Tales of OLD

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Anonymous wrote:For those recommending online research, How do you even know they are telling you their real name?

Yeah, I have not used OLD in a decade, but I was certainly never giving my real full name or expecting one in return before meeting up.

You didn't get a full name before meeting in person? Via texting or whatever? I haven't used OLD myself, I just know that my relative had the guy's full name and it was the right person when I Googled him -- his photo was on an old business profile online and it was definitely the same guy who was on the OLD site she'd used. I think he gave her his name outside the site when he asked her out. They never did have a date, of course....

No, I'm a woman so I didn't want strangers to be able to look me up via my full name and find out where I live. Especially since most meetings go nowhere after 1-2 dates. And it would feel unfair to expect a full name without providing one.

So.... you, what? Got a burner phone, a burner email address and a rental car? Just so you could go on a date with some guy?

You've clearly never done OLD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those recommending online research, How do you even know they are telling you their real name?

Yeah, I have not used OLD in a decade, but I was certainly never giving my real full name or expecting one in return before meeting up.

You didn't get a full name before meeting in person? Via texting or whatever? I haven't used OLD myself, I just know that my relative had the guy's full name and it was the right person when I Googled him -- his photo was on an old business profile online and it was definitely the same guy who was on the OLD site she'd used. I think he gave her his name outside the site when he asked her out. They never did have a date, of course....

No, I'm a woman so I didn't want strangers to be able to look me up via my full name and find out where I live. Especially since most meetings go nowhere after 1-2 dates. And it would feel unfair to expect a full name without providing one.

So.... you, what? Got a burner phone, a burner email address and a rental car? Just so you could go on a date with some guy?

You've clearly never done OLD.

Correct. I'm not a loser.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Any interesting recent tales of OLD? I need a support network. Haha

Been on scores of first dates in the past few years. 50+ though I have not actually counted the number.

Never had a horrid experience. 90+% of the first dates are just fine, normal dates that end up with either me not feeling it or the other person not feeling it to continue the dating process. The rest go for a few more dates before fizzling out. I did find an LTR though (which I am very happy with) and it would not have happened if I did not put in the world.

But that does not make for any sordid “tales of old” material. When I read horror stories of OLD I just shake my head and think how stupid or unlucky the person would be to put themselves in a position to have such a bad date. It is pretty easy to screen out “crazy” or completely “incompetent” or even somewhat “incompatible” within a few messages or phone calls before the first date. Be smart you dumbos😇

I suspect you are someone else's bad date story.

You are very condescending. The man I got an std from is highly educated and works in a hospital. We had several dates.

I am not dumb. You were lucky.

I was lucky over 50 first dates at not having a horrible one? No. I know how to screen out and not waste time on complete losers. The ones I do choose to go on a first date with meet the barebones threshold of being decent people with an education, profession and public facing image that meets a relatively high bar I set for myself. I don’t give time (aka first date) to losers who don’t make the cut. I will usually have extended comms via text and or phone and or FaceTime before meeting in person. The 50 first dates probably after 150+ OLD matches that I screened out after a few exchanges or some quick internet sleuthing 😒 which some dumb people are incapable of doing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any interesting recent tales of OLD? I need a support network. Haha

Been on scores of first dates in the past few years. 50+ though I have not actually counted the number.

Never had a horrid experience. 90+% of the first dates are just fine, normal dates that end up with either me not feeling it or the other person not feeling it to continue the dating process. The rest go for a few more dates before fizzling out. I did find an LTR though (which I am very happy with) and it would not have happened if I did not put in the world.

But that does not make for any sordid “tales of old” material. When I read horror stories of OLD I just shake my head and think how stupid or unlucky the person would be to put themselves in a position to have such a bad date. It is pretty easy to screen out “crazy” or completely “incompetent” or even somewhat “incompatible” within a few messages or phone calls before the first date. Be smart you dumbos😇

You are very condescending. The man I got an std from is highly educated and works in a hospital. We had several dates.

I am not dumb. You were lucky.

I was lucky over 50 first dates at not having a horrible one? No. I know how to screen out and not waste time on complete losers. The ones I do choose to go on a first date with meet the barebones threshold of being decent people with an education, profession and public facing image that meets a relatively high bar I set for myself. I don’t give time (aka first date) to losers who don’t make the cut. I will usually have extended comms via text and or phone and or FaceTime before meeting in person. The 50 first dates probably after 150+ OLD matches that I screened out after a few exchanges or some quick internet sleuthing 😒 which some dumb people are incapable of doing

I suspect you are someone else's bad first date story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any interesting recent tales of OLD? I need a support network. Haha

Been on scores of first dates in the past few years. 50+ though I have not actually counted the number.

Never had a horrid experience. 90+% of the first dates are just fine, normal dates that end up with either me not feeling it or the other person not feeling it to continue the dating process. The rest go for a few more dates before fizzling out. I did find an LTR though (which I am very happy with) and it would not have happened if I did not put in the world.

But that does not make for any sordid “tales of old” material. When I read horror stories of OLD I just shake my head and think how stupid or unlucky the person would be to put themselves in a position to have such a bad date. It is pretty easy to screen out “crazy” or completely “incompetent” or even somewhat “incompatible” within a few messages or phone calls before the first date. Be smart you dumbos😇

150 dates and 1 LTR ?
You must be a real charmer !

