Feelings for my lawyer

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Anonymous wrote:I think your lawyer sounds a bit unprofessional in my opinion.

For him to subliminally flirt w/a client is treading on thin ice.
While he may be just being kind - I get a feeling he is flirting w/you & being inappropriate.

Can you hire another lawyer at this point?
Something tells me that you probably will not exercise this option but I had to suggest it.

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I'm guessing if we were a fly on the wall, we'd realize OP was interpreting very normal interactions as flirting. When I worked in retail I once had a guy assume I was flirting because I said "Have a nice day"

+1. OP is coming out of a bad relationship and thinks normal niceties are flirting.

Nah, I worked in law for a decade. It's entirely possible. Probable, even. A lawyer's main job is manipulation, and someone just out of a relationship is ripe for the picking in that regard. If she's at all attractive, she's probably not wrong that he's flirting.

I've been a lawyer for decades and don't agree. There are absolutely slimy lawyers, just as there are slimy people in every profession. But if you look at the stuff that OP identified, it's clear that this is in her head. He is keeping his beard because she complimented him? As opposed to his wife likes it? Or he likes it? Or all his colleagues and neighbors complimented? Or most of his suits are blue (navy is an incredibly common color)? OP is attributed very common reactions to her compliments rather than, you know, the wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your lawyer sounds a bit unprofessional in my opinion.

For him to subliminally flirt w/a client is treading on thin ice.
While he may be just being kind - I get a feeling he is flirting w/you & being inappropriate.

Can you hire another lawyer at this point?
Something tells me that you probably will not exercise this option but I had to suggest it.

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How is he being inappropriate? By wearing blue shirts? 🤣🤣🤣 (btw, pretty sure 90% of my husbands collared shirts are some hue of blue, though he isn’t a blue-eyed divorce attorney.)

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Anonymous wrote:Your divorce lawyer might be my friend's husband! He's just a nice friendly guy and that's how he makes business connections. You have to be likable in that field.
I would like to reiterate to the women of DCUM that every male who smiles at you, talks to you, or treats you like a human being is not FLIRTING with you.

Incorrect. Likability is a poor quality in a divorce lawyer. You want a shark, not a puppy.

I'm a lawyer and, really, no. Most divorces are negotiated, very few are in court fights. A shark would just run up your legal bills, you really don't want that

Actual sharks don't waste a whole lot of energy picking fights indiscriminately. They smell, they circle, they strike.

It holds up, whether you like the comparison or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Ha. It happens whenever there is a male professional who listens to a neglected wife.

Contractors, carpenters, for example. They listen to you and make your kitchen and bathrooms EXACTLY like you want them. They fix the broken stuff. And have big muscles. And ... who doesn't love a hot carpenter?

No one here is interested in these men. I assume you married down and now insist it’s a paradise.

So your husband is just a paycheck. The fact that you reduce a man to his level of income/profession, says everything about your own marriage. There's no way in hell you're happier than many women who "married down."

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Anonymous wrote:You are a paycheck to him. This is not a real relationship.

If he's smart he'll get both.

You assume he's a chubby chaser.

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My lawyer grew a bit of a beard, and it looked good on him, so I complimented him. Now he always has that stubble beard when I meet with him.

Another time, he complimented my outfit, so I told him his blue suit made his blue eyes stand out. Since then, he’s worn blue every time

The very definition of "all in your head"

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Go commando in a skirt and bend over his desk and assume the position

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Anonymous wrote:Your divorce lawyer might be my friend's husband! He's just a nice friendly guy and that's how he makes business connections. You have to be likable in that field.
I would like to reiterate to the women of DCUM that every male who smiles at you, talks to you, or treats you like a human being is not FLIRTING with you.

Incorrect. Likability is a poor quality in a divorce lawyer. You want a shark, not a puppy.

I'm a lawyer and, really, no. Most divorces are negotiated, very few are in court fights. A shark would just run up your legal bills, you really don't want that

Actual sharks don't waste a whole lot of energy picking fights indiscriminately. They smell, they circle, they strike.

It holds up, whether you like the comparison or not.

Trust me, most lawyers maintain friendly relationships with the "opposition" in part because it makes you a better lawyer. The majority absolutely hate the lawyers who think they're sharks, particularly as it's mostly performance nonsense. When I was a clerk we had this guy who'd refuse to agree to any kind of postponement, even with the opposing counsel's kid was in the hospital. The judge was really frustrated with him. His shtick got old fast.