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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I missed school a lot of cramps. A lot. I ended up doing well academically - I’m a doctor now so it didn’t impact me that way but I’m so mad my mom didn’t put me on birth control or help to control these issues earlier. As a young professional, I’d miss work due to how severe they were. In the end a wonderful NP worked with me to get an IUD and it changed my life. [/quote]

You’re a doctor, you didn’t figure out a solution until you were a “young professional” yourself, and yet you’re mad at your mom?!

Grow up.[/quote]

I agree grow up you are very immature. [/quote]

These are immature responses. It is very common for sexed females to be overlooked medically and not find EASY solutions because many doctors are not trained to consider half of the population! 
Also, it is very normal to look back on your own childhood once you become a parent and revision your thinking or hold some anger about how your parents managed parenting. [b]It is only a problem when it gets to blocking your own ability to thrive. [/b]Forgiving parents is hard work.

Hang in there OP. We are a new gen of parents. It is ok to feel your feelings! [/quote]

I disagree with the bolded (unless I am misunderstanding your point).  I think that wanting to parent differently than your own parents is normal, but feeling anger toward them for situations in which they were probably doing the best they could with the information they had (and remember, your parents weren’t walking around with all the knowledge of mankind in their back pockets the way we do) is a sign of incredible immaturity and unwillingness to actually grow up and take responsibility for your own life.

My parents weren’t perfect but being a parent myself has made me look at situations that made me angry as a teen or a kid and feel far more empathy for them (you know, because now I understand that parenting is really hard!).  They loved me and they tried their best, so there is no need for me to “forgive” them for not being perfect and not knowing the right thing to do in every circumstance.  It seems like many younger adults are doing the reverse, and retroactively holding their parents to unreasonable standards.[/quote]

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