Feelings for my lawyer

[Anonymous]

It's called transferrance. Happens with therapists too. He doesn't like you, op. He just gets paid to deal with you and lots of other women like you. In a few months you will never see each other again. Don't do anything stupid or you will have to hire another lawyer and spend lots of extra time and money getting divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I am getting divorced and have developed feelings for my lawyer. He listens, he compliments me, he shares a lot of stories about his kids. I feel like it’s my safe space. He looks out for me.

I find I am jealous of his wife. I see her picture on his desk and I know that I have a prettier face, though she’s thinner.

My lawyer grew a bit of a beard, and it looked good on him, so I complimented him. Now he always has that stubble beard when I meet with him.

Another time, he complimented my outfit, so I told him his blue suit made his blue eyes stand out. Since then, he’s worn blue every time.

I know he’s married, so help me get over these feelings!

STFU, grow TFU.

[Anonymous]

Ha. It happens whenever there is a male professional who listens to a neglected wife.

Contractors, carpenters, for example. They listen to you and make your kitchen and bathrooms EXACTLY like you want them. They fix the broken stuff. And have big muscles. And ... who doesn't love a hot carpenter?

[Anonymous]

Transference is real. You're in a vulnerable place and he's a source of comfort. Of course you would latch on to that and develop feelings from there. But you can't let those feelings run away. Be smart, or you'll end up driving him away and then you'll really be in a bad place.

[Anonymous]

Charlotte on Sex and the City

[Anonymous]

My cousin got divorced and after it was final, her lawyer asked her out. He was single though.

Just saying, wait until this is over. Maybe he’s in the process of getting divorced.

[Anonymous]

I'm a lawyer who had been hit on while doing my job, and, please, just don't. Yes, I'm nice, I listen, I'm patient. It's my job. I'm not interested in you. It's not different from when I used to wait tables in school, being friendly is part of my job and I don't like being hit on while I'm working.

[Anonymous]

Sheila Johnson married the judge that presided over her divorce! Stranger things happen...

[Anonymous]

I've heard of this happening to a number of women because you are in a very vulnerable state.

[Anonymous]

The same thing happens with women and their doctors.

[Anonymous]

Yikes, sounds familiar.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy it, OP. I am certain he likes you. I am equally certain he won't make a move, nor should he and nor should you.

But your joy makes your divorce ordeal more bearable, so let it in. Bask in the glow of attractive male attention. It's included in the price of your divorce, so make the most of it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I am getting divorced and have developed feelings for my lawyer. He listens, he compliments me, he shares a lot of stories about his kids. I feel like it’s my safe space. He looks out for me.

I find I am jealous of his wife. I see her picture on his desk and I know that I have a prettier face, though she’s thinner.

My lawyer grew a bit of a beard, and it looked good on him, so I complimented him. Now he always has that stubble beard when I meet with him.

Another time, he complimented my outfit, so I told him his blue suit made his blue eyes stand out. Since then, he’s worn blue every time.

I know he’s married, so help me get over these feelings!

STFU, grow TFU.

+1 you lost me when you compared yourself to his wife. Stop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Transference is real. You're in a vulnerable place and he's a source of comfort. Of course you would latch on to that and develop feelings from there. But you can't let those feelings run away. Be smart, or you'll end up driving him away and then you'll really be in a bad place.

Read up on transference. It will make you understand what you are going through.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I had a crush of my family's estate lawyer who helped us through a rough time. It's normal. It's a man who's nice to you and seems wise and caring. Don't act on it and don't let him know. You need him as your lawyer and finding a new one would be a pain. Plus he's married and if he cheats on his wife with a client he's a total sleaze. So this is a no win situation.

Go on dating apps and meet some available guys!