What if you just want sex?

[Anonymous]

First you broke up their family and now you want random characters coming and going in their lives? Isn't it irresponsible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No trolling! This is me too and almost the same demographics.

No one ever approaches me except married dads. It’s ridiculous, but I’ve never even opened a dating app so I guess I can’t complain since I refuse to even try!

I read all the OLD threads on here and I’m TERRIFIED.

I live in a very family focused area here so there are almost no single people and I’m trapped! Sucks. Plenty of husbands can’t stop chatting me up and it’s pretty lame and transparent! No thanks!

Work on developing a better imagination and invest in a variety of great and unusual sex toys. I mean it. No drama, no awkward asking men to test for STIs, no catching feelings, no caving in to an affair that wrecks others' lives. I know the gotta-have-it-right-NOW crowd here will say, how sad, but it will get you through nicely (and teach you new things you like) until you find someone who's worth the effort of asking for sex. Dont lie down with just any single, willing man, even if the deal is 100 percent no-strings sex. That's desperate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You date a rich man who can afford a maid and takeout, and you don't let him pay for you, and you don't bother him between dates.
Or have affairs with any of the galf of married men on your block who have dead bedrooms.

Or hang out at a college / college bars / pickleball club

Lots of young & horny bucks at pickleballclub. You can also join a tennis club and bang young + horny tennis instructors, but you will have to share them with multiple women who are also in your situation.

Sounds like the plot of some 1980s paperback novel. Not realistic, no matter how much you'll insist "it really happened to me!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You date a rich man who can afford a maid and takeout, and you don't let him pay for you, and you don't bother him between dates.
Or have affairs with any of the galf of married men on your block who have dead bedrooms.

Or hang out at a college / college bars / pickleball club

Lots of young & horny bucks at pickleballclub. You can also join a tennis club and bang young + horny tennis instructors, but you will have to share them with multiple women who are also in your situation.

Sounds like the plot of some 1980s paperback novel. Not realistic, no matter how much you'll insist "it really happened to me!"

Have you ever been to Congressional or Chevy Chase CC? My brother teaches there and he has a full roster of these women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female, 49, great job, great kids, great friends, in great shape.... divorced and I cannot imagine ever wanting to become partnered up again. I am done, done, done. Maybe someday I will change my mind about that but right now that's how I feel. But sex is nice, and I don't want to give that up. Other than creepy apps, how does one go about finding friends with benefits? (Or even just good benefits, without the "friends" part?")

Apps. Match.com is not creepy and you’ll find people of similar interest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Apps work. 47f here. You can find one there. No idea how to go about this in real life at this stage.

I am in the same boat. 50f here. Care to share which app(s)

Bumble. I have met nice men and I have also met jerks. You have to make sure they are not married. Many are. Younger men have no issue with no strings sex with no expiration date. I have one I have been seeing almost two years. Much younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds gross. You just want to sleep with random men? Ugh this is why the cougar stereotype exists.

How is it random? Having a FWB is not random. You get to know the person. People don't understand this does not mean sleeping with multiple random people or ONSs.

[Anonymous]

No 50f with menopause and atrofy vagina is craving sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buying gadgets would be the easiest route. Why let randos in your life and expose yours and children's lives to complications?

I'm a man, but presumably such devices work well for some, but for others just don't do the trick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No trolling! This is me too and almost the same demographics.

No one ever approaches me except married dads. It’s ridiculous, but I’ve never even opened a dating app so I guess I can’t complain since I refuse to even try!

I read all the OLD threads on here and I’m TERRIFIED.

I live in a very family focused area here so there are almost no single people and I’m trapped! Sucks. Plenty of husbands can’t stop chatting me up and it’s pretty lame and transparent! No thanks!

You are not that special. They just want to get into your panties that's all. They don't care how you look they just want a piece of ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No 50f with menopause and atrofy vagina is craving sex

What an atrofy vagina? I am 46 years old man and I would love a 50f friends with benefits. But it seems to me that men in my age bracket with kids have it the worse. Under 40 don't want us cause we don't want kids. Under 50 want you her than 40..And 50s I just don't see them they seem to be not looking. Where can I go to find them. I think a woman with menopause is the best fit, hormones are not longer playing tricks with her mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apps work. 47f here. You can find one there. No idea how to go about this in real life at this stage.

I am in the same boat. 50f here. Care to share which app(s)

Bumble. I have met nice men and I have also met jerks. You have to make sure they are not married. Many are. Younger men have no issue with no strings sex with no expiration date. I have one I have been seeing almost two years. Much younger.

I have the opposite problem. I am divorced 48 been seeing a 34 years old for almost a year and now she wants something more serious. This is the second time it's happening to me. My younger self would def be down having just sex with a much older woman. But it seems that for us men we don't have have the same luck with younger women because eventually they want something more serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No 50f with menopause and atrofy vagina is craving sex

What an atrofy vagina? I am 46 years old man and I would love a 50f friends with benefits. But it seems to me that men in my age bracket with kids have it the worse. Under 40 don't want us cause we don't want kids. Under 50 want you her than 40..And 50s I just don't see them they seem to be not looking. Where can I go to find them. I think a woman with menopause is the best fit, hormones are not longer playing tricks with her mind.

Just go out and socialize! I randomly met two good FWB candidates just out and about. Also quit it with menopause stereotypes. I would take a pass on you if you said something as dumb as that. as an almost-50 yr old woman I don’t need that.

[Anonymous]

Join a biking club as it’s mostly men plenty of whom are single and in pretty good shape. If you are fit and attractive you will do just fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No 50f with menopause and atrofy vagina is craving sex

What an atrofy vagina? I am 46 years old man and I would love a 50f friends with benefits. But it seems to me that men in my age bracket with kids have it the worse. Under 40 don't want us cause we don't want kids. Under 50 want you her than 40..And 50s I just don't see them they seem to be not looking. Where can I go to find them. I think a woman with menopause is the best fit, hormones are not longer playing tricks with her mind.

Just go out and socialize! I randomly met two good FWB candidates just out and about. Also quit it with menopause stereotypes. I would take a pass on you if you said something as dumb as that. as an almost-50 yr old woman I don’t need that.

My fault you are right about the menopause comment. It's certainly stupid to say the least