Low SES mother asking: where to buy a dress

[Anonymous]

Do you have Kohl's near you?

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe how judgmental, unkind and unhelpful some of you are choosing to be to a mother who has been saving for something special for your daughter.

Look in the mirror. You are the Mean Girls. It’s you. Shame on you.

OP, I’m glad you and your daughter found a special dress. Get off DCUM for a while and enjoy your family and your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how judgmental, unkind and unhelpful some of you are choosing to be to a mother who has been saving for something special for your daughter.

Look in the mirror. You are the Mean Girls. It’s you. Shame on you.

OP, I’m glad you and your daughter found a special dress. Get off DCUM for a while and enjoy your family and your life.

I just don’t think that other PP’s response about thrifting was that bad…she did not seem to be posting in a mean-spirited way, and then she apologized.

[Anonymous]

I would try Belk if you have one nearby. They’re not in northern Va or md but they have a great line of clothes called Crown and Ivy. Cute cuts and designs.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OK, OP, I apologize. I was recently dazzled by a beautiful thrifted dress and I'm sorry I made you angry.

It must be so nice to leisurely thrift like it’s a game and a score and not a necessity. How very dazzling. I’m glad I made you feel superior, like people like me probably do every day. You are welcome.

OP either you are a troll or something is very wrong with you.
-NP

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Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OK, OP, I apologize. I was recently dazzled by a beautiful thrifted dress and I'm sorry I made you angry.

It must be so nice to leisurely thrift like it’s a game and a score and not a necessity. How very dazzling. I’m glad I made you feel superior, like people like me probably do every day. You are welcome.

OP either you are a troll or something is very wrong with you.
-NP

Troll. There are no poor people on dcum. Plus no one needs to be told what brick and mortar stores sell girls average priced girls dresses. It’s common knowledge.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OK, OP, I apologize. I was recently dazzled by a beautiful thrifted dress and I'm sorry I made you angry.

It must be so nice to leisurely thrift like it’s a game and a score and not a necessity. How very dazzling. I’m glad I made you feel superior, like people like me probably do every day. You are welcome.

OP either you are a troll or something is very wrong with you.
-NP

OP has always identified herself when she posts. I'm not convinced this pot stirrer is OP.

[Anonymous]

Target, TJ Maxx, Anthropologie

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If the OP is the one calling people "sanctimonious" for suggesting thrift shops, she has issues.

Thrift shops aren't great if you will only make one stop and need something that day, though. FWIW, I got my DD's 5th grade "graduation" outfit at Target. Lots to choose from there, and I don't think 5th grade graduation is usually that dressy.

[Anonymous]

Check out Nordstrom, Macy's, JC Penney, and Kohl's. If there is a particular brand you like, try searching the brand on Amazon. They often have lower pieces. Enjoy the event with your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how judgmental, unkind and unhelpful some of you are choosing to be to a mother who has been saving for something special for your daughter.

Look in the mirror. You are the Mean Girls. It’s you. Shame on you.

OP, I’m glad you and your daughter found a special dress. Get off DCUM for a while and enjoy your family and your life.

Yours is the meanest attitude in the thread, though.

[Anonymous]

I know this is probably not what you wanna hear, but some thrift stores have absolutely outstanding dresses! My daughter has had a number of thrift store dresses that she's gotten compliments on. However, if you really feel like you need to buy something new, I would try Kohl's , Macys, Francescas, etc

[Anonymous]

I agree with lulus online. Macys or collards online too.

[Anonymous]

I think because you put “low SES” in the subject line, people thought you were looking for budget-friendly options for a nice tween dress.

Plus, unless you literally buy a custom made dress or a dress from a high end designer, all tween girl dresses are pretty much crap. So, why spend $150+ at Nordstrom when you can buy something equally cute at Target for $30?

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how judgmental, unkind and unhelpful some of you are choosing to be to a mother who has been saving for something special for your daughter.

Look in the mirror. You are the Mean Girls. It’s you. Shame on you.

OP, I’m glad you and your daughter found a special dress. Get off DCUM for a while and enjoy your family and your life.

Yours is the meanest attitude in the thread, though.

I disagree with you.
NP