If you divorced due to YOUR affair, what do you tell people?

[Anonymous]

Cheaters lie to everyone, about everything. If you think a cheater is being truthful with you, take a look at everyone the cheater has lied to during their affair and ask yourself why you are the one special person the cheater doesn’t lie to.

You aren’t the one special person who gets the truth. You are getting a pre-planned, carefully curated version of whatever the cheater wants you to believe. Cheaters manipulate their partners, parents, siblings, colleagues, neighbors, children, pastors, friends, everyone.

If you find yourself in a relationship with a cheat, immediately make plans to extricate yourself and your children from the situation. Make serious efforts to become financially independent as possible and interview and retain a good divorce attorney. When your ducks are standing smartly in a row, file for divorce. Find someone in the future who has morals and who loves you. Life is too short to spend it playing games with a person who was supposed to put your relationship above all others and treat you with love, kindness, and respect.

[Anonymous]

This depends of you are a man or a woman. If you admit to cheating as a man, you are a villain and subject to public scorn. If you are a women, you are a victim of a bad man and deserving of sympathy, understanding and support for surely it wasn't your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This depends of you are a man or a woman. If you admit to cheating as a man, you are a villain and subject to public scorn. If you are a women, you are a victim of a bad man and deserving of sympathy, understanding and support for surely it wasn't your fault.

Nah. Men are much more likely to divorce their cheating wives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheaters lie to everyone, about everything. If you think a cheater is being truthful with you, take a look at everyone the cheater has lied to during their affair and ask yourself why you are the one special person the cheater doesn’t lie to.

You aren’t the one special person who gets the truth. You are getting a pre-planned, carefully curated version of whatever the cheater wants you to believe. Cheaters manipulate their partners, parents, siblings, colleagues, neighbors, children, pastors, friends, everyone.

If you find yourself in a relationship with a cheat, immediately make plans to extricate yourself and your children from the situation. Make serious efforts to become financially independent as possible and interview and retain a good divorce attorney. When your ducks are standing smartly in a row, file for divorce. Find someone in the future who has morals and who loves you. Life is too short to spend it playing games with a person who was supposed to put your relationship above all others and treat you with love, kindness, and respect.

^ all of this. Yes