Men, would you date a woman that dolls herself up?

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Anonymous wrote:Meaning that she gets lash extensions, dyes or bleached her hair, wears pushup bras, works out, May wear colored contact lenses, and bleaches her smile and may have had plastic surgery? Does it matter or no? I ask because women in this forum especially be extra critical of all those things.

You can pretty much make any woman look good that way but how is it any different than woman just getting lucky with pretty genes? Neither can take credit.

That being said, most high maintenance partners (men or women)never do well in long term. Great for short term.

My mom is high-maintenance (and my dad was a high earner), and she still looks beautiful in her seventies, acting young and confident. My parents are approaching their 50th anniversary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Surgery on your face = mental illness

No, it doesn't.

I wouldn't do it, and lots of people with mental illness do it (often more than once). But that doesn't come anywhere near to "surgery on your face = mental illness."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of shallow men out there Ken dolling themselves up so there is a lid for every pot.

Those guys aren't looking for women, lol...

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What? I do all of this except colored contacts and plastic surgery. Pretty normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meaning that she gets lash extensions, dyes or bleached her hair, wears pushup bras, works out, May wear colored contact lenses, and bleaches her smile and may have had plastic surgery? Does it matter or no? I ask because women in this forum especially be extra critical of all those things.

Men should be happy with whatever they can get. If she wants to do all that to herself, it's her body, her choice. You DON'T get a say. Just shut up and be happy she's willing to give you the time of day.

Counterpoint - nope wouldn't have married that kind of woman.

I don't believe you, simply because a lot of women who do lots of things to themselves don't appear as if they've done lots of things. I challenge you to detect a tastefully executed lash extension Many women in certain parts of the world get cosmetic surgery (nose jobs, breast augmentation, etc) when they're young and you'd meet them and never know. So by the time you find out that your significant other does these things or has had certain procedures, you've already bonded over shared values, mutual respect and attraction, a plan for the future, etc. And then you lose that apparent disgust you have for certain beautification procedures.

It's just like when your significant other comes to realize that there are things about you that she might not have approved had she known about them early on. People who have a very rigid set of rules about a potential life partner are more likely to stay single.

I'm PP and I actually totally agree that there's lots of regular maintenance stuff that would fly under my radar. More to the point, I wouldn't judge them either way - but in the spirit of the OP would I MARRY a woman who spent significant time prepping on a daily basis - no.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the age of the woman and whether she works in a high paying professional job where looking pulled together is expected.

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Anonymous wrote:Every guy is different. I have never worn make up on a daily basis, and still don't. 28 years and some months ago, when getting married, I remember going for a trial make up and hair day, and my then fiancee asked me if I was going to look like a tart on our wedding day because I was getting my make up done. I said no, that I was going to get made up to look like I had no make up on.

He didn't understand, but he's not into made-up women. We are both aging, our bodies and skin isn't what it once was, but neither covers it or gets procedures done to look any different than who we are

You fooled me on the ending. I thought, for sure, the moral of the story would be not to marry a man who refers to wedding makeup as looking like a tart.

+1. What an immature little fool.

Some women do wear makeup and look like a crazy colored red tart!

Others wear natural makeup.

Or no makeup.

Then there are the women getting $10000 of plastic surgery once a year and hide out for 4-6 weeks of surgery recovery. Women of pause for sure!

[Anonymous]

More concerned with the poseurs on $550 of Wepbound a month indefinitely, whilst they never work out or watch nutrition or what they eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meaning that she gets lash extensions, dyes or bleached her hair, wears pushup bras, works out, May wear colored contact lenses, and bleaches her smile and may have had plastic surgery? Does it matter or no? I ask because women in this forum especially be extra critical of all those things.

Yes, of course. 90% of women I know fit this category.

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I did not read the entire thread, but did someone just refer to a woman working out, which has so many benefits to the woman's health, and emotional well being as "dolling herself up"?

[Anonymous]

I did not read the entire thread, but did someone just refer to a woman working out, which has so many benefits to the woman's health, and emotional well being as "dolling herself up"?

[Anonymous]

I would shun anyone who used the words “dolls herself up.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to be very natural and now I doll myself up: I get regular mani-pedis, get my brows and lip threaded every two weeks, and do like getting lashes (but don’t consistently). I wear push up bras bc I have DDs and a short waist - these accentuate my waist. I don’t bleach my hair or my teeth. I workout 3-4 times a week.

I think a function of this is getting older - I’m 39 - and you have to do more to maintain a baseline of attractiveness (cue the 40-somethings who say they look stunning no matter what). This is true for both genders!

I don’t understand what people want from women. And I guess that’s the point: you can never win. “Try” and you’re seen as superficial. Don’t try and you’re a genderless hag.

I like looking good so I’ll continue to do these things.

I’m 50. I wasn’t going to talk about attractiveness as you get older I was going to say you should relish in all your natural collagen and not sweat aging right now. Enjoy all you have now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meaning that she gets lash extensions, dyes or bleached her hair, wears pushup bras, works out, May wear colored contact lenses, and bleaches her smile and may have had plastic surgery? Does it matter or no? I ask because women in this forum especially be extra critical of all those things.

Sure. Why not? I love women. And the ones that put extra effort into their appearance certainly get my attention. When I met my fiancee she didn't have any make up on. In fact when I approached her she was annoyed, but I insisted politely. When she downed to our date wow. She was already beautiful without all the makeup and extra. However the effort she put in for our first date was incredible
She was stunning.

Usually as men we don't need to worry about how women look because most worry about that themselves before we do anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to be very natural and now I doll myself up: I get regular mani-pedis, get my brows and lip threaded every two weeks, and do like getting lashes (but don’t consistently). I wear push up bras bc I have DDs and a short waist - these accentuate my waist. I don’t bleach my hair or my teeth. I workout 3-4 times a week.

I think a function of this is getting older - I’m 39 - and you have to do more to maintain a baseline of attractiveness (cue the 40-somethings who say they look stunning no matter what). This is true for both genders!

I don’t understand what people want from women. And I guess that’s the point: you can never win. “Try” and you’re seen as superficial. Don’t try and you’re a genderless hag.

I like looking good so I’ll continue to do these things.

I’m 50. I wasn’t going to talk about attractiveness as you get older I was going to say you should relish in all your natural collagen and not sweat aging right now. Enjoy all you have now.

I am a man and I agree 100%. While I don't put make up on I use lotion everyday..My mother made a homemade African Shea butter lotion that has done wonders to my skin. I also lift heavy weight very very heavy but safely or course 3 times a week. I am 50 and look better than most 50 years of men. I don't look 40 but I look good as a 50 years old.

I also practice mindfulness daily and have sex as much as I can. So yes it takes work as you age.

Couch potatoes are rundown by 40. And it's true for both men and women.