This is not me who is doing this. It’s a couple I know. Together 4 years |
Op here. Not sure where people started assuming this was me posting for myself. This is a couple I know. They don’t want to adopt, probably for all the reasons listed above. Just as most people on here do not adopt |
How is having any child at any age not about narcissism? |
This is what my dh says |
Do you have a bio child or did you adopt? |
My husband and I did it. We adopted a baby when I was 48 (turning 49 later that year) and he had just turned 51. We are in good shape w/o any health issues. We excercise regularly and eat a fairly healthy diet.
We are able to do everything younger parents do with their kids. We don’t feel any different than the parents of our son’s kids. We tried for a long time to have kids and love being parents. We got lucky with out son. |
This is inspiring, I hope it works out for this couple as well |
This makes no sense. Sure, you can adopt but that maybe shaves a few years off the age consideration, and then adds a huge burden of having a kid with special issues. |
Who is 50? The man or woman? |
Do you give this advice to 20- and 30-something’s? If not, why? |
I know someone who adopted in early 50s. Child is adorable, but parents are overwhelmed.
Do it with supports in place. If you cannot afford a nanny/babysitters/childcare think it through very carefully. Small kid energy is relentless. |
Absolutely not. I’m 49 and find two teenagers exhausting. One has been out every single night this Thanksgiving break, meaning we’ve had to wait up until curfew (12:00) to make sure he gets home safely. I can’t imagine doing this at 67!
Will this kid be an only? It would be quite a burden caring for elderly parents (something you have to do no matter how much money is involved) in your 20s, especially alone. |
No. I’m sorry, I know you probably really want children, but that is too old. Not fair to the children. You’ve got a roughly 20% chance of dying before your kid is 18. |
Op. To repeat for the 10th time, this is not for me but for a couple I know. They are wealthy and have no obligations |
Op here. Again, not me. Someone I know. |