Me thinks that poster is the crazy one that others have stories about

BINGO.

[Anonymous]

I have been on a ton of dates after my husband died at 45. I also didn't have too many truly terrible ones, but some were weird enough to make a good story to tell my friends. I always get full names and run a background check, and check for court cases.

I slept with one on the first date, then we dated for 7 months. Another one I waited 3dates and ended up together for two years. I really don't think it matters. You're either compatible or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im a woman on OLD. Decent men know to give you their full name and personal info to help show that they are decent men. They know they need to show you that they are a good, non threatening man for you to meet them. They wont ask for the same in return if you arent comfortable doing so. Good dudes get it.

The men who wont give you their real name/contact info are married or have something else to hide.

This. I always share my LinkedIn profile so that women can know as much as me as they want to before we go out. It has only led to issues once or twice, where prospective dates saw me as a ticket out of their financial troubles. That was relatively easy to ascertain by date #2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently got an STD. He lied about being tested. I had been tested.

Guy before him turned out to be married.

I think I am done.

Do people still show each other the STD exam results before sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Been on scores of first dates in the past few years. 50+ though I have not actually counted the number.

Never had a horrid experience. 90+% of the first dates are just fine, normal dates that end up with either me not feeling it or the other person not feeling it to continue the dating process. The rest go for a few more dates before fizzling out. I did find an LTR though (which I am very happy with) and it would not have happened if I did not put in the world.

But that does not make for any sordid “tales of old” material. When I read horror stories of OLD I just shake my head and think how stupid or unlucky the person would be to put themselves in a position to have such a bad date. It is pretty easy to screen out “crazy” or completely “incompetent” or even somewhat “incompatible” within a few messages or phone calls before the first date. Be smart you dumbos😇

You must be old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those recommending online research, How do you even know they are telling you their real name?

Yeah, I have not used OLD in a decade, but I was certainly never giving my real full name or expecting one in return before meeting up.

You didn't get a full name before meeting in person? Via texting or whatever? I haven't used OLD myself, I just know that my relative had the guy's full name and it was the right person when I Googled him -- his photo was on an old business profile online and it was definitely the same guy who was on the OLD site she'd used. I think he gave her his name outside the site when he asked her out. They never did have a date, of course....

No, I'm a woman so I didn't want strangers to be able to look me up via my full name and find out where I live. Especially since most meetings go nowhere after 1-2 dates. And it would feel unfair to expect a full name without providing one.

So.... you, what? Got a burner phone, a burner email address and a rental car? Just so you could go on a date with some guy?

You've clearly never done OLD.

Correct. I'm not a loser.

No need to be a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recently got an STD. He lied about being tested. I had been tested.

Guy before him turned out to be married.

I think I am done.

Do people still show each other the STD exam results before sex?

Most don’t - just use condoms. But the thing is if there is still rubbing, touching or oral exchange - you are not protected from a number of STDs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im a woman on OLD. Decent men know to give you their full name and personal info to help show that they are decent men. They know they need to show you that they are a good, non threatening man for you to meet them. They wont ask for the same in return if you arent comfortable doing so. Good dudes get it.

The men who wont give you their real name/contact info are married or have something else to hide.

This. I always share my LinkedIn profile so that women can know as much as me as they want to before we go out. It has only led to issues once or twice, where prospective dates saw me as a ticket out of their financial troubles. That was relatively easy to ascertain by date #2.

How do you ascertain it by date 2?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recently got an STD. He lied about being tested. I had been tested.

Guy before him turned out to be married.

I think I am done.

Do people still show each other the STD exam results before sex?

If they don't, they should: https://newsroom.clevelandclinic.org/2024/04/08/why-stis-are-on-the-rise-in-the-us (just one of many studies/articles about STIs here and worldwide)

And just saying, "It's treatable" is not really the answer. Some treatable STIs can cause a lot of issues because they show few to no symptoms for a long time, and some strains can be aggressive or resistant to treatments.

This was years ago, before OLD was a thing and long before I was married, but I met a man while I was on a long-term work assignment and he and I decided to have a sexual relationship. That sounds weird to write that way, but that was how it was, we wanted sex with each other and agreed to be exclusive for that time, but we both wanted to get tested. We actually went together to be tested at the same time in the same lab! We had to wait like 8-12 days, I think, for certain results. It was worth it, and the waiting actually created a period when we were building up a lot of, let's say, positive tension. But I'd never have said yes to sex with him without seeing his results and I insisted he see mine so we were on the same page about everything. But back then, people also weren't hooking up easily via OLD with just a few swipes and a text or two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recently got an STD. He lied about being tested. I had been tested.

Guy before him turned out to be married.

I think I am done.

Do people still show each other the STD exam results before sex?

Most don’t - just use condoms. But the thing is if there is still rubbing, touching or oral exchange - you are not protected from a number of STDs

I'm not going down on a woman I just met. I'll bone her, wrapped, but no oral.

The idea of oral on some random 45 yo woman is kinda gross af, tbh.

[Anonymous]

Within 45 mins of our first date a woman told me that I was the one and that she was falling in love. And it get worse. Then she proceeded to say that she hopes I will her back home withe because she wanted to have sex with me and that I would love the lingerie she picked up for the night. The crazy thing is we never talked anything remotely sexual before and she didn't give that weird vibe at all. This was after my divorce I was 46 and she was 39.