Why do men go to routine prenatal appointments?
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Anonymous
People were indicating they had a scan at EVERY appointment not every appointment during the third trimester. Very different. I don’t use TikTok and barely read your post. |
Anonymous
I don't understand your argument. I've had 7 scans and currently 27 weeks pregnant but that's fairly normal with ivf pregnancy as they're higher risk...the scans are not high risk. I refuse xrays at most dental visits but have had at least 100 ultrasounds thanks to iui and ivf... Moral of story people have different pregnancies and therefore may want partner support at their appointments if they're higher risk |
Anonymous
I can see you don't read. I had a scan every week for the length of the entire third trimester. That's one every time I saw my OB, which was once a week in third tri You know, you really should read. You can have more logical posts. |
Anonymous
Also, still no cite? Just your feeeelings |
Anonymous
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Pp who wanted more ultrasounds here. Since there’s actually no real (current) scientific evidence that ultrasounds are harmful, and plenty of ways they can be beneficial to *actually* check on baby instead of a simple Doppler, yes I continue to wonder why they are not default at every appointment.
I didn’t know there were providers that did offer them at every apt - that’s pretty cool! I’ll look for one that does with our next child. Thanks for the tip. |
Anonymous
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My DH came to my first appointment and all ultrasounds (I had extras because I was deemed a high risk pregnancy). I went to the rest alone.
This seems typical. I had an OB near my office and scheduled appointments so I could do them on my lunch hour. DH doesn't work near me so when he came to appointments he'd often have to take a half day off work, whereas I could be back at my desk in 90 minutes, or could schedule an early morning appointment and just get to work 30 minutes late. A lot of my appointments were just blood work or tests that took 15 minutes and I got results online later. I don't know why DH would have come to that other stuff. Seems excessive. When I had a kidney stone that had to be removed he came to none of my appointments but did come to the hospital to drive me home after surgery. Also normal! I'm an adult and can attend a doctor's appointment without a chaperone. |
Anonymous
| i agree that beyond dad wanting to be involved in the pregnancy of his kid, much of this is about if you're expecting things to be routine or worried negative outcome. e.g. i went to my mammogram solo, i went to the follow up ultrasound solo and ended up in tears alone in a depressing small waiting room trying to hold it together... my husband came with me by time of the biopsy despite him just sitting in the waiting room i wanted him for emotional support. at my recent 20 week exam they couldn't see half the necessary things and the tech was bizarrely silent and just kept going over and over the same body parts an saying i need to get the dr but not explaining why-- was beyond thankful to have my husband's hand to hold |
Anonymous
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Husband attended every single appointment for both kids.
Our choice. |
Anonymous
| DH has come with me to 90% of my prenatal appts and I’m always glad to have him there. I schedule them first thing in the AM so they are before the workday starts. Having him there has been so helpful - he helps me remember questions that I / we have as first time parents. He was also there when my OB spoke about warning signs for PPD/PPA and was able to recognize when I started to experience them and encouraged me to tell my OB (I was oblivious!). It’s his baby too and I would never question why a dad would want to me there! |
Anonymous
Were you subjected to excessive ultrasounds? Because that would certainly establish a link between ultrasounds and stupidity. |
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| As someone with recurrent losses and no living children, I hold my breath at every ultrasound. Having my husband there gives me comfort. If he can't come with me, I take a friend. |
Anonymous
| My DH wants to go to all of them and gets very excited. He's the one who goes up to talk to the receptionist to insure that we get an early, early morning spot so he can come with me before work (before 9am). It's his choice, and yes he's been extremely attentive throughout the pregnancy. I recently had to get a big emergency dental procedure as well and was shocked when I showed up at the session and he was there. He's very doting and I will say it's really nice that he's always there to hold my hand |
Anonymous
| The women I know who insisted on that are the same ones who insist on spending the whole weekend together as a family. They will never just bring the kids over for a few hours so they can play while we chat and the DHs can get a break (and give us a break in turn). They have to bring their dullard DH along to bore my DH. |
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Because I've had repeat miscarriages, so every appointment was an delightful opportunity to learn about Lovenox injections, progesterone suppositories, fail to see the heartbeat, agonize over falling HCG numbers, and talk about the 3 options for miscarriages: conservative management, pill, or D&C.
It's only the lucky mothers who don't feel they need their husbands to accompany them. Please don't judge the rest of us. I will always remember the one time he couldn't accompany me and I had to drive for an emergency ultrasound by myself at night, only to hear the fetus was not viable. |
Anonymous
I hope karma gets you. |