Does your husband yell at you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes. and sometimes i yell back bc it gets so mean i feel the need to defend myself.

first round of Gottman style therapy didnt work

we're going for a second round-- and this is the last stop. we have a son. i will leave for my son's sake, he deserves to grow up in a calm environment. i would trade living every day with my son in the family house to a custody schedule if that meant that my son could grow up with less tension at home.

FWIW i was raised in a house where my father routinely yelled at me, berated, etc. its hardwired in me.

been in a lot of personal therapy working on my attachment style.

but i am only one half of the equation.

This is 100% right. I wish I would have insisted on therapy or left.

[Anonymous]

Maybe like once a year, we will have a yelling argument, usually when the kids are asleep or not around. Occasionally he snaps at me but then apologizes pretty quickly. He is a great husband and father overall.

[Anonymous]

No. when he is disappointed in me he expresses disappointment with my action or inaction in a reprimanding way. But not often.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Yes, all the time. By all the time I would say probably every three months. Then turns around and acts eerily calm if I react in anger. It's been this way forever. I almost don't care anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not really. Maybe if we are in a bad fight. So maybe 2 times a year, if that? I probably yell at him about twice that.

+1

[Anonymous]

Never. He grew up in a household with a lot of yelling and never wanted to be like that (not always angry yelling, think Italian stereotype).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No he does not and I would not tolerate it.

I feel like this is easy to say until you're there.

[Anonymous]

Mine snaps at me every now and then (especially when he's stressed or tired), and it's hurtful. I then cry and sometimes yell back. He usually apologizes later.

[Anonymous]

We are loud people and both yell, me more than my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. when he is disappointed in me he expresses disappointment with my action or inaction in a reprimanding way. But not often.

Like a teacher or father? Gross.

[Anonymous]

Nope, unacceptable

[Anonymous]

Once or twice a year. I probably do the same for real yelling. Never in front of the kids. But I will occasionally raise my voice a little, like you would if you were surprised by something and he says “don’t yell at me”. I don’t think yelling is ok but I also think a slightly raised voice is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My husband occasionally yells at me. How common is this?

No and I don’t yell at him. Also, he knows he’d be in some serious $hit if he yelled at me.

[Anonymous]

This thread is hilarious. Every single person knows women are the yellers.