If your children reject your beliefs, do you question yourself and your sanity

[Anonymous]

Its hard enough to teach one religion but one can teach respect for other humans and their beliefs. If kid wants to learn or convert, that's their right as an adult. It doesn't reflect good or bad on parents. Their only job is to teach, not to enforce.

[Anonymous]

What's the real value of a religion? To teach you discipline to be a good person and to give you a connection with a source which gives you peace of mind in difficult times and a community which gives you feeling of belonging. Imho, rest is just fine print.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the real value of a religion? To teach you discipline to be a good person and to give you a connection with a source which gives you peace of mind in difficult times and a community which gives you feeling of belonging. Imho, rest is just fine print.

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Anonymous wrote:None of our kids attend church as adults, in fact they say our religion is a cult now. They were home schooled and attended church school. Their kids go to public school and don't regularly attend church. They drink alcohol and challenge godly teachings they were raised with. In fact they blame us and the church for a lot of their adult problems. I feel like coming back to church would help these problems, but they reject it. It makes me question what was it all for.



Anyone's adult kids come back around to the church in time?

OP, what was it all for, in your view?

Homeschooling was very difficult, lots of conflicts and fights daily. Also, the loss of one income was hard to recover from. It seems like a huge waste of time, money and energy.

Yes, it was. And almost certainly worse academically than a public school. Why didn't you send your kids to public school?

There was a movement in the 1990’s to homeschool with creationism as a basis. So the homeschooling curriculum didn’t conflict with church doctrine.

What church doctrine?

Many Christian denominations including Catholic, Lutheran, and Episcopalian believe in evolution. Creation is a Bible story, not science.

Catholics definitely don’t believe in evolution!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of our kids attend church as adults, in fact they say our religion is a cult now. They were home schooled and attended church school. Their kids go to public school and don't regularly attend church. They drink alcohol and challenge godly teachings they were raised with. In fact they blame us and the church for a lot of their adult problems. I feel like coming back to church would help these problems, but they reject it. It makes me question what was it all for.

Anyone's adult kids come back around to the church in time?

What types of problems?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the real value of a religion? To teach you discipline to be a good person and to give you a connection with a source which gives you peace of mind in difficult times and a community which gives you feeling of belonging. Imho, rest is just fine print.

The fine print includes disclosures of hell fire and damnation. Alway read the fine print.

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Anonymous wrote:None of our kids attend church as adults, in fact they say our religion is a cult now. They were home schooled and attended church school. Their kids go to public school and don't regularly attend church. They drink alcohol and challenge godly teachings they were raised with. In fact they blame us and the church for a lot of their adult problems. I feel like coming back to church would help these problems, but they reject it. It makes me question what was it all for.



Anyone's adult kids come back around to the church in time?

OP, what was it all for, in your view?

Homeschooling was very difficult, lots of conflicts and fights daily. Also, the loss of one income was hard to recover from. It seems like a huge waste of time, money and energy.

Yes, it was. And almost certainly worse academically than a public school. Why didn't you send your kids to public school?

There was a movement in the 1990’s to homeschool with creationism as a basis. So the homeschooling curriculum didn’t conflict with church doctrine.

What church doctrine?

Many Christian denominations including Catholic, Lutheran, and Episcopalian believe in evolution. Creation is a Bible story, not science.

Catholics definitely don’t believe in evolution!!

Um, yes, they do.

The Catholic Church has repeatedly made clear that biological evolution is compatible with Christian belief.

https://catholicscientists.org/questions/q1-a-does-the-catholic-church-accept-evolution-b-did-the-catholic-church-ever-condemn-evolution-in-the-past/

According to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, any believer may accept either literal or special creation within the period of an actual six-day, twenty-four-hour period, or they may accept the belief that the earth evolved over time under the guidance of God. Catholicism holds that God initiated and continued the process of his evolutionary creation, that Adam and Eve were real people, and affirms that all humans, whether specially created or evolved, have and have always had specially created souls for each individual. Catholic schools in the United States and other countries teach evolution as part of their science curriculum. They teach the fact that evolution occurs and the modern evolutionary synthesis, which is the scientific theory that explains how evolution proceeds.

[Anonymous]

OP- I’m so sorry for your disappointment considering all the hard work you put into your kids. Maybe you came down too hard on them and didn’t give them room to grow/ breathe and denied them opportunities to form their own free wills. Maybe they have discovered their new found freedom and are exercising that free will now. I just think the whole homeschooling thing is so extreme. It’s the same concept as denying people junk food for a life time and when they finally get some freedom they binge on every junk food imaginable and end up 400lbs. Balance with religion is key. There is no sense in being so insular bc the world is not like that. You don’t have to be homeschooled to live a faith filled life. You were so scared of the outside world and it blew up in your face. Just accept (that albeit late in life) they are exercising their free will and continue to pray for them.