Sent daughter to school with cramps

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I missed school a lot of cramps. A lot. I ended up doing well academically - I’m a doctor now so it didn’t impact me that way but I’m so mad my mom didn’t put me on birth control or help to control these issues earlier. As a young professional, I’d miss work due to how severe they were. In the end a wonderful NP worked with me to get an IUD and it changed my life.

You’re a doctor, you didn’t figure out a solution until you were a “young professional” yourself, and yet you’re mad at your mom?!

Grow up.

I agree grow up you are very immature.

[Anonymous]

If the pain is severe enough to impact daily functioning, it's time to make a gyn appointment for birth control options that can reduce the symptoms..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- thanks for the advice! I think in the future I'll let her determine for herself. I do think it's important for kids to have some autonomy!

This was the first time she's had cramps that needed medicine, but she is OK now she said. I told her I would pick her up if they started getting awful again.

Good update and a solid plan, op.

[Anonymous]

I found out my daughter was having unprotected sex at 16. BC was mandatory that was the rule after that. she got her IUD inserted and she no longer gets a period at all. So no cramps or worries!!!

[Anonymous]

Menstrual Leave

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/menstrual-leave#:~:text=Menstrual%20leave%20enables%20a%20person,20%25%20of%20people%20who%20menstruate.

[Anonymous]

My kid misses a day of school for cramps at least every other cycle. Hers are so bad they often induce vomiting and we have worked with a specialist. Unfortunately, BC didn’t help enough to offset the side effects, so now we manage things as best we can with pain and anti nausea meds, and DD takes a day to rest as needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could you imagine if women took off every time they had cramps.

Nope!

Can you imagine if women stayed home when they determined it was necessary?

Why do you think that women's bodies are their concern? Husbands and bosses and the government will decide when the body is useful or not. Women's brains are ovetaxed in the best of times; obviously they aren't able to make good decisions when they are cramping. The men will send her home if she's worthless

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I missed school a lot of cramps. A lot. I ended up doing well academically - I’m a doctor now so it didn’t impact me that way but I’m so mad my mom didn’t put me on birth control or help to control these issues earlier. As a young professional, I’d miss work due to how severe they were. In the end a wonderful NP worked with me to get an IUD and it changed my life.

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+1. I probably missed at least two days of school per month. We would get a letter each year about how I would be “failed” because I missed too much school. My mom would call the school and say “she has straight As” and they kept promoting me. Looking back, I am appalled at my parent’s ignoring this. I probably took 10-20 extra strength Tylenol a day. I’m lucky my liver didn’t conk out. So, I think it is fine you sent her today — but keep an eye on this.

+1 My poor liver, its had to deal with a stupid teen who could not numb her cramps and later some pretty destructive prescription medicine. My kids learned very early how dangerous Tylenol can be because I warn them about all my stupid mistakes. I'm glad nothing worse happened back then.

[Anonymous]

I skipped school as a teen as my cramps were horrific. If I had girls I would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could you imagine if women took off every time they had cramps.

Nope!

Can you imagine if women stayed home when they determined it was necessary?

Why do you think that women's bodies are their concern? Husbands and bosses and the government will decide when the body is useful or not. Women's brains are ovetaxed in the best of times; obviously they aren't able to make good decisions when they are cramping. The men will send her home if she's worthless

You must be a man!!

[Anonymous]

I do not let my daughter stay home for cramps. I do encourage her to manage it. Ibuprofen works best if you get ahead of the pain and not chase it. Naproxen Sodium works really quickly if you miss the ibuprofen window. I feel bad for her but she never calls me to pick her up - and she’s one to text me throughout the day so I’d know if she wasn’t feeling well enough to stay.

[Anonymous]

What age did puberty start? My daughter is almost 16 no periods very little puberty. Her pediatrician said give it a little more time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op can she take 500mg Naproxen?

Naproxen is terrible for your stomach lining and kidneys. I’d put my daughter on bcp over high dose naproxen (or ibuprofen for that matter) every month

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are over-thinking this. She wanted to go to school, took some meds (I probably would have sent her with another dose), and will call is she needs to be picked up. What’s the problem?

She is learning to navigate this in a heathy way

Adding: To answer your question, yes I would let her miss school for cramps, if she felt strongly she couldn’t cope. But if this was happening with each month, I’d take her to the doctor and get her on BCP. There is no reason to suffer and there are plenty of other treatments if OTC meds aren’t effective

This. Take her to the doctor.

[Anonymous]

OP, you did exactly what I do with my 16 yo DD. "Here's some Motrin (or Aleve), it should kick in soon, but if you're still feeling bad after an hour or so, go to the nurse's office."

90% of the time once she's preoccupied with friends, class, etc. she's fine.