Would it be weird to ask future boss to grab coffee before start date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's probably better to find out now, whether you work for a psycho who would think less of you for sending a friendly invite to meet up. Working for that person would be hell, always walking on eggshells in fear of what trivial things would set them off.

This is a good point. Think of it as a reverse interview if you feel like you have options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess it comes down to whether you are going to work at a place where people use the term "subordinate". I never have and never will.

Ha, exactly.

I’m more of a “team” kinda person. I would welcome the coffee. But I’m me.

[Anonymous]

I have major social anxiety and wouldn't be brave enough to do this myself, but I don't see anything wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

As the boss, they should say, "no."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the boss, they should say, "no."

Why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My bosses would be 100% fine with this!

I do think you should wait until you start, but otherwise, grabbing coffee with workmates or using it as networking is totally normal. I feel like there are a lot of people on here without real jobs?

You contradict yourself. First you say your boss would be fine with it but then recommend op to wait.

I don't think that's much of a contradiction. I think it's fine to reach out to your boss to go for a coffee. I also think that because OP doesnt start for quite a while, that it would be better to wait until s/he's actually started (or is close to).

My bosses do love this though. They think it shows initiative blah blah.

So you did contradict yourself.

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Do you have anything to add to this conversation?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess it comes down to whether you are going to work at a place where people use the term "subordinate". I never have and never will.

Ha, exactly.

I’m more of a “team” kinda person. I would welcome the coffee. But I’m me.

Same. If I heard one of me peers shunned someone for this I'd be shocked.

[Anonymous]

I would have done this and not thought twice or that there could be any negative side. Wow! I guess I’m out of sync with a lot of posters here. Thank goodness they don’t work at my company; we do this all the time. Totally normal.

[Anonymous]

This is totally appropriate and not weird at all. Not sure where the other people on here work but I’ve worked in a few different industries and this would be totally normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is totally appropriate and not weird at all. Not sure where the other people on here work but I’ve worked in a few different industries and this would be totally normal.

I agree. I wouldn't be offended as the boss and most all of the bosses I've ever had would have welcomed the opportunity. But it really does depend on culture and personalities.

[Anonymous]

It's not a coffee date. It's networking.

How have people never grabbed coffee with industry people before?

Such a bizarre take that it's now asking your boss on a date to suggest this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, do not ask your boss for a coffee date. She should ask and you need to read the room. There has been no meeting in person asked by her and other employees don’t meet either.

You people are nuts. I really question whether you have any pre-2020 work experience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's not a coffee date. It's networking.

How have people never grabbed coffee with industry people before?

Such a bizarre take that it's now asking your boss on a date to suggest this.

She has the job. Whatever you want to call it. Doesn’t change the fact that she should not ask her boss.

That's not a fact. That's an opinion and best and one that many of us who are experienced professionals disagree with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, do not ask your boss for a coffee date. She should ask and you need to read the room. There has been no meeting in person asked by her and other employees don’t meet either.

You people are nuts. I really question whether you have any pre-2020 work experience.

Seriously. The "no" posters scream social anxiety, and will be wondering why they've never advanced enough to afford a SFH.

[Anonymous]

I would not ask my boss for a coffee before the start date. I would wait until the start date. Then depending on how virtual business meetings go with her, then if comfortable enough I might ask her.

It is not professional (and a bit risky) to ask to go for a coffee before the start date.