP sounds like a psycho controlling beeatch!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Never go to restaurant on Father's Day, Mother's Day, or Valentine's Day. They usually have a limited menu and the food is at its worst because it's all pre-made so they can move people through as quickly as possible. If you feel obligated to plan an outing, pick a different day when it's convenient for everyone.

we weren't we were going to our club which is low key/small

It’s not your day lady, it’s his day. He said I have plans already I don’t want to go to lunch. You did it anyway. No means NO, psycho!

It’s also the son’s first Father’s Day and he and DIL made plan, pipe down MRA troll.

The husband did not agree to lunch, crazy OP needs to do lunch herself with whomever she wants. And learn to take no for an answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with a lot of the comments here. If I’m understanding correctly, your son asked to get together to celebrate his father for Father’s Day and I guess celebrating his own first Father’s Day as well, which is significant in and of itself.

Typically Father’s Day is like Mother’s Day, a family day. And I have to agree with OP that allowing an appointment with the handyman to ruin a family plan would have me infuriated as well - unless there’s a part here I am definitely on the side of the OP. He should have been thankful for his family, wanting to honor him and celebrate.
sounds like he would have had the rest of the day to do as he pleases. no offense, but he does sound like a very difficult unpleasant person to be around.

This is stupid - you don't get to tell people what they should be thankful for. If YOU want people to honor and celebrate you on your day, then fine. I wanted to get a manicure and pedicure, have lunch at a place I love by myself, and then go get a massage for Mother's Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds miserable! What man/father would not want to spend or celebrate this day with his grown son also celebrating his first Fathers Day? That to me, is odd.

He sounds diagnosed for some kind of personality disorder and I am sorry for you. Is he open to seeing a dr about it? If so, that could make for happier less volatile days ahead.

It sounds like he comprised on the later time to have lunch? If he was aware then shame on him for blowing up and acting like that plan was not made.

I have zero patience, I would have jumped in my car met my son and DIL, had a nice lunch somewhere then gone home. If your husband chooses to not partake, no reason why everyone else has to suffer too.

Sorry the day did not go as planned!

Any man could feel that way. Sounds like he wanted the day to be about HIM, which is what he planned.

[Anonymous]

Op, your husband is an a hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here need to clarify a few things-

we were not going to a restaurant but to our club (which is low key)

plans were made a few days ago NOT last minute.

Son wanted to take his dad out for Fathers Day, pretty simple. My husband was well aware of plan and the fact that we changed the time to accommodate the ridiculous handyman's appt I was perfectly happy for him to spend the afternoon doing whatever he wanted. An hour or so with his FAMILY certainly is not asking much.

We were going to lunch for an hour- he would have had the entire day to do as he pleases and we agreed on that. I do wish I had taken many's advice and just gone on my own.

To the person earlier who tried to diagnose my husband, you were not far off. I am looking into that- and am going to encourage him to see a dr. He really needs it- his moods are up and down, extremely unpredictable and frankly hard to live with. You can judge all you want but its not easy living with someone like this.

That's fine that your son wanted to do that. But doesn't your husband get a say?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Never go to restaurant on Father's Day, Mother's Day, or Valentine's Day. They usually have a limited menu and the food is at its worst because it's all pre-made so they can move people through as quickly as possible. If you feel obligated to plan an outing, pick a different day when it's convenient for everyone.

we weren't we were going to our club which is low key/small

It’s not your day lady, it’s his day. He said I have plans already I don’t want to go to lunch. You did it anyway. No means NO, psycho!

It’s also the son’s first Father’s Day and he and DIL made plan, pipe down MRA troll.

Sure, but just because your son is now a father doesn't mean you don't get your own Father's Day. This father, OP's husband, wanted to spend the day alone. Let him!

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Anonymous wrote:Never go to restaurant on Father's Day, Mother's Day, or Valentine's Day. They usually have a limited menu and the food is at its worst because it's all pre-made so they can move people through as quickly as possible. If you feel obligated to plan an outing, pick a different day when it's convenient for everyone.

we weren't we were going to our club which is low key/small

It’s not your day lady, it’s his day. He said I have plans already I don’t want to go to lunch. You did it anyway. No means NO, psycho!

It’s also the son’s first Father’s Day and he and DIL made plan, pipe down MRA troll.

Sure, but just because your son is now a father doesn't mean you don't get your own Father's Day. This father, OP's husband, wanted to spend the day alone. Let him!

Lol we can't let men get what they want on DCUM. We have to treat them like garbage or why even have a husband?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he wanted a day to himself. And he didn’t get a day to himself.

Frankly I think OP should leave him. Then he’ll have a whole life to himself. And wonder when he’s sick and old why no one is there to care for him.

That's right. Always choose the nuclear option.

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OP if you found a handyman who works on Sunday that is also father's day please post his name and number.

[Anonymous]

I think preferring to spend Father’s Day with the handyman as opposed to your child and grandchild is weird. But if that was really what he wanted then you should have gone without him.

Regardless, the yelling in front of the handy man was inappropriate. I feel the worst for the handyman out of all of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He shouldn’t have reacted that strongly.

But you told him that he could have the day to do what he wanted and then ignored/insulted what he wanted. I am sure you can see why that hurt his feelings.

This! He overreacted, but you should have let him “celebrate” the way he wanted and gone to the lunch in your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP if you found a handyman who works on Sunday that is also father's day please post his name and number.

I know one who is single without kids but out of your area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think preferring to spend Father’s Day with the handyman as opposed to your child and grandchild is weird. But if that was really what he wanted then you should have gone without him.

Regardless, the yelling in front of the handy man was inappropriate. I feel the worst for the handyman out of all of you.

Assuming OP isn't making this all up, handymen have seen everything. After all, they are the ones who clean up after all the DIYers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and yes my son became a father 5 months ago with a baby daughter (another great reason to celebrate) and no the handyman is not a father!

How do you know the handyman is not a father.