Does your husband yell at you?

[Anonymous]

Not even an hour ago my wife yelled at me for not checking on her mother.

[Anonymous]

It is very very very very very very rare for American women to be yelled at by their husbands. Now the wives yelling at their husbands is still rare but not uncommon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has occasionally told me I am shouting, when I really haven't shouted at all. He just doesn't like the words he is hearing at that point.

Mine too.

[Anonymous]

IF I ask my husband to do something, he doesn't yell at me, but will either ignore it (gaslight) or make an irritated comment and not do it; it is more threats to leave/etc if he does not like something; sometimes he yells at our dog if he is upset. It is not right, I realize.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Neither my husband nor I have ever actually yelled at each other or our children — other than perhaps yelling when someone is in another part of the house or outside and cannot hear us. This is not how we roll.

That said, it is totally clear when one of us is frustrated or angry without shouting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IF I ask my husband to do something, he doesn't yell at me, but will either ignore it (gaslight) or make an irritated comment and not do it; it is more threats to leave/etc if he does not like something; sometimes he yells at our dog if he is upset. It is not right, I realize.

Genuine question, it is a married woman thing to be always demanding that their DH do something? I am not married and just wondering

[Anonymous]

All the time when hes drunk.
Very very nasty when drunk.

[Anonymous]

Maybe once or twice? In a really heated argument. I think I yell at him more, which I know is not good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I am upstairs, sure

There’s a difference between yelling TO you vs. yelling AT you.

[Anonymous]

Never. We have never yelled at one another. Unfortunately we have occasionally raised our voices with the kids. I’m not proud of it but I try not to let it happen.

[Anonymous]

My wife will absolutely whiteout rage yell at me occasionally. If my voice gets 20% louder and agitated (i may not even be mad, just animated, or I may be mad but not at her) she freaks out with some pseudo psychology BS that I’m yelling at her and it’s emotional abuse.

So she’d answer this question with a “yes”.

Puzzling

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A guy at work tried to yell at me the other day (we work in a trauma center so emotions do run high) but this was about something personal. I literally turned on my heel and walked away. Men who raised their voices to communicate lose their shot with me. We spoke later calmly and it got resolved. But as a woman in medicine, I learned a long time ago that I don’t allow men to raise their voice at me. Not at home, not at work, not anywhere else. If you can’t communicate without volume that’s your problem.

So what would you do if your DH yells at you and no amount of coaching changes him? Get divorced? You really don’t have any other leverage in the end, do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IF I ask my husband to do something, he doesn't yell at me, but will either ignore it (gaslight) or make an irritated comment and not do it; it is more threats to leave/etc if he does not like something; sometimes he yells at our dog if he is upset. It is not right, I realize.

Genuine question, it is a married woman thing to be always demanding that their DH do something? I am not married and just wondering

It’s a married person thing. And whoever takes on more of the mental load of house, kid, and other responsibilities, does more of the asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has occasionally told me I am shouting, when I really haven't shouted at all. He just doesn't like the words he is hearing at that point.

That could be my ex.

Remember Leave it to Beaver (I'm dating myself, but I watched it in reruns, honest!), when every time Ward would gently chide Wally and the Beav about something, they'd say he was "yelling" at them? I felt like Ward Cleaver with my ex: any time we disagreed, I got accused of "yelling."