Would it be weird to ask future boss to grab coffee before start date?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a man. I've done this. And further, I've met my future subordinates for coffee prior to landing so I could hit the ground running. In both cases - upward and downward - the meetings paid dividends.

It's baffling to me all of the people pushing back on this.

+1. As someone who's done a lot of hiring, I think it's good and shows initiative. If the boss doesn't want to do it, they say no.

I think COVID permanently damaged people. We have an entire generation of agoraphobics who can only interact with the world electronically.

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Anonymous wrote:No, do not ask your boss for a coffee date. She should ask and you need to read the room. There has been no meeting in person asked by her and other employees don’t meet either.

You people are nuts. I really question whether you have any pre-2020 work experience.

Seriously. The "no" posters scream social anxiety, and will be wondering why they've never advanced enough to afford a SFH.

I have social anxiety. I started my job in my early 20s, had an entry level position, and was making low 20's. Thirty years later I make a six-figure salary, I'm a director and I have 4 direct reports. I'm a single mom of two who owns her own home in DC. Social anxiety does not mean you are a failure in life.

Agree. But it also doesn't mean that you need to project your own issues on other people.

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Anonymous wrote:I would think you have too much time on your hands, OP.

This. 100% this.

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I'm having coffee with my boss tomorrow, so I would not think this was weird at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a man. I've done this. And further, I've met my future subordinates for coffee prior to landing so I could hit the ground running. In both cases - upward and downward - the meetings paid dividends.

It's baffling to me all of the people pushing back on this.

+1. As someone who's done a lot of hiring, I think it's good and shows initiative. If the boss doesn't want to do it, they say no.

I think COVID permanently damaged people. We have an entire generation of agoraphobics who can only interact with the world electronically.

You can't blame Covid for that. The internet, texting, smartphones, social media and Zoom made it possible.

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Anonymous wrote:No, do not ask your boss for a coffee date. She should ask and you need to read the room. There has been no meeting in person asked by her and other employees don’t meet either.

You people are nuts. I really question whether you have any pre-2020 work experience.

Seriously. The "no" posters scream social anxiety, and will be wondering why they've never advanced enough to afford a SFH.

I have social anxiety. I started my job in my early 20s, had an entry level position, and was making low 20's. Thirty years later I make a six-figure salary, I'm a director and I have 4 direct reports. I'm a single mom of two who owns her own home in DC. Social anxiety does not mean you are a failure in life.

Agree. But it also doesn't mean that you need to project your own issues on other people.

This. No one is slagging social anxiety, but the rest of the world does not have to adopt your habits as standard.

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Can people who dont work stop giving career advice? Coffee with a boss is totally normal.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, I would actually like this! It shows initiative and interest. I would love to hear that someone reached out to their new boss at my firm!

- CEO of a small consulting firm

The higher ranking person should do the reaching out.

This.

Disagree. This is presumably on the hew hire’s free time. I would be nervous as the manager that new hire would think I’m too intense to set up meeting before the start date. I would be very happy to meet with someone before they start. I think it’s a great idea to reach out.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, I would actually like this! It shows initiative and interest. I would love to hear that someone reached out to their new boss at my firm!

- CEO of a small consulting firm

The higher ranking person should do the reaching out.

This.

Disagree. This is presumably on the hew hire’s free time. I would be nervous as the manager that new hire would think I’m too intense to set up meeting before the start date. I would be very happy to meet with someone before they start. I think it’s a great idea to reach out.

My DS is waiting for security clearance and will start his job in about two months. In the mean time, he is hanging out with his future boss and coworkers twice a week, happy hours.... Nothing wrong with that.