Low SES mother asking: where to buy a dress

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to spend much, Value Village in Silver Spring. My friend and I are middle class, but we've found some great stuff there, and there are usually quite a lot of choices, for kids and adults.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

[Anonymous]

go to a thift store, got a dress that is too big and have it fitted to her

the chest area needs to be simple, like a zip up back without alot of lace etc

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

So happy you found something. If you need to do this in the future, Burlington always seems to have nice dresses and shoes.

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OK, OP, I apologize. I was recently dazzled by a beautiful thrifted dress and I'm sorry I made you angry.

[Anonymous]

I’ve found dresses and other clothes at Value Village for myself.

TJ Maxx
Target
Ross

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OK, OP, I apologize. I was recently dazzled by a beautiful thrifted dress and I'm sorry I made you angry.

It must be so nice to leisurely thrift like it’s a game and a score and not a necessity. How very dazzling. I’m glad I made you feel superior, like people like me probably do every day. You are welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OK, OP, I apologize. I was recently dazzled by a beautiful thrifted dress and I'm sorry I made you angry.

It must be so nice to leisurely thrift like it’s a game and a score and not a necessity. How very dazzling. I’m glad I made you feel superior, like people like me probably do every day. You are welcome.

NP. This is a pretty outsized reaction to what that PP actually wrote.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this mom is asking for stores that are slightly nicer than Target? It sounds like she saved for awhile for a nicer dress but OP, if you give us your price range we can help you better.

I've literally found $100+ reduced to $15 at Macy's - that takes luck and time - but that's where I'd start. BTW SES isn't that relevant here - I don't like spending money on things the kid is going to wear once or twice.

Agree with this. In college, I used to go thrifting for fun. My son's recent prom date had a beautiful and unusual dress that she admitted to thrifting when I asked. Very impressed with her style. If you are feeling budget-constrained, think about the possibilities of teaching your daughter how to be ecologically-friendly and financially prudent. I looked at Thredup not long ago and the prices looked like it was possible to take some risks there, too.

Did you not read OPs post?? She always thrifts and wants to splurge here. She doesn’t need a schoolmarm-ish lecture about how to teach her daughter to be “ecologically friendly and financially prudent.”

It wasn't meant to be a lecture. Just encouragement to buck the system. Single use dresses are often among the easiest things to find. Sorry OP, I didn't mean to give offense. Poster above, suggest you direct your energy away from attacking other posters.

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OK, OP, I apologize. I was recently dazzled by a beautiful thrifted dress and I'm sorry I made you angry.

It must be so nice to leisurely thrift like it’s a game and a score and not a necessity. How very dazzling. I’m glad I made you feel superior, like people like me probably do every day. You are welcome.

NP. This is a pretty outsized reaction to what that PP actually wrote.

Must be a South Pole Troll

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing as a “nice” dress for a 10 yr old. Anything you can buy in stores is pretty much the same quality cheap crap. Whether is Macy’s, Penny’s, Target, Kohls. All the same polyester garbage

[Anonymous]

OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OP, this isn't a very kind response to people that were trying to help. Try assuming that people generally have good intentions, especially when you are asking others for advice.

[Anonymous]

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OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OP, this isn't a very kind response to people that were trying to help. Try assuming that people generally have good intentions, especially when you are asking others for advice.

Being kind is answering the question asked, not passing judgment on the environment and what have you. Especially when your consumerism versus mine makes you a massive hypocrite for doing so. Again, let’s compare square footage of homes, number of cars, frequency of buying used clothing versus new, and frequency of air travel before you dare open your mouth to me about environmental impact of frugality. Think before you speak.

[Anonymous]

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OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OP, this isn't a very kind response to people that were trying to help. Try assuming that people generally have good intentions, especially when you are asking others for advice.

Being kind is answering the question asked, not passing judgment on the environment and what have you. Especially when your consumerism versus mine makes you a massive hypocrite for doing so. Again, let’s compare square footage of homes, number of cars, frequency of buying used clothing versus new, and frequency of air travel before you dare open your mouth to me about environmental impact of frugality. Think before you speak.

You go OP! And congrats to you and your daughter. I hope she's happy with the dress and you had fun shopping. I miss those days with my daughter.

[Anonymous]

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OP here. I took it as a lecture. I’ve explained that we are usually not only thrifty but—as it stands to reason, thank you very much—ecologically friendly BY DEFAULT. Literally this ONE TIME I wanted to go to a store where well-to-do people buy new clothes for a special occasion, and treat my daughter. Spare me your sanctimony. This one freaking time I didn’t want to rely on hand-me-downs or Once Upon a Child. If you want to lecture me on the environment, let’s start with the size of our homes and the number of cars we both have. If you want to talk about ecology and financial prudence, tell me the last time you bought yourself a brand-new item of clothing. For me, it was 2011. If you want to lecture me about being financially prudent and being environmentally friendly, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? For me it was 2008.

I got my daughter a dress and a pair of shoes at Macy’s. THANK YOU to all the posters who actually just answered my question with no lectures, or extraneous yip yap. I truly do appreciate the few of you who actually get what I was doing today and why it was important.

OP, this isn't a very kind response to people that were trying to help. Try assuming that people generally have good intentions, especially when you are asking others for advice.

Being kind is answering the question asked, not passing judgment on the environment and what have you. Especially when your consumerism versus mine makes you a massive hypocrite for doing so. Again, let’s compare square footage of homes, number of cars, frequency of buying used clothing versus new, and frequency of air travel before you dare open your mouth to me about environmental impact of frugality. Think before you speak.

Omg OP. You have a huge chip on your shoulder. Maybe this is forum for you. Next time ask on your neighborhood Fb page