What has a lack of sex done to you?

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Anonymous wrote:No judgment but I’m grateful my lack of a sex life has exactly zero effect on the rest of my life. Truly grateful, but I have always been independent so it’s my personality, nothing more. People probably feel sorry for me and they can go right ahead.

I do not make ill-advised decisions based on romantic considerations, and I will not tolerate being around people below my standards just to avoid being “lonely” or to have sex.

I find meaning, happiness, and fulfillment without a relationship or partner.

I also own a great vibrator and use it on the regular, ex husband couldn’t compete with it at all.

Normalizing living this way may help people. As if we need more issues to feel “less-than” about these days! Live your life!

This, for sure. Lack of a sex life has led to a dramatic drop in drama and depression from unmet expectations. I please me. That's enough.

High five!

Also, I believe my independence absolutely stops men from approaching me. I am very attractive and likely “intimidating”.

If they’re afraid of me they can keep walking. Weeds out losers.

You're lack of fear is what makes me afraid. Perhaps you should grow in some humility.

Then keep walking.

[Anonymous]

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.

Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.

Nope. My "problem" was not recklessness or sex. I've had good relationships and ones that end up problematic. You might want to try not to be so judgmental.

So the herpes was from you being safe?

Absolutely, and if you think only reckless people get herpes you are in serious denial. I was in a monogamous relationship with a man I loved. I got it one year into a three year relationship. I eventually realized he must have cheated on me but it was not in any way apparent during the relationship. Just so you know, one in eight people in the US have genital herpes and 90% do not even know they have it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No judgment but I’m grateful my lack of a sex life has exactly zero effect on the rest of my life. Truly grateful, but I have always been independent so it’s my personality, nothing more. People probably feel sorry for me and they can go right ahead.

I do not make ill-advised decisions based on romantic considerations, and I will not tolerate being around people below my standards just to avoid being “lonely” or to have sex.

I find meaning, happiness, and fulfillment without a relationship or partner.

I also own a great vibrator and use it on the regular, ex husband couldn’t compete with it at all.

Normalizing living this way may help people. As if we need more issues to feel “less-than” about these days! Live your life!

This, for sure. Lack of a sex life has led to a dramatic drop in drama and depression from unmet expectations. I please me. That's enough.

High five!

Also, I believe my independence absolutely stops men from approaching me. I am very attractive and likely “intimidating”.

If they’re afraid of me they can keep walking. Weeds out losers.

Lol. Honey, it's not your independence that's driving them away. They can smell the b**ch from a mile away.

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Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.

Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.

Nope. My "problem" was not recklessness or sex. I've had good relationships and ones that end up problematic. You might want to try not to be so judgmental.

So the herpes was from you being safe?

Absolutely, and if you think only reckless people get herpes you are in serious denial. I was in a monogamous relationship with a man I loved. I got it one year into a three year relationship. I eventually realized he must have cheated on me but it was not in any way apparent during the relationship. Just so you know, one in eight people in the US have genital herpes and 90% do not even know they have it.

I Really wish the moderator would permanently ban people who post fake statistics. This is not even a little true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No judgment but I’m grateful my lack of a sex life has exactly zero effect on the rest of my life. Truly grateful, but I have always been independent so it’s my personality, nothing more. People probably feel sorry for me and they can go right ahead.

I do not make ill-advised decisions based on romantic considerations, and I will not tolerate being around people below my standards just to avoid being “lonely” or to have sex.

I find meaning, happiness, and fulfillment without a relationship or partner.

I also own a great vibrator and use it on the regular, ex husband couldn’t compete with it at all.

Normalizing living this way may help people. As if we need more issues to feel “less-than” about these days! Live your life!

This, for sure. Lack of a sex life has led to a dramatic drop in drama and depression from unmet expectations. I please me. That's enough.

High five!

Also, I believe my independence absolutely stops men from approaching me. I am very attractive and likely “intimidating”.

If they’re afraid of me they can keep walking. Weeds out losers.

Lol. Honey, it's not your independence that's driving them away. They can smell the b**ch from a mile away.

So……keep walking. I’m not interested!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having the one person that you’re only supposed to have sex with not want to have sex with you hurts, it just does not matter the reason.

I agree. It’s basically impossible for me to feel attractive.

Yes, same.
I’ve developed an incredible inner sex life and I’m insatiable!

But irl I feel like I’m living half a life. I know it sounds childish and people can easily live without sex but I find I miss everything that used to surround it; flirting, seducing, dressing up and the anticipation were just as if not more precious to me than the actual act.

Yes, this exactly.

I ended up having an affair and don't regret it.

[Anonymous]

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Gives me more time to do my crafts.

Heh, if I said “gives me more time to read, build models, and play board games” (all true) the DCUM women would say “look at the incel, lol”…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No judgment but I’m grateful my lack of a sex life has exactly zero effect on the rest of my life. Truly grateful, but I have always been independent so it’s my personality, nothing more. People probably feel sorry for me and they can go right ahead.

I do not make ill-advised decisions based on romantic considerations, and I will not tolerate being around people below my standards just to avoid being “lonely” or to have sex.

