Why do men go to routine prenatal appointments?

[Anonymous]

Mine only came to the ultrasound appointments. I don’t know why you need them to come to the others unless you have major conditions being monitored.

[Anonymous]

There’s a real divide between people who assume everything will be fine and people who go to every appointment prepared to hear bad news.

[Anonymous]

Mine came when he could.

We had fertility issues and I had frequent scans. I remember one scan where he couldn't make it. They spotted something that might be troubling. I had to sit in this little waiting room. Just me and a phone for my doctor to call after talking to the technician. Terrifying. Was my baby in trouble, were they going wheel me into the operating room right then. I called DH and he was about to come when we got the call that the OB thought there was no immediate cause for concern.

Everything turned out okay but I have no problem with loved ones coming to doctor's appointments

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it is their baby too.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think it's very sweet and a good sign when the dad wants to come. It's his baby too. He may not be carrying the baby but it's his journey too.

[Anonymous]

Some men are interested in their wife and children, and have the free time to go.

Why do you hate loving families?

[Anonymous]

1) The pregnancy isn't just the mom and it's good for dad to be involved throughout the process. Baby is inside of mom and it's a good way for dad to be involved and closer to pregnancy/baby.

2) We never had an appointment where we didn't have even a minor ultra sound. Even if it's just with the doctor and the ipad/mobile ultra sound we got one at every appointment.

3) Always good for your partner to be by your side no matter what happens. If you're in a loving relationship it makes sense that your partner will be there to comfort you if there's bad news and celebrate with you if there's good news.

4) Pregnancy brain is real. My husband was able to listen and remind me of things before/during/after or ask a question a different way that allowed me and/or the doctor to get on the same page.

5) It was nice to have help, especially later in the pregnancy to drop me off or pick me up as needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some men are interested in their wife and children, and have the free time to go.

Why do you hate loving families?

Yes, that’s definitely it. OP hates loving families. You cracked the case.

[Anonymous]

It protects mom from being abused by the providers. They are like sharks and if they see she is unaccompanied, they are more likely to abuse her. I had midwives blow off a high-risk condition that could have been fatal to the baby. I brought it up multiple times and they were strategically blowing it off. I was written off as an anxious high-maintenance mommy. If my husband were there I doubt they would have done that. I have PTSD now. It was not worth my husband working, I can tell you that.

[Anonymous]

My husband came to most appointments. He works from home and has a lot of free time. I never forced him to go, he always wanted to come. Great! He kept me company because the waits can be long. Did I need him there? No. Was it nice? Yes. Not sure how my husband coming has anything to do with anyone else. These are the same women that complain after giving birth because their husbands do nothing to help with the baby.

[Anonymous]

As someone who was in a waiting room today. Nearly every woman had a partner or friend with them. A few women did not and I just assume they were there for other issues as they did not look visibly pregnant or were too old to be pregnant.

Being without a friend or partner does not seem the norm.

[Anonymous]

1) his baby too; 2) I got really really horrible news at a routine appointment once for one of our kids. Never again am I going alone. I was so shaken I thought I was going to get into a car accident on the way home.

[Anonymous]

Im single and got pregnant via IVF and they would always ask if I had someone with me. The idea of having someone at my OB appointment seemed strange and it would take me a second to remember that it was odd not to have a partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a real divide between people who assume everything will be fine and people who go to every appointment prepared to hear bad news.

Yes. Many people who start as the former end up as the latter as a result of experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never could figure this out. It never made sense for me to have both of us take off work, etc to attend appointments. My husband came to the first appointment and then came to the anatomy scan.

Mine too. I was pregnant with twins so I had more appointments than usual.