Would you have a first baby at age 50 or 51? Assume a surrogate and $ but not a lot of

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Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married?

This is not me who is doing this. It’s a couple I know. Together 4 years

So, you're inviting gossip and condemnation for someone else rather than asking advice for yourself? You seem nice.

Huh? Get a grip. This is an anon board. My instinct was to be very worried for them, but I’m curious if there are positive stories too. And there are

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married?

This is not me who is doing this. It’s a couple I know. Together 4 years

So they're not married. Oh, that's right, she's 50 and has a younger "partner."

No, I would not encourage this at all. They both sound flighty.

? They’re married but the point is they weren’t married for 4 years but together 4 in total. Eg this isn’t a fly by night relationship

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married?

This is not me who is doing this. It’s a couple I know. Together 4 years

So, you're inviting gossip and condemnation for someone else rather than asking advice for yourself? You seem nice.

Huh? Get a grip. This is an anon board. My instinct was to be very worried for them, but I’m curious if there are positive stories too. And there are

Concern trolling at its finest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married?

This is not me who is doing this. It’s a couple I know. Together 4 years

So, you're inviting gossip and condemnation for someone else rather than asking advice for yourself? You seem nice.

Huh? Get a grip. This is an anon board. My instinct was to be very worried for them, but I’m curious if there are positive stories too. And there are

Concern trolling at its finest.

Nah, just someone trying to sort this out in my head before asking or saying something thoughtless to an old friend. Relax bored lady

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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who adopted in early 50s. Child is adorable, but parents are overwhelmed.
Do it with supports in place. If you cannot afford a nanny/babysitters/childcare think it through very carefully. Small kid energy is relentless.

Op. To repeat for the 10th time, this is not for me but for a couple I know. They are wealthy and have no obligations

To me, the question isn't about money -- it's about whether they'll be good parents. Do they think they will be? If so, then they should have the kid.

Yes, I do

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Maybe? When I hear of 50-year-old new moms, I always think about how sad it was that playwright Wendy Wasserstein died at 55, leaving behind her young daughter (around 6 I think). She was a SMBC though.

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Too old. Sorry. I’m 55 and my DC are 25/22/19. Married 30 years.

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Anonymous wrote:Hell no.

Only someone who hadn't had kids would think this was a remotely good idea.

You're too old. Get over it. Having a baby at that age is pure narcissism.

Acquaintance of mine had first at 48 and second at 50. I think she's nuts. Her DH is younger than she is and has two from a prior marriage--they've been together for going on ten years. I can't fathom why they didn't have them sooner. (And yes, I do know there where no infertility struggles. She froze her eggs they did IVF, they just chose to wait. She told me).

I'm supportive of course, but my kids are much older as am I, so I know what waits for her....and how draining it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is 50? The man or woman?

The woman is 50. She will not carry the child but it is her egg- frozen years ago. And his sperm. He is early 40s.

She might. I know one person at 50 and one at 53 (!!!) who both carried with their own frozen eggs.

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Menopause happens for a reason. Horrible idea.

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No. I had my only child at 45, with the help of a surrogate. I have a very supportive DH but we don’t have family help nearby. We love our child but it definitely is hard on us physically. I can’t imagine being any older at the time of birth.

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I’m in the ‘hell no’ on that one.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I’m sorry, I know you probably really want children, but that is too old. Not fair to the children. You’ve got a roughly 20% chance of dying before your kid is 18.

Op here. Again, not me. Someone I know.

Chill with this. It doesn't matter to us if it's you or someone you know.

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Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married?

This is not me who is doing this. It’s a couple I know. Together 4 years

No, they shouldn't do it.

Bad idea.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I’m sorry, I know you probably really want children, but that is too old. Not fair to the children. You’ve got a roughly 20% chance of dying before your kid is 18.

Op here. Again, not me. Someone I know.

Chill with this. It doesn't matter to us if it's you or someone you know.

Yeah, ok, then quit with the hysterics