What if you just want sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to be what FWB implies in terms of romantic gestures ? Do you meet just to f…k or they are kind of “lighter” romantic partners? Eg taking you to restaurants, concerts giving flowers? I would not mind something lighter without any plans to move in, talk/text too much every day or joint travels . But I do need him to be nice and loving and romantic, and enjoy time with him, in order for the sex component to work .

Otherwise it just feels mechanical

LOL. Grandma wants the D, but only after some 'flowers'. Ha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to be what FWB implies in terms of romantic gestures ? Do you meet just to f…k or they are kind of “lighter” romantic partners? Eg taking you to restaurants, concerts giving flowers? I would not mind something lighter without any plans to move in, talk/text too much every day or joint travels . But I do need him to be nice and loving and romantic, and enjoy time with him, in order for the sex component to work .

Otherwise it just feels mechanical

LOL. Grandma wants the D, but only after some 'flowers'. Ha.

Why does this trigger you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to be what FWB implies in terms of romantic gestures ? Do you meet just to f…k or they are kind of “lighter” romantic partners? Eg taking you to restaurants, concerts giving flowers? I would not mind something lighter without any plans to move in, talk/text too much every day or joint travels . But I do need him to be nice and loving and romantic, and enjoy time with him, in order for the sex component to work .

Otherwise it just feels mechanical

LOL. Grandma wants the D, but only after some 'flowers'. Ha.

Why does this trigger you?

It's not triggering, it's amusement at the romance novel fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50ish male here. Let’s meet up ladies!

where can we find you?

Be sure Mr. "Let's Meet Up" above gets tested before you hook up. If he's offering his goods this freely, be assured, he's already giving them away plenty of other places too, so it's on you to be the adult and protect yourself. And don't take "I got tested, I'm fine" as an answer....Get it new, and get it on paper. Scoff if you want, but it's reality if you want sex without knowing the person beforehand.

Offer is not the same as acceptance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to be what FWB implies in terms of romantic gestures ? Do you meet just to f…k or they are kind of “lighter” romantic partners? Eg taking you to restaurants, concerts giving flowers? I would not mind something lighter without any plans to move in, talk/text too much every day or joint travels . But I do need him to be nice and loving and romantic, and enjoy time with him, in order for the sex component to work .

Otherwise it just feels mechanical

LOL. Grandma wants the D, but only after some 'flowers'. Ha.

Why does this trigger you?

It's not triggering, it's amusement at the romance novel fantasy.

no, clearly you’re threatened, which says a lot about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to be what FWB implies in terms of romantic gestures ? Do you meet just to f…k or they are kind of “lighter” romantic partners? Eg taking you to restaurants, concerts giving flowers? I would not mind something lighter without any plans to move in, talk/text too much every day or joint travels . But I do need him to be nice and loving and romantic, and enjoy time with him, in order for the sex component to work .

Otherwise it just feels mechanical

LOL. Grandma wants the D, but only after some 'flowers'. Ha.

Why does this trigger you?

It's not triggering, it's amusement at the romance novel fantasy.

no, clearly you’re threatened, which says a lot about you.

I'm 46. 3 out of 5 men I dated over the last few years (no necessarily very seriously) gave me flowers. I don't know in which f...k land this dude lives but it's a sad, sad place for his women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female, 49, great job, great kids, great friends, in great shape.... divorced and I cannot imagine ever wanting to become partnered up again. I am done, done, done. Maybe someday I will change my mind about that but right now that's how I feel. But sex is nice, and I don't want to give that up. Other than creepy apps, how does one go about finding friends with benefits? (Or even just good benefits, without the "friends" part?")

55 yo man here...This is actually what I want as well, but I'm not wanting to get on dating apps and I don't want to start sleeping around. I'm attractive and in good shape as well as being educated and a great career. Would love to find one woman with whom I click. I wish there were a way for us to message each other and see if we might be a good match for something like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50ish male here. Let’s meet up ladies!

where can we find you?

Be sure Mr. "Let's Meet Up" above gets tested before you hook up. If he's offering his goods this freely, be assured, he's already giving them away plenty of other places too, so it's on you to be the adult and protect yourself. And don't take "I got tested, I'm fine" as an answer....Get it new, and get it on paper. Scoff if you want, but it's reality if you want sex without knowing the person beforehand.

Offer is not the same as acceptance.

Don't accept until the new test results are handed over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to be what FWB implies in terms of romantic gestures ? Do you meet just to f…k or they are kind of “lighter” romantic partners? Eg taking you to restaurants, concerts giving flowers? I would not mind something lighter without any plans to move in, talk/text too much every day or joint travels . But I do need him to be nice and loving and romantic, and enjoy time with him, in order for the sex component to work .

Otherwise it just feels mechanical

I had one who lived in Chicago who came to DC for business. He'd stay with me for several days and we would go to dinner, museums,concerts, etc, and have tons of sex. We would talk on the phone regularly in between trips about mutual interests and hobbies. It was pretty perfect.

That sounds like a long distance relationship - what was the difference with FWB label? You were both dating others ?

Agree, sounds like a actual relationship, since he stayed with her and they did a lot of "etc" activities besides the "tons of sex" she describes. Maybe he was married, and that PP was his out-of-town affair partner--but she didn't realize it, and thought they were FWB. I know someone who was in that situation, thinking she had this great, sexy guy wanting to be with her when he traveled to her city. He was married the whole time, zero intention to divorce, and my friend never knew--he said he was divorced.

Wonder if that PP will come back to address that question--?