What has a lack of sex done to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to burst the infighting battle, but I can only speak for myself.

DW and I have sex infrequently but not full dead bedroom. Sometimes it's once a week, sometimes a couple months goes by. The difference seems to be only if I do, and initiate everything. She will complain if we go without long enough, but I so little positive feedback I barely want to.

I'd like to have sex with someone who seems like they are enjoying it, and I don't get that from DW. Haven't had a blowjob in almost a decade. Not that I don't want one, but she clearly doesn't enthusiastically want to. I'm sure a half hearted blowjob is better than no blowjob. But I'm not going to beg for a reluctant blowjob.

Do a sniff check. You might be musty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not to burst the infighting battle, but I can only speak for myself.

DW and I have sex infrequently but not full dead bedroom. Sometimes it's once a week, sometimes a couple months goes by. The difference seems to be only if I do, and initiate everything. She will complain if we go without long enough, but I so little positive feedback I barely want to.

I'd like to have sex with someone who seems like they are enjoying it, and I don't get that from DW. Haven't had a blowjob in almost a decade. Not that I don't want one, but she clearly doesn't enthusiastically want to. I'm sure a half hearted blowjob is better than no blowjob. But I'm not going to beg for a reluctant blowjob.

We've been married almost 31 years. I've received one twice, for a minute or so each.

I rarely gave my husband a BJ until I started using a vibrator on myself at the same time. Now we are both very happy.

[Anonymous]

At 52 I finally bit the bullet and got a mommy makeover: tummy tuck, breast lift and lipo. It sounds frivolous but our sex life is very much back on track.

[Anonymous]

I was abused by the person who wanted sex. You would have to ask him what it did to him. I just know that he got some blue bills and continued humping me.
He may have had ASD level 1. His thinking was very black and white. Days of silent treatment and more.
I left and he took for the worse.
I think I can diagnose it now. Had sex with someone 2 months ago, and recognized it in a minute.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not to burst the infighting battle, but I can only speak for myself.

DW and I have sex infrequently but not full dead bedroom. Sometimes it's once a week, sometimes a couple months goes by. The difference seems to be only if I do, and initiate everything. She will complain if we go without long enough, but I so little positive feedback I barely want to.

I'd like to have sex with someone who seems like they are enjoying it, and I don't get that from DW. Haven't had a blowjob in almost a decade. Not that I don't want one, but she clearly doesn't enthusiastically want to. I'm sure a half hearted blowjob is better than no blowjob. But I'm not going to beg for a reluctant blowjob.

We've been married almost 31 years. I've received one twice, for a minute or so each.

I rarely gave my husband a BJ until I started using a vibrator on myself at the same time. Now we are both very happy.

Hot!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was abused by the person who wanted sex. You would have to ask him what it did to him. I just know that he got some blue bills and continued humping me.
He may have had ASD level 1. His thinking was very black and white. Days of silent treatment and more.
I left and he took for the worse.
I think I can diagnose it now. Had sex with someone 2 months ago, and recognized it in a minute.

I don’t understand.

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Anonymous wrote:By the way, perimenopause and menopause does not cause painful sex. In fact, there is often in increase in libido during these stages.

You're wrong.

She’s absolutely not wrong.


-perimenopausal woman having the time of her life!

Me too!

[Anonymous]

After reading this, I’m so happy I’m single, 42 yo and rich.

[Anonymous]

Simply put it led to my divorce. It took a long time for me to get back my sexual confidence and once I did it’s been wonderful. My ex is definitely missing out on the far more adventurous me. But he was very vanilla so maybe not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 52 I finally bit the bullet and got a mommy makeover: tummy tuck, breast lift and lipo. It sounds frivolous but our sex life is very much back on track.

I am very happy for you. I think we men will never understand how women feel about their body when they reach a certain age. I'm glad your DH was supportive.

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Anonymous wrote:Not to burst the infighting battle, but I can only speak for myself.

DW and I have sex infrequently but not full dead bedroom. Sometimes it's once a week, sometimes a couple months goes by. The difference seems to be only if I do, and initiate everything. She will complain if we go without long enough, but I so little positive feedback I barely want to.

I'd like to have sex with someone who seems like they are enjoying it, and I don't get that from DW. Haven't had a blowjob in almost a decade. Not that I don't want one, but she clearly doesn't enthusiastically want to. I'm sure a half hearted blowjob is better than no blowjob. But I'm not going to beg for a reluctant blowjob.

We've been married almost 31 years. I've received one twice, for a minute or so each.

I rarely gave my husband a BJ until I started using a vibrator on myself at the same time. Now we are both very happy.

Hot!!

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Anonymous wrote:Not to burst the infighting battle, but I can only speak for myself.

DW and I have sex infrequently but not full dead bedroom. Sometimes it's once a week, sometimes a couple months goes by. The difference seems to be only if I do, and initiate everything. She will complain if we go without long enough, but I so little positive feedback I barely want to.

I'd like to have sex with someone who seems like they are enjoying it, and I don't get that from DW. Haven't had a blowjob in almost a decade. Not that I don't want one, but she clearly doesn't enthusiastically want to. I'm sure a half hearted blowjob is better than no blowjob. But I'm not going to beg for a reluctant blowjob.

We've been married almost 31 years. I've received one twice, for a minute or so each.

I rarely gave my husband a BJ until I started using a vibrator on myself at the same time. Now we are both very happy.

Hot!!

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That's good, too, but the first scene is a doozy! My gf and I do it once in a while.

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

DP, but the PP has a point that there are people who do require regular sex to be mentally/emotionally/physically healthy. For them, sex is a need.

Nope. Words have meanings. Sorry.

Oh my god. Not you again. I get that you're frigid and want everyone else to be. Sex is a need for A LOT of people. You not feeling that it is doesn't negate other people's need.

No, it isn’t, no matter how many times you stamp your little foot and try to change the meaning of the word “need.”

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

DP, but the PP has a point that there are people who do require regular sex to be mentally/emotionally/physically healthy. For them, sex is a need.

NP, I might put it this way: exercise is not really a need per se but we are all
aware that the human body and mental health are better with exercise.

Exercise doesnt bring mommy wounds and sti’s. Pleasing yourself brings the physiological release. And after many years, some people just prefer the company of friends (which is the most sustaining kind of love anyway, as studies are finding).

What is "mommy wounds"?

Imagine if this was everyone’s thought process. “I’m too afraid of Sti’s to ever have sex.”

Also just like the other commenter-what the heck is a mommy wound?

Men are so incredibly myopic and selfish. That's why there are so many out there who try to cajole their wives and girlfriends into having sex just days or weeks after pushing a freaking watermelon out of her vagina. :roll:

I’m so tired of this. As a woman-I wouldn’t just accept my husband saying he didn’t want to try solve his ED with medication. So why should a man accept if a woman says she is going through menopause/some other hormonal thing and that’s that? Without ever taking any steps to make it better? It’s so one sided and unfair. In a marriage you don’t just get to decide you are done with something without considering the other person-that’s simply not how a marriage works.

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You’re both stupid. ED is a dysfunction. Menopause is a normal process of life.

As are you.
See a doctor get meds and correct the issue.

I understand that you’re an imbecile. You don’t need to keep doubling down on it with these childish middle school level retorts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Simply put it led to my divorce. It took a long time for me to get back my sexual confidence and once I did it’s been wonderful. My ex is definitely missing out on the far more adventurous me. But he was very vanilla so maybe not.

Unless he is a loser I am sure he can another woman because you aren't the only woman on earth.

Why do women always say things like their ex is going to miss XYZ from them?