What has a lack of sex done to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try giving your spouse love and affection (hugs, kiss, warm touch on the arm/back), say nice things to them etc. during the day. This will help.
To be cold and distant from spouse during day and expect sex at night is unreasonable. People (especially women) need to feel loved and cared for, not just used

I think this is true.
In my case however any touch at all is unwelcome.
And any discussion to try and address the issue is unwelcome.
So coparenting it is.
I used to be angry about it. But once we passed the 5 year mark I just stopped looking at her in any manner whatsoever other than a co-parent.

[Anonymous]

No judgment but I’m grateful my lack of a sex life has exactly zero effect on the rest of my life. Truly grateful, but I have always been independent so it’s my personality, nothing more. People probably feel sorry for me and they can go right ahead.

I do not make ill-advised decisions based on romantic considerations, and I will not tolerate being around people below my standards just to avoid being “lonely” or to have sex.

I find meaning, happiness, and fulfillment without a relationship or partner.

I also own a great vibrator and use it on the regular, ex husband couldn’t compete with it at all.

Normalizing living this way may help people. As if we need more issues to feel “less-than” about these days! Live your life!

[Anonymous]

Answer

Gives me more time to do my crafts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No judgment but I’m grateful my lack of a sex life has exactly zero effect on the rest of my life. Truly grateful, but I have always been independent so it’s my personality, nothing more. People probably feel sorry for me and they can go right ahead.

I do not make ill-advised decisions based on romantic considerations, and I will not tolerate being around people below my standards just to avoid being “lonely” or to have sex.

I find meaning, happiness, and fulfillment without a relationship or partner.

I also own a great vibrator and use it on the regular, ex husband couldn’t compete with it at all.

Normalizing living this way may help people. As if we need more issues to feel “less-than” about these days! Live your life!

This, for sure. Lack of a sex life has led to a dramatic drop in drama and depression from unmet expectations. I please me. That's enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Answer

Gives me more time to do my crafts.

Also this. Time for interests that aren't centered in my pants. Much more intellectually stimulating!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No judgment but I’m grateful my lack of a sex life has exactly zero effect on the rest of my life. Truly grateful, but I have always been independent so it’s my personality, nothing more. People probably feel sorry for me and they can go right ahead.

I do not make ill-advised decisions based on romantic considerations, and I will not tolerate being around people below my standards just to avoid being “lonely” or to have sex.

I find meaning, happiness, and fulfillment without a relationship or partner.

I also own a great vibrator and use it on the regular, ex husband couldn’t compete with it at all.

Normalizing living this way may help people. As if we need more issues to feel “less-than” about these days! Live your life!

This, for sure. Lack of a sex life has led to a dramatic drop in drama and depression from unmet expectations. I please me. That's enough.

High five!

Also, I believe my independence absolutely stops men from approaching me. I am very attractive and likely “intimidating”.

If they’re afraid of me they can keep walking. Weeds out losers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having the human connection that comes from sex is so important and fundamental.

Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

My spouse has a very low drive. So what’s it done to me? I fantasize about when my kids go to college and I can leave and have a new life.

For YOU maybe. What you just said: If you're not having sex throughout your entire life, up until the terminal weeks right before you die, then you do not have a fundamental connection to a human.

Does anyone else reading this disagree? Because I'm quite certain I have a handful of "fundamental" "connections" to other humans -- my mother, my son -- without banging them.

You know what else is fundamental? Reading.

[Anonymous]

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

Sex isn’t healthy if your partner isn’t monogamous . It becomes dangerous then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Disconnection from myself, my life energy, my creativity, my light.

You really hold orgasms in high regard eh?

It's not that orgasms themselves are so great. It's the physical intimacy with someone you love. It's not the thing itself, it's the thing with who it's with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No judgment but I’m grateful my lack of a sex life has exactly zero effect on the rest of my life. Truly grateful, but I have always been independent so it’s my personality, nothing more. People probably feel sorry for me and they can go right ahead.

I do not make ill-advised decisions based on romantic considerations, and I will not tolerate being around people below my standards just to avoid being “lonely” or to have sex.

I find meaning, happiness, and fulfillment without a relationship or partner.

I also own a great vibrator and use it on the regular, ex husband couldn’t compete with it at all.

Normalizing living this way may help people. As if we need more issues to feel “less-than” about these days! Live your life!

This, for sure. Lack of a sex life has led to a dramatic drop in drama and depression from unmet expectations. I please me. That's enough.

High five!

Also, I believe my independence absolutely stops men from approaching me. I am very attractive and likely “intimidating”.

If they’re afraid of me they can keep walking. Weeds out losers.

You're lack of fear is what makes me afraid. Perhaps you should grow in some humility.

[Anonymous]

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.

Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.

[Anonymous]

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.

Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.

Nope. My "problem" was not recklessness or sex. I've had good relationships and ones that end up problematic. You might want to try not to be so judgmental.

[Anonymous]

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.

Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.

Nope. My "problem" was not recklessness or sex. I've had good relationships and ones that end up problematic. You might want to try not to be so judgmental.

So the herpes was from you being safe?