I find meaning, happiness, and fulfillment without a relationship or partner.

I also own a great vibrator and use it on the regular, ex husband couldn’t compete with it at all.

Normalizing living this way may help people. As if we need more issues to feel “less-than” about these days! Live your life!

This, for sure. Lack of a sex life has led to a dramatic drop in drama and depression from unmet expectations. I please me. That's enough.

High five!

Also, I believe my independence absolutely stops men from approaching me. I am very attractive and likely “intimidating”.

If they’re afraid of me they can keep walking. Weeds out losers.

Lol. Honey, it's not your independence that's driving them away. They can smell the b**ch from a mile away.

So……keep walking. I’m not interested!

Interested enough to keep hitting that refresh button to see my latest post though, huh?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.

Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.

Nope. My "problem" was not recklessness or sex. I've had good relationships and ones that end up problematic. You might want to try not to be so judgmental.

So the herpes was from you being safe?

Absolutely, and if you think only reckless people get herpes you are in serious denial. I was in a monogamous relationship with a man I loved. I got it one year into a three year relationship. I eventually realized he must have cheated on me but it was not in any way apparent during the relationship. Just so you know, one in eight people in the US have genital herpes and 90% do not even know they have it.

I Really wish the moderator would permanently ban people who post fake statistics. This is not even a little true.

https://www.ashasexualhealth.org/herpes/#:~:text=It%20is%20estimated%20that%20one,or%20no%20symptoms%20at%20all.

[Anonymous]

It’s made me very unhappy. The mismatch is sex drives is difficult. I feel trapped with children and a large mortgage. I feel unattractive.

There were red flags when dating but I ignored them. It’s just as much my fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No judgment but I’m grateful my lack of a sex life has exactly zero effect on the rest of my life. Truly grateful, but I have always been independent so it’s my personality, nothing more. People probably feel sorry for me and they can go right ahead.

I do not make ill-advised decisions based on romantic considerations, and I will not tolerate being around people below my standards just to avoid being “lonely” or to have sex.

I find meaning, happiness, and fulfillment without a relationship or partner.

I also own a great vibrator and use it on the regular, ex husband couldn’t compete with it at all.

Normalizing living this way may help people. As if we need more issues to feel “less-than” about these days! Live your life!

This, for sure. Lack of a sex life has led to a dramatic drop in drama and depression from unmet expectations. I please me. That's enough.

High five!

Also, I believe my independence absolutely stops men from approaching me. I am very attractive and likely “intimidating”.

If they’re afraid of me they can keep walking. Weeds out losers.

Lol. Honey, it's not your independence that's driving them away. They can smell the b**ch from a mile away.

So……keep walking. I’m not interested!

Interested enough to keep hitting that refresh button to see my latest post though, huh?

Keep. Walking.

That’s it gang. This is how. Just say no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.

Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.

Nope. My "problem" was not recklessness or sex. I've had good relationships and ones that end up problematic. You might want to try not to be so judgmental.

So the herpes was from you being safe?

Absolutely, and if you think only reckless people get herpes you are in serious denial. I was in a monogamous relationship with a man I loved. I got it one year into a three year relationship. I eventually realized he must have cheated on me but it was not in any way apparent during the relationship. Just so you know, one in eight people in the US have genital herpes and 90% do not even know they have it.

I Really wish the moderator would permanently ban people who post fake statistics. This is not even a little true.

I really wish the moderator would permanently ban people who want other people permanently banned for posting fake statistics when the statistics were not fake at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.

I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.

Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.

Nope. My "problem" was not recklessness or sex. I've had good relationships and ones that end up problematic. You might want to try not to be so judgmental.

So the herpes was from you being safe?

Absolutely, and if you think only reckless people get herpes you are in serious denial. I was in a monogamous relationship with a man I loved. I got it one year into a three year relationship. I eventually realized he must have cheated on me but it was not in any way apparent during the relationship. Just so you know, one in eight people in the US have genital herpes and 90% do not even know they have it.

I Really wish the moderator would permanently ban people who post fake statistics. This is not even a little true.

https://www.ashasexualhealth.org/herpes/#:~:text=It%20is%20estimated%20that%20one,or%20no%20symptoms%20at%20all.

This numbers are including HSV-1 which is the type of herpes that usually causes cold sores but can also cause genital herpes-but one in 8 people DO NOT have HSV-2. Those “facts” are extremely misleading. Yes a lot of people have HSV-1 and don’t even know it. If 1 in 8 people had HSV-2 everybody would be terrified of sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

DP, but the PP has a point that there are people who do require regular sex to be mentally/emotionally/physically healthy. For them, sex is a need.

NP, I might put it this way: exercise is not really a need per se but we are all
aware that the human body and mental health are better with exercise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.

Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?

DP, but the PP has a point that there are people who do require regular sex to be mentally/emotionally/physically healthy. For them, sex is a need.

NP, I might put it this way: exercise is not really a need per se but we are all
aware that the human body and mental health are better with exercise.

Exercise doesnt bring mommy wounds and sti’s. Pleasing yourself brings the physiological release. And after many years, some people just prefer the company of friends (which is the most sustaining kind of love anyway, as studies are finding).