Women on this forum lalk about sex a lot

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Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

It’s amazing how many women ignore the husband for years, then expect them to jump when they’re ready in their 40s. Sorry, you couldn’t ,are time for him, its now your turn to feel unwanted.

What healthy view of how relationships should work.

Yes, women shouldn’t ignore their husbands for years. Pretty sure that was PPs point.

You think it’s appropriate to ‘tit for tat’ punish your partner? You think that is healthy and conducive to a good relationship?

You think ignoring the partner for years is healthy?

[Anonymous]

If a man gets rejected by his wife for years and, eventually, makes his peace with it; it's going to take some significant work to rewire his brain to go back to seeing his wife in a sexually positive way.

It's not retaliation. He's learned to protect himself and avoid the misery of rejection and unreciprocated desire.

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Anonymous wrote:If a man gets rejected by his wife for years and, eventually, makes his peace with it; it's going to take some significant work to rewire his brain to go back to seeing his wife in a sexually positive way.

It's not retaliation. He's learned to protect himself and avoid the misery of rejection and unreciprocated desire.

Guy here. I’d agree that its not retaliation. Maybe its built up resentment that doesn’t allow you to see them in a sexual way anymore? Over the years you just learn to turn off that part of yourself when it comes to your wife because you know there’s no chance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If a man gets rejected by his wife for years and, eventually, makes his peace with it; it's going to take some significant work to rewire his brain to go back to seeing his wife in a sexually positive way.

It's not retaliation. He's learned to protect himself and avoid the misery of rejection and unreciprocated desire.

Guy here. I’d agree that its not retaliation. Maybe its built up resentment that doesn’t allow you to see them in a sexual way anymore? Over the years you just learn to turn off that part of yourself when it comes to your wife because you know there’s no chance.

I think this is the case with my DH.
I went through a number of years dealing with depression and just had zero desire for sex.
Now, it seems like we have reversed roles.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

You obviously don’t have a partner who is threatened by toys and/or not enthusiastic enough about their partner’s orgasm to pretend it’s sexy if they do it themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If a man gets rejected by his wife for years and, eventually, makes his peace with it; it's going to take some significant work to rewire his brain to go back to seeing his wife in a sexually positive way.

It's not retaliation. He's learned to protect himself and avoid the misery of rejection and unreciprocated desire.

Guy here. I’d agree that its not retaliation. Maybe its built up resentment that doesn’t allow you to see them in a sexual way anymore? Over the years you just learn to turn off that part of yourself when it comes to your wife because you know there’s no chance.

Woman here and I also agree. It’s similar if a husband had zero interest in his wife emotionally, and then all of a sudden one day after years of neglect decided he wanted to get closer and have an emotionally close relationship. She’s be well within her right to say thanks but no thanks to protect herself.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

You obviously don’t have a partner who is threatened by toys and/or not enthusiastic enough about their partner’s orgasm to pretend it’s sexy if they do it themselves.

How did you end up marrying a guy like that?

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

You obviously don’t have a partner who is threatened by toys and/or not enthusiastic enough about their partner’s orgasm to pretend it’s sexy if they do it themselves.

How did you end up marrying a guy like that?

It is actually pretty common. Women fake Os during courtship and when they are finally older/more comfortable in their sexuality and wants to use a toy to actually climax for a change, many men feel emasculated and threatened.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

You obviously don’t have a partner who is threatened by toys and/or not enthusiastic enough about their partner’s orgasm to pretend it’s sexy if they do it themselves.

How did you end up marrying a guy like that?

It is actually pretty common. Women fake Os during courtship and when they are finally older/more comfortable in their sexuality and wants to use a toy to actually climax for a change, many men feel emasculated and threatened.

I don’t think it’s because women fake it. I think it’s because we’re told women don’t want sex as much, women are more emotional, women don’t O as much, sex is more about connection than pleasure, etc. So when you only O 5-10% of the time with a man, you assume that’s normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

I have asked my wife many times what would really make her “happy” and she never gives an answer other than a non answer. She doesn’t like oral and mostly doesn’t like being touched down there. Massage and rubbing are effective and thankfully so is PIV. I don’t complain because we have sex at least weekly which after 36 years is pretty good and she often initiates. She is very quiet so I rarely know if she has had an O.

TBH this sounds very…assault-y.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

Fascinating how consent has now shifted from affirmative to now it has to be “hell yes” otherwise it’s rape.

Honestly you people are bizarre and you’ve hijacked an entire segment of public dialogue with your drivel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

I have asked my wife many times what would really make her “happy” and she never gives an answer other than a non answer. She doesn’t like oral and mostly doesn’t like being touched down there. Massage and rubbing are effective and thankfully so is PIV. I don’t complain because we have sex at least weekly which after 36 years is pretty good and she often initiates. She is very quiet so I rarely know if she has had an O.

TBH this sounds very…assault-y.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

Fascinating how consent has now shifted from affirmative to now it has to be “hell yes” otherwise it’s rape.

Honestly you people are bizarre and you’ve hijacked an entire segment of public dialogue with your drivel.

DP. Your response is weird - do you have kids, particularly teens? You should advise them that both parties should be a totally enthusiastic “yes.”

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

You obviously don’t have a partner who is threatened by toys and/or not enthusiastic enough about their partner’s orgasm to pretend it’s sexy if they do it themselves.

How did you end up marrying a guy like that?

It is actually pretty common. Women fake Os during courtship and when they are finally older/more comfortable in their sexuality and wants to use a toy to actually climax for a change, many men feel emasculated and threatened.

I don’t think it’s because women fake it. I think it’s because we’re told women don’t want sex as much, women are more emotional, women don’t O as much, sex is more about connection than pleasure, etc. So when you only O 5-10% of the time with a man, you assume that’s normal.

We have come full circle to the poster who noted that women aren’t taking responsibility here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

Are you related to Mary Poppin’s? Seriously. Humans are sexual beings. Are you keeping tally of women discussing sex it seems. What’s the problem with you?