Women on this forum lalk about sex a lot

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because it’s a big part of relationships? How is this a question?

Not the OP I think it's a fair question because a lot us (or at least me) have DHs who seem just happy with being in a sexless marriage. We come here to vent, ask for advice, etc because I don't think the DHs who are not having sex with us realize how much the intimacy through sex is important to us. In my case therapy hasn't had much of an effect. I have tried countless efforts to get him to have sex at least once a month with me. I am 46 and I doubt I am the only woman in this situation.

Make him feel wanted, respected and valued and you will see his boners return!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

Because most men think they are good at sex but are not. And if we want it good we have to take control to do it. And it’s one more thing we are responsible for. I’m partly maki g light but it’s pretty close to accurate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

It’s amazing how many women ignore the husband for years, then expect them to jump when they’re ready in their 40s. Sorry, you couldn’t ,are time for him, its now your turn to feel unwanted.

What healthy view of how relationships should work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

It’s amazing how many women ignore the husband for years, then expect them to jump when they’re ready in their 40s. Sorry, you couldn’t ,are time for him, its now your turn to feel unwanted.

What healthy view of how relationships should work.

Yes, women shouldn’t ignore their husbands for years. Pretty sure that was PPs point.

[Anonymous]

When you are not getting any you complain about it. How many threads are there led by people who say what a wonderful sex life they have?

[Anonymous]

I have been on this forum for years. If I were to guess only 20% of the women here are sexually satisfied. Is it the case in the real world as well? No idea. However it seems to be a recurrent complaints from women that their sex life is just horrible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

It’s amazing how many women ignore the husband for years, then expect them to jump when they’re ready in their 40s. Sorry, you couldn’t ,are time for him, its now your turn to feel unwanted.

What healthy view of how relationships should work.

Yes, women shouldn’t ignore their husbands for years. Pretty sure that was PPs point.

No. The point was spite and retaliation.

[Anonymous]

Women talk about sex a lot. Just apparently not with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

It’s amazing how many women ignore the husband for years, then expect them to jump when they’re ready in their 40s. Sorry, you couldn’t ,are time for him, its now your turn to feel unwanted.

What healthy view of how relationships should work.

Yes, women shouldn’t ignore their husbands for years. Pretty sure that was PPs point.

You think it’s appropriate to ‘tit for tat’ punish your partner? You think that is healthy and conducive to a good relationship?

[Anonymous]

The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

Seriously? I feel like this is a bigger problem for men. It’s women who lose desire much more quickly.

SOME women (90%) lose desire. Some women (10%) have an increased libido. I am the latter. I prefer sex daily.

Fixed that for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

I have asked my wife many times what would really make her “happy” and she never gives an answer other than a non answer. She doesn’t like oral and mostly doesn’t like being touched down there. Massage and rubbing are effective and thankfully so is PIV. I don’t complain because we have sex at least weekly which after 36 years is pretty good and she often initiates. She is very quiet so I rarely know if she has had an O.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

I have asked my wife many times what would really make her “happy” and she never gives an answer other than a non answer. She doesn’t like oral and mostly doesn’t like being touched down there. Massage and rubbing are effective and thankfully so is PIV. I don’t complain because we have sex at least weekly which after 36 years is pretty good and she often initiates. She is very quiet so I rarely know if she has had an O.

TBH this sounds very…assault-y.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They don't talk about sex as much as they talk about their DH mental illness either diagnosed or undiagnosed. If I were to make a wild guess as many as 80% of DHs mentioned here have some type of mental illness whether it's ADHD, or they are on the spectrum (despite being unofficially diagnosed).

Birds of a feather