Feelings for my lawyer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are a paycheck to him. This is not a real relationship.

He may do this to every sad, lonely client he meets.

He could be a slime or feel sorry for you. But he is not anv and you have your work cut out for you healing and reorganizing your entire life.

He is not the answer. He is inviting more chaos and conflict into your future.

Stop egging it on. Be wise and mature . DO NOT entertain this dysfunctional fantasy.,

[Anonymous]

I think your lawyer sounds a bit unprofessional in my opinion.

For him to subliminally flirt w/a client is treading on thin ice.
While he may be just being kind - I get a feeling he is flirting w/you & being inappropriate.

Can you hire another lawyer at this point?
Something tells me that you probably will not exercise this option but I had to suggest it.

🤷🏻🤷🏻‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are a paycheck to him. This is not a real relationship.

If he's smart he'll get both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your lawyer sounds a bit unprofessional in my opinion.

For him to subliminally flirt w/a client is treading on thin ice.
While he may be just being kind - I get a feeling he is flirting w/you & being inappropriate.

Can you hire another lawyer at this point?
Something tells me that you probably will not exercise this option but I had to suggest it.

🤷🏻🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm guessing if we were a fly on the wall, we'd realize OP was interpreting very normal interactions as flirting. When I worked in retail I once had a guy assume I was flirting because I said "Have a nice day"

[Anonymous]

If this is not a troll then this woman suffers from very serious and challenging attachment issues that require immediate mental health assistance. Clearly this person assuming not a troll has a big issue staying alone. For God sake your marriage is ending and you are already falling for someone else damn. Therapy ASAP please

[Anonymous]

You might have a “prettier face” but you’re acting link an ugly person.

-a divorced person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your lawyer sounds a bit unprofessional in my opinion.

For him to subliminally flirt w/a client is treading on thin ice.
While he may be just being kind - I get a feeling he is flirting w/you & being inappropriate.

Can you hire another lawyer at this point?
Something tells me that you probably will not exercise this option but I had to suggest it.

🤷🏻🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm guessing if we were a fly on the wall, we'd realize OP was interpreting very normal interactions as flirting. When I worked in retail I once had a guy assume I was flirting because I said "Have a nice day"

+1. OP is coming out of a bad relationship and thinks normal niceties are flirting.

[Anonymous]

Your divorce lawyer might be my friend's husband! He's just a nice friendly guy and that's how he makes business connections. You have to be likable in that field.
I would like to reiterate to the women of DCUM that every male who smiles at you, talks to you, or treats you like a human being is not FLIRTING with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your lawyer sounds a bit unprofessional in my opinion.

For him to subliminally flirt w/a client is treading on thin ice.
While he may be just being kind - I get a feeling he is flirting w/you & being inappropriate.

Can you hire another lawyer at this point?
Something tells me that you probably will not exercise this option but I had to suggest it.

🤷🏻🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm guessing if we were a fly on the wall, we'd realize OP was interpreting very normal interactions as flirting. When I worked in retail I once had a guy assume I was flirting because I said "Have a nice day"

+1. OP is coming out of a bad relationship and thinks normal niceties are flirting.

Nah, I worked in law for a decade. It's entirely possible. Probable, even. A lawyer's main job is manipulation, and someone just out of a relationship is ripe for the picking in that regard. If she's at all attractive, she's probably not wrong that he's flirting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your divorce lawyer might be my friend's husband! He's just a nice friendly guy and that's how he makes business connections. You have to be likable in that field.
I would like to reiterate to the women of DCUM that every male who smiles at you, talks to you, or treats you like a human being is not FLIRTING with you.

Incorrect. Likability is a poor quality in a divorce lawyer. You want a shark, not a puppy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ha. It happens whenever there is a male professional who listens to a neglected wife.

Contractors, carpenters, for example. They listen to you and make your kitchen and bathrooms EXACTLY like you want them. They fix the broken stuff. And have big muscles. And ... who doesn't love a hot carpenter?

No one here is interested in these men. I assume you married down and now insist it’s a paradise.

You are an elitist moron. Lots of women are interested in these men, some even might actually be here on DCUM if not in your neighborhood. My contractor H supported us in such a way as to allow us to live in one of, if not the, best school districts in the entire DC area. He's also just an all around great guy, husband and father. I did not marry down, perish the thought, we are equals.

Lol. I was completely correct about you.

You’re really stupid then. A lot of those guys make a lot of money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your lawyer sounds a bit unprofessional in my opinion.

For him to subliminally flirt w/a client is treading on thin ice.
While he may be just being kind - I get a feeling he is flirting w/you & being inappropriate.

Can you hire another lawyer at this point?
Something tells me that you probably will not exercise this option but I had to suggest it.

🤷🏻🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm guessing if we were a fly on the wall, we'd realize OP was interpreting very normal interactions as flirting. When I worked in retail I once had a guy assume I was flirting because I said "Have a nice day"

+1. OP is coming out of a bad relationship and thinks normal niceties are flirting.

Maybe. But there are slimy divorce lawyers out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I am getting divorced and have developed feelings for my lawyer. He listens, he compliments me, he shares a lot of stories about his kids. I feel like it’s my safe space. He looks out for me.

I find I am jealous of his wife. I see her picture on his desk and I know that I have a prettier face, though she’s thinner.

My lawyer grew a bit of a beard, and it looked good on him, so I complimented him. Now he always has that stubble beard when I meet with him.

Another time, he complimented my outfit, so I told him his blue suit made his blue eyes stand out. Since then, he’s worn blue every time.

I know he’s married, so help me get over these feelings!

You are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your divorce lawyer might be my friend's husband! He's just a nice friendly guy and that's how he makes business connections. You have to be likable in that field.
I would like to reiterate to the women of DCUM that every male who smiles at you, talks to you, or treats you like a human being is not FLIRTING with you.

Incorrect. Likability is a poor quality in a divorce lawyer. You want a shark, not a puppy.

I'm a lawyer and, really, no. Most divorces are negotiated, very few are in court fights. A shark would just run up your legal bills, you really don't want that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your divorce lawyer might be my friend's husband! He's just a nice friendly guy and that's how he makes business connections. You have to be likable in that field.
I would like to reiterate to the women of DCUM that every male who smiles at you, talks to you, or treats you like a human being is not FLIRTING with you.

Incorrect. Likability is a poor quality in a divorce lawyer. You want a shark, not a puppy.

Nonsense. You want a puppy who can morph into a shark if needed.