Sent daughter to school with cramps

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a way to fully stop my period? I don't even want it.

Yes. I haven’t had a period in 10 years. I’m on the pill and just skip the placebo week and go straight to the next row of hormonal pills.

Is that ok to do? God I am freaking jealous I am not on BC though. No symptoms cramps nothing in 10 years seriously??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life needs to not stop just because we have our period. You did the right thing.

How lovely you feel the need to speak for all women and girls?

I had a friend in HS whose cramps were so bad she would pass out from them? So, yeah, she stayed home sometimes until she got it under control with her doctor.

Maybe you should just stfu.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I missed school a lot of cramps. A lot. I ended up doing well academically - I’m a doctor now so it didn’t impact me that way but I’m so mad my mom didn’t put me on birth control or help to control these issues earlier. As a young professional, I’d miss work due to how severe they were. In the end a wonderful NP worked with me to get an IUD and it changed my life.

You’re a doctor, you didn’t figure out a solution until you were a “young professional” yourself, and yet you’re mad at your mom?!

Grow up.

I agree grow up you are very immature.

These are immature responses. It is very common for sexed females to be overlooked medically and not find EASY solutions because many doctors are not trained to consider half of the population!
Also, it is very normal to look back on your own childhood once you become a parent and revision your thinking or hold some anger about how your parents managed parenting. It is only a problem when it gets to blocking your own ability to thrive. Forgiving parents is hard work.

Hang in there OP. We are a new gen of parents. It is ok to feel your feelings!

I disagree with the bolded (unless I am misunderstanding your point). I think that wanting to parent differently than your own parents is normal, but feeling anger toward them for situations in which they were probably doing the best they could with the information they had (and remember, your parents weren’t walking around with all the knowledge of mankind in their back pockets the way we do) is a sign of incredible immaturity and unwillingness to actually grow up and take responsibility for your own life.

My parents weren’t perfect but being a parent myself has made me look at situations that made me angry as a teen or a kid and feel far more empathy for them (you know, because now I understand that parenting is really hard!). They loved me and they tried their best, so there is no need for me to “forgive” them for not being perfect and not knowing the right thing to do in every circumstance. It seems like many younger adults are doing the reverse, and retroactively holding their parents to unreasonable standards.

[Anonymous]

If DD told me she had cramps I'd give her meds and keep her home. Last time she passed out from the pain, and I don't want that to happen while she's at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life needs to not stop just because we have our period. You did the right thing.

How lovely you feel the need to speak for all women and girls?

I had a friend in HS whose cramps were so bad she would pass out from them? So, yeah, she stayed home sometimes until she got it under control with her doctor.

Maybe you should just stfu.

+1

My period cramps are nothing now, but when I was a teenager I sometimes just held my stomach in the bathroom and cried. One of my extremely successful law school classmates failed her final because her cramps got so bad and she just had to walk out after twenty minutes of typing nonsense.

I always send my kids to school if they are allowed to go based on school policy, but I encourage them to just hang out in the nurse's office if they feel bad enough to not go to class. We should have some compassion.

[Anonymous]

Gotta love how everyone is projecting all sorts of crazy situations here when OP’s DD is likely fine with the ibuprofen she took this morning and just going about her day. FFS people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Letting her stay home would have been fine, and sending her with the understanding that she can get picked up if needed is also fine! Neither choice is bad. She’ll be fine.

OP here. I feel bad because she asked to stay home (and she's never asked), but I think you're right. I never got to stay home either that I can remember. It's been a long time!

I would absolutely have let either of my teen daughters stay home if she asked. They don't ask to get out of anything due to their cramps and they usually have very bad cramps (as did I). We are all using the same word - cramps - but the reality is that the intensity is not the same for all of us.

To the physician above, how early do you think someone should go on birth control for cramps?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a way to fully stop my period? I don't even want it.

Yes. I haven’t had a period in 10 years. I’m on the pill and just skip the placebo week and go straight to the next row of hormonal pills.

Is that ok to do? God I am freaking jealous I am not on BC though. No symptoms cramps nothing in 10 years seriously??

Yes, it's fine. Talk to your gynecologist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a way to fully stop my period? I don't even want it.

Yes. I haven’t had a period in 10 years. I’m on the pill and just skip the placebo week and go straight to the next row of hormonal pills.

Is there a way without taking pills?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Could you imagine if women took off every time they had cramps.

Nope!

Can you imagine if women stayed home when they determined it was necessary?

Why do you think that women's bodies are their concern? Husbands and bosses and the government will decide when the body is useful or not. Women's brains are ovetaxed in the best of times; obviously they aren't able to make good decisions when they are cramping. The men will send her home if she's worthless

You must be a man!!

I assumed it was a joke.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a way to fully stop my period? I don't even want it.

Yes. I haven’t had a period in 10 years. I’m on the pill and just skip the placebo week and go straight to the next row of hormonal pills.

Is there a way without taking pills?

Hysterectomy would do it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Letting her stay home would have been fine, and sending her with the understanding that she can get picked up if needed is also fine! Neither choice is bad. She’ll be fine.

OP here. I feel bad because she asked to stay home (and she's never asked), but I think you're right. I never got to stay home either that I can remember. It's been a long time!

So if she’s never asked and she’s the type of kid who wants to go to school, then I would have cut her a break.

If she’s the type of kid who looks for reasons to stay home, I would have done exactly what you did.

My kids have cramps and it’s never a reason to stay home. However, the severity of cramps and other symptoms need to be take into consideration.

It’s a case by case basis and sometimes it is nice to stay home when not well. You can cut her a break another time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a way to fully stop my period? I don't even want it.

Yes. I haven’t had a period in 10 years. I’m on the pill and just skip the placebo week and go straight to the next row of hormonal pills.

Is there a way without taking pills?

Hysterectomy would definitely do it.

[Anonymous]

I was very sympathetic with my daughter and her cramping until she got caught in a lie. I found out it was just a way for her to stay home.

[Anonymous]

I think that if this was the first instance of her complaining of cramps, your response was completely appropriate. If it continues and gets worse I would take her to the doctors. Both of my girls had cramps so bad they had to miss school most months, even during virtual learning. The pill has been a tremendous help. My eldest doesn't take the placebo pills and hasn't had a period in like 3 years.