Son marrying a woman with no career

[Anonymous]

My friend who made well over 550K a year when single only wanted to date women no career who would to be a great Mom.

He married a nice girl who worked in a department store who did go to college.

They live in a mansion and have three great looking kids. He had plenty of cash. He just needed someone to be there to run house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That was me 30 years ago. Except no fiancé, lol. I finally found work that I enjoyed and have a solid career now, making a smidge over $100k. Some people take awhile to find their footing. It sounds like she works, which is good. If she’s a solid person, I’d be happy for him.

+100

It took me a while to find my thing too.

Same here. 20 years later, still happily married and now I make more than my husband.

[Anonymous]

I always made less money than my husband, but I was a better investor, and always saved more (before we married and after). I have more money in my IRA accounts than he does.

It doesn't matter to me because we've been married for a while and we each have our strengths. MIL has no clue about our finances, but maybe she complains to her friends that I'm not her son's financial equal!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend who made well over 550K a year when single only wanted to date women no career who would to be a great Mom.

He married a nice girl who worked in a department store who did go to college.

They live in a mansion and have three great looking kids. He had plenty of cash. He just needed someone to be there to run house.

Some women don't mind this kind of power dynamic but I would never advise this for my DD.

This type of dynamic also creates more of a chance for the husband to cheat. He sounds like Trump, tbh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always made less money than my husband, but I was a better investor, and always saved more (before we married and after). I have more money in my IRA accounts than he does.

It doesn't matter to me because we've been married for a while and we each have our strengths. MIL has no clue about our finances, but maybe she complains to her friends that I'm not her son's financial equal!

Having less money is one thing. Not having career goals to be able to stand on your own two feet is another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always made less money than my husband, but I was a better investor, and always saved more (before we married and after). I have more money in my IRA accounts than he does.

It doesn't matter to me because we've been married for a while and we each have our strengths. MIL has no clue about our finances, but maybe she complains to her friends that I'm not her son's financial equal!

Having less money is one thing. Not having career goals to be able to stand on your own two feet is another.

PP- Except that I can? It's not what you make, it's what you save.

[Anonymous]

I would think I raised my son poorly.

But put on a good face in case they end up married

[Anonymous]

Also wish posters would stop acting like being lazy is a precursor to being a SAHM. The best SAHM are the ones who aren't and have never been lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always made less money than my husband, but I was a better investor, and always saved more (before we married and after). I have more money in my IRA accounts than he does.

It doesn't matter to me because we've been married for a while and we each have our strengths. MIL has no clue about our finances, but maybe she complains to her friends that I'm not her son's financial equal!

Having less money is one thing. Not having career goals to be able to stand on your own two feet is another.

PP- Except that I can? It's not what you make, it's what you save.

good for you? I'm willing to bet the GF isn't a huge saver. Most people aren't.

I am a huge saver, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend who made well over 550K a year when single only wanted to date women no career who would to be a great Mom.

He married a nice girl who worked in a department store who did go to college.

They live in a mansion and have three great looking kids. He had plenty of cash. He just needed someone to be there to run house.

I'm curious to know your thoughts on what would have happened if she had been infertile and not proper breeding stock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would think I raised my son poorly.

But put on a good face in case they end up married

Same.

[Anonymous]

Just be grateful your son is getting married. Lots of men these days don't. Getting married bodes well for children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend who made well over 550K a year when single only wanted to date women no career who would to be a great Mom.

He married a nice girl who worked in a department store who did go to college.

They live in a mansion and have three great looking kids. He had plenty of cash. He just needed someone to be there to run house.

I'm curious to know your thoughts on what would have happened if she had been infertile and not proper breeding stock.

You know, adoption's an option. It sounds like the childcare was the thing more than bearing children. But it worked out, so, no harm no foul?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also wish posters would stop acting like being lazy is a precursor to being a SAHM. The best SAHM are the ones who aren't and have never been lazy.

Also, someone's worth as a person is not determined by how much money they make. Stop trying to control your kids and trust their judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I didn't have a career at that age. We married when we were both 26. I found one and have had 4 kids. I make about 300k more than my DH.

Guess what -- my MIL still thinks he takes care of the family since he went to a T10 college
and has been in the same "career" snce we married. It makes us both giggle now 27 years later.

Are you for real? What do you do to earn so much money?

Pharma sales! My bonus many times is much as his salary as a Fed.

Ugh. Dregs of society. May as well call yourself a hooker.