Did I ask for too much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both your boyfriend and PPs are being ridiculous.

Imagine if your boyfriend complained about work and you replied “that’s between you and HR, don’t talk about that with me”. Stupid.

Part of being human is you want to talk about things with other people - to vent, to verbally process, to get other perspectives.

I would see this as a major red flag and not proceed with the relationship. Although to be petty, I may wait until he complains to be about someone and hit him back with “that’s between you and your mom/boss/whoever”

This is the right answer. It doesn't matter what you were venting about. I don't want to be having sex with someone who isn't a good human with a normal amount of empathy and self-regulation.

[Anonymous]

Dump him, he's a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Good for him. He is not responsible for your mistake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single mom and my boyfriend has no kids. In dating I don’t introduce my kid to anyone. I talk about my kid here and there to my boyfriend. Recently my kid did something super upsetting, and when my boyfriend asked me about my day I told him about it and asked for his thoughts. He was very flippant towards me during the convo, and said “That’s between you and her dad, you are her parents.”

I was hurt. I’m not asking this guy to help me raise my kid. I was being vulnerable by telling him what was really going on with me. It seemed like he was upset that I am a mom. I don’t get why he signed up for dating me in the first place.

Men generally don't want to get involved in situations between a woman and her ex's kids. Nothing good comes of that.

Men in general don't want to date single mothers for that reason and the obvious reason she already ran away from one marriage, so she's not to be trusted too much.

[Anonymous]

I do t think you r asking too much,op. Of o were a single mom, d be even higher standard before letting someone into ,my life.

It’s a red flag. I would my just dump him on that bit I d be caution

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both your boyfriend and PPs are being ridiculous.

Imagine if your boyfriend complained about work and you replied “that’s between you and HR, don’t talk about that with me”. Stupid.

Part of being human is you want to talk about things with other people - to vent, to verbally process, to get other perspectives.

I would see this as a major red flag and not proceed with the relationship. Although to be petty, I may wait until he complains to be about someone and hit him back with “that’s between you and your mom/boss/whoever”

This is the right answer. It doesn't matter what you were venting about. I don't want to be having sex with someone who isn't a good human with a normal amount of empathy and self-regulation.

Agree with above PPs. Plus, the way he said it, unnecessarily harsh boundary. It's like he had already thought "I'll be with her, but I'm not getting involved with her kids." How long will a relationship like that last for you? Take the cue, make your exit.