Would you have a first baby at age 50 or 51? Assume a surrogate and $ but not a lot of

[Anonymous]

local family support.

[Anonymous]

Yes! If I had no kids yet, I would do it, asap.

[Anonymous]

Yes. If you have a lot of money, you can always buy the support you need.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.

Only someone who hadn't had kids would think this was a remotely good idea.

You're too old. Get over it. Having a baby at that age is pure narcissism.

[Anonymous]

If there is a partner, how old?

My worry would be that I would need help starting when kid is 20. That won’t work.

[Anonymous]

Partner is 43.

Assume plenty of money on both sides to pay for care- both for the child and for adults. Big ideal obviously but there is no shortage of money

[Anonymous]

^ not

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hell no.

Only someone who hadn't had kids would think this was a remotely good idea.

You're too old. Get over it. Having a baby at that age is pure narcissism.

Having a kid at any age is narcissism. People have strong desires to have children. I can’t blame them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. If you have a lot of money, you can always buy the support you need.

Yes, there will be no shortage of money for all sorts of care.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if you can afford to have a child, and if you and your partner both really want a child (this would be the deciding factor for me if I could easily afford to have a child), then go for it! We didn’t have local family help, although I admit that I was in my 30s when I had my kids. If you have the desire and will give the kid tons of love, and are ready for the change in your lifestyle, then best wishes!

[Anonymous]

Is it a young 50 or an old 50?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if you can afford to have a child, and if you and your partner both really want a child (this would be the deciding factor for me if I could easily afford to have a child), then go for it! We didn’t have local family help, although I admit that I was in my 30s when I had my kids. If you have the desire and will give the kid tons of love, and are ready for the change in your lifestyle, then best wishes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it a young 50 or an old 50?

Youngish 50

[Anonymous]

Why not adopt? y friend was adopted at 2.5 yo by her single, then 54 yo mother. She had an excellent upbringing and, of course, is grateful she was spared growing up in an orphans home/ foster homes.