Dealing with other people shaming you and judging you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the highly successful people I know (who make a lot of money) did not go to an Ivy Leagues. They went to state universities that weren't super hard to get into. You can get a really good education at so many universities that are not considered high academics.

Name some or name their positions and companies.

Another “trust me…I know highly successful people who went to no name X” post…but zilch on any specifics.

I'm not this poster, but you people absolutely blow. Seriously, get over yourselves. Pretentious a-holes

No, it’s just that I’m tired of the multitude of posts where someone relays some random anecdote with absolutely nothing to back it up.

I wish them to be true but I doubt they are.

sorry, I'm having trouble believing you. It really sounds like you just refuse to believe that there are highly successful people who didn't attend a T25 or whatever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In my extended family, all the parents (quite a few) with PhDs from elite universities have children who have attended or are attending or will soon attend non-elite universities, and all the children with elite academic affiliations have parents without them. I think that puts everything in the right perspective.

I’m actually not understanding what you are trying to say.

That if you actually see how higher ed works from the inside (say, because you got a PhD and are now a professor) you’re much less likely to care whether your or any child attends an elite university. (Of course, this attitude presupposes that what matters is education, not mere networking.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In my extended family, all the parents (quite a few) with PhDs from elite universities have children who have attended or are attending or will soon attend non-elite universities, and all the children with elite academic affiliations have parents without them. I think that puts everything in the right perspective.

I’m actually not understanding what you are trying to say.

That if you actually see how higher ed works from the inside (say, because you got a PhD and are now a professor) you’re much less likely to care whether your or any child attends an elite university. (Of course, this attitude presupposes that what matters is education, not mere networking.)

If you believe others, professors want their kids to attend top SLACs.

I have never heard of a professor suggesting or encouraging their kids to attend random undergrad schools…especially if they hope their kids also get PhDs from elite schools.