sleepover -- how to explain WHY to my child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let her go and pick her up at 9 or whatever we you are comfortable with. My son has a friend who is a girl and she sleeps over with their friend group. They are 10. No one is getting molested.

Absolutely! They are 10 FFS!

Sorry but "They are 10" means absolutely nothing in terms of "They aren't being molested"

+1. The things I learned in assault prevention training through church about young children are horrific. I've heard of perpetrators (who were themselves victims first) as young as 6.

[Anonymous]

Be honest with her as to why it's a bad idea.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I’m also pissed at the host parents for even issuing the invitation but I assume they feel like it doesn’t hurt to invite, and then people can say yes or no. They don’t see my daughter crying over and over and over about missing out.

Well, there you are out over your skis. The boundaries are: people invite, you get to say no. Your daughter is having a strong reaction to this, but that is not something they are responsible for foreseeing or heading off.

If you have not already talked to your daughter in plain language about sexual abuse, you need to do that.

Given what you have described, the "reason" about sleepovers could be: "It's important to keep your body safe and that includes when you are sleeping, so we do not sleep in the presence of people we don't know extremely well. I don't know these people extremely well, so that is the rule that applies here."

Well, it would make me question the judgment of the parent. I mean, maybe, I would be ok with a single person sleepover with a girl and my son. If they’re best friends, I can monitor, know my son well, etc etc. But I’m not an idiot who is going to put the safety of this girl in the hands of random boys I’m sure I don’t know well enough to trust completely. This would raise a lot of other questions in my mind.

[Anonymous]

A 10-year-old isn’t a moron. You don’t need to get deep into it, just say that boys and girls don’t have sleepovers because it’s not appropriate. I’ll pick you up at 10 pm. Have fun!

I think you are way overthinking this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We just have a blanket no sleepover rule, which my husband insisted on before my kids were even born. I agreed based on experiences I had at sleepovers as a child. We’ve always told them “no sleepovers” just like we’ve always said “no pets”. They protest occasionally but it’s never been that big of a deal.

wow are you lame

Why do you need access to someone elses kids so badly? Creepy