Help: 14 years boy told mom he is a gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend in high school whose parents made him do counseling with their pastor to "make him get over being gay".

The result of that counseling (and the "summer camp" they sent him to) was that he was suicidal.

My friend today, fortunately he recovered, doesn't speak to his parents. My point here being: if you love your son, love who he is. Definitely steer very far away from anyone who claims they can change him

No one is saying this, there are regular counselors that can help with being gay and determining if it's some trauma that needs to be addressed manifesting as gay. It's ok to be gay but support is important to help the child.

I wonder if gay people need to go to counselors if they think they might be straight. You know, to see if there is some trauma that needs to be addressed that’s manifesting itself as STRAIGHT.

This doesn't make sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend in high school whose parents made him do counseling with their pastor to "make him get over being gay".

The result of that counseling (and the "summer camp" they sent him to) was that he was suicidal.

My friend today, fortunately he recovered, doesn't speak to his parents. My point here being: if you love your son, love who he is. Definitely steer very far away from anyone who claims they can change him

No one is saying this, there are regular counselors that can help with being gay and determining if it's some trauma that needs to be addressed manifesting as gay. It's ok to be gay but support is important to help the child.

I wonder if gay people need to go to counselors if they think they might be straight. You know, to see if there is some trauma that needs to be addressed that’s manifesting itself as STRAIGHT.

This doesn't make sense

Exactly and either does the comment about them going to counselors to address trauma that might be manifesting as gay.

Figure out the sarcasm sweetie

[Anonymous]

I’m not even going to read the responses jumping to conclusions OP. My kid went through the same thing and when I gently dug it was based on an online quiz and her lack of attraction to boys at the time.

Spoiler, she’s not gay.

There is so much pressure on kids in this area to have a defined sexuality announced and to be gay / trans / bi and proud, but most kids just aren’t. My approach was don’t worry about it, when you know you know, a quiz won’t tell you you’re gay.

But the culture police will likely be in full force saying you must support and start flying rainbow flags, but to me, that’s just pressure your kid doesn’t need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not even going to read the responses jumping to conclusions OP. My kid went through the same thing and when I gently dug it was based on an online quiz and her lack of attraction to boys at the time.

Spoiler, she’s not gay.

There is so much pressure on kids in this area to have a defined sexuality announced and to be gay / trans / bi and proud, but most kids just aren’t. My approach was don’t worry about it, when you know you know, a quiz won’t tell you you’re gay.

But the culture police will likely be in full force saying you must support and start flying rainbow flags, but to me, that’s just pressure your kid doesn’t need.

Depending on how you approached this, you could’ve just closeted your daughter. This happened to me where my mother insisted it wasn’t possible I was gay and pushed me back on the closet. I didn’t end up fully accepting myself and coming out until my 20s. Don’t do this. Just nod and accept and note that her understanding of herself will grow over